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Privateer said:
Privacy, My kids can no longer get changed in the living room in case Andy walks in
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But they could have with her previous boyfriends?


Besides what 10 year old gets changed in the living room?:confused:


Would it also be ok, if you'd had got a live in GF?
 
memory said:
have you ever been in a relationship ~?
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yep a few. I'm spectacularly bad at them.

Don't bother much now, if it happens great if not meh probbably better for both of us.


Yet his past relationship, has no bearing on how Andy affects his kids.

Or his very one sided approach to him and his ex moving on.
 
personally i think the guy deserves some slack...watching some guy move into what was his family home cant be easy.
yeah he needs to get past it but in his eyes his girls will always be the same little kids getting changed in living rooms and such, having a guy move in will affect their privacy at least a bit. its not the same having a woman moving in as the girls could get changed infront of another woman it would be normal.
but as they are getting older a guy moves in...even though he doesnt think bad of the guy he does have a right to feel uncomfortable about it.
 
memory said:
he does have a right to feel uncomfortable about it.
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No he really doesn't.

It's been 6 years since she left him. She seemingly has gotten the kids. he's got no right to interfere unless he knows/believes there is a risk to the children.
 
memory said:
personally i think the guy deserves some slack...watching some guy move into what was his family home cant be easy.
yeah he needs to get past it but in his eyes his girls will always be the same little kids getting changed in living rooms and such, having a guy move in will affect their privacy at least a bit. its not the same having a woman moving in as the girls could get changed infront of another woman it would be normal.
but as they are getting older a guy moves in...even though he doesnt think bad of the guy he does have a right to feel uncomfortable about it.
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my point exactly, thanks mate.
 
You divorced six years ago, you've no right to stop her seeing anyone, provided that your kids aren't being harmed.
 
Its understandable that you`re a little upset that a friend of yours has shacked up with your ex and kids but you will just have to learn to live with it, getting angry wont do any good
 
I am very thankful to say that I am nowhere near that position, and therefore my thoughts don't come from any related experience...

Personally trying to put myself in that position, knowing the friends I have I would be pleased if it was a friend that moved in. The people that are my friends, are precisely that because I know them and trust them, far better to have something that you feel that way towards rather than a stranger moving in which would certainly cause some consternation.

I agree with a previous poster, the OP seems to be acting very alpha about all this and hasn't given any deeper reason than the kids can't get changed while watching TV in the living room...hardly a major concern.

Do you have other reasons to be worried OP or is it simply that you don't feel comfortable about it and can't put a finger on why?
 
TheBigCheese said:
I am very thankful to say that I am nowhere near that position, and therefore my thoughts don't come from any related experience...

Personally trying to put myself in that position, knowing the friends I have I would be pleased if it was a friend that moved in. The people that are my friends, are precisely that because I know them and trust them, far better to have something that you feel that way towards rather than a stranger moving in which would certainly cause some consternation.

I agree with a previous poster, the OP seems to be acting very alpha about all this and hasn't given any deeper reason than the kids can't get changed while watching TV in the living room...hardly a major concern.

Do you have other reasons to be worried OP or is it simply that you don't feel comfortable about it and can't put a finger on why?
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He has a 3 bed house, hes going to rent out, his ex lodger was a son of a mate of mine, from a female friend.
Re: andy

"Hi Dave, yes Danny moved out on Saturday - Andy is nothing but a selfish. He just falls in love with anyone that shows him any interest - Jess is a sad xxxx xxxx"
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Privateer said:
Privacy, My kids can no longer get changed in the living room in case Andy walks in
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Oh for ****'s sake, just grow up and grow some balls. It's obvious you're just annoyed and jealous that your friend has moved in with your ex-wife, and you are using your children as an excuse for your frustrations.

You disgust me. Grow a pair. I really doubt your kids get changed in the living room at ages 11 btw
 
KNiVES said:
Oh for ****'s sake, just grow up and grow some balls. It's obvious you're just annoyed and jealous that your friend has moved in with your ex-wife, and you are using your children as an excuse for your frustrations.

You disgust me. Grow a pair. I really doubt your kids get changed in the living room at ages 11 btw
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ok
 
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