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You sound like a classic jealous ex and after 6 years I think it’s time you move on.

Unless you have an actual reason to fear for your children’s safety with this man, I think you are massively over reacting about the whole privacy/getting changed thing.

To be honest why would any normal man want to watch an 11 year old get changed?
 
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Going by this thread, I'm hardly suprised she is now your ex. From the level of maturity you are showing here, it's actually impressive that you stayed together long enough to have children, never mind 2 of them!!
 
Privateer -

I'll tell you where you went wrong in this thread.
If you came on just showing concern about another man moving into a house with your children, a lot of us would have been empathic towards you.
You however started talking about violence which never goes down well on here.
 
Knock him sparco dude.

No real friend puts himself in a position to end with his mates gf/wife/ex etc etc. It just dosnt happen, stuff what your mates say, would they do the same?
 
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id be happy if one of my friends got i with my x who is the mother of my kids it would mean a day out with the kids could have there mum and dad there without it been uncumftable that would be great imo

there is a lot of good points about this the fact he isnt a thug like you and wont touch your kids or your x infront of them
 
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Violent tendancies? If he was told to specifically 'behave', it gives a few ideas to as what he is like normally.
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but he didnt do anything violent, lots of people have thoughts of violence but dont follow them through,his friends kept him in check which is what friends should do
infact just look at some of the replies that get posted on ocuk quite often when something terrible has happened, people bleating on how they want someone dead,etc etc

the bottom line is he got jealous, upset and angry and wanted to vent it by beating up his mate - a reaction that happens to lots of people as its human nature, who are we to judge him by his thoughts and not his actions?
 
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Violent tendancies? If he was told to specifically 'behave', it gives a few ideas to as what he is like normally.
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Quite possibly, but we dont know him so who are we to make any assumptions on him.

Ive been told before to "behave", but thats because i was i wanted to knock out someone who killed my friend once id found out he was back in the village, im not violent, i play rugby and im a proper lad but i dont go out looking for it, infact i dont even like violence.

But its all down to the situation at hand and how you react once you hear the news. When i found out about this i wasnt even listening, but i caught a bit of the convo and listened to the rest and then when i reacted by saying something liek "are you ******* kidding me" my friends were like "behave Devaney its not worth it".

im not violent but my reaction forced them to say that.

JBuk said:
the bottom line is he got jealous, upset and angry and wanted to vent it by beating up his mate - a reaction that happens to lots of people as its human nature, who are we to judge him by his thoughts and not his actions?
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I could only imagine how id reeact if i had kids wth someone, split from her, and found out that one of my friends was with her, id be pretty ****** off to say the least.
 
You can't control other people but you can control yourself. It's always hard when things that mean something to you get screwed with. But life is hard and full of change. Suck it up and take it like a man. ;)
 
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Quite possibly, but we dont know him so who are we to make any assumptions on him.

Ive been told before to "behave", but thats because i was i wanted to knock out someone who killed my friend once id found out he was back in the village, im not violent, i play rugby and im a proper lad but i dont go out looking for it, infact i dont even like violence.

But its all down to the situation at hand and how you react once you hear the news. When i found out about this i wasnt even listening, but i caught a bit of the convo and listened to the rest and then when i reacted by saying something liek "are you ******* kidding me" my friends were like "behave Devaney its not worth it".

im not violent but my reaction forced them to say that.
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You are honestly equating killing a friend with dating your ex? That's more than slightly disturbing.
 
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You are honestly equating killing a friend with dating your ex? That's more than slightly disturbing.
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More lke im using it as a way of showing violence can be caused by many different means and by that means comes a reaction to which can only be controlled by yourself! Weather you are violent or not.

And it wasnt murder it was manslaughter so its not as bad as it actually did look.

If that makes any sense at all it may be the smartest thing ive ever written :D
 
You would come across as a much better person to everyone involved and lookin on, if you just accepted it and took a nice relaxed approach.

look after your daughters as you normally would, and let the ex wife get on with it.
 
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