Parenting: Am I being too old fashioned/strict?

Sheff said:
Thanks, I hadn't really thought about bedtime routines, again that's going to be another difficult one due to shifts but definitely something we'll have to talk about.
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were lucky in that department my wife is an nurse and works every shift morning/evening/night week days and weekends. not all at once though lol

whereas i work 7am - 3.30pm weekdays and no weekends so we can keep up with routines
 
Indeedy, sounds decent.

I was bought up with a family meal at least once a day.
Sweets very rarely, only as treats.
 
We started with no tv then tv crept in because our son would not eat dinner unless we kept the TV running. But in the end it got too much now we are stricter and TV goes off before dinner and doesn't come on again until after we are finished even if he decides not to eat.

Also when TV is on it's zombie mode you don't get a word out of him.

I miss the days when there were 3 channels and kids TV was limited to 3 hours sat morning and 2 hours weekdays.

My parents had it easy.


For pocket money he's only 4 so that hasn't started being an issue yet but he does have to do some small chores like lego away etc.
 
Sounds reasonable. If I ever have kids they won't be allowed to watch TV until they hit puberty (unless there's something on that I think would be good for them).
 
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It will be a great experience for all concerned!

Bravo for you and your partner (when she eventually realises that you are right)
 
indyskyz said:
were lucky in that department my wife is an nurse and works every shift morning/evening/night week days and weekends. not all at once though lol

whereas i work 7am - 3.30pm weekdays and no weekends so we can keep up with routines
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My wife and I are opposite to you, she has the set hours and I work the odd ones, so any routines we agree on I guess would mostly be down to her. Hopefully it won't be a case of "quick, eat your chocolate before your dad comes home!". :p

jas72 said:
We started with no tv then tv crept in because our son would not eat dinner unless we kept the TV running. But in the end it got too much now we are stricter and TV goes off before dinner and doesn't come on again until after we are finished even if he decides not to eat.

Also when TV is on it's zombie mode you don't get a word out of him.

I miss the days when there were 3 channels and kids TV was limited to 3 hours sat morning and 2 hours weekdays.

My parents had it easy.


For pocket money he's only 4 so that hasn't started being an issue yet but he does have to do some small chores like lego away etc.
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jp_bl_68 said:
Sounds reasonable. If I ever have kids they won't be allowed to watch TV until they hit puberty (unless there's something on that I think would be good for them).
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Again that's something we haven't really discussed much but I think I'd much rather encourage interests or activities rather than television, and we disagree on when/if they should be allowed tvs in their room.
 
if those 2 things were done by everyone, the world would be a better place :p

having dinner in front of the TV is one thing if you're a student or you live on your own, but doing it as a family is just sad :(
 
Anyone saying you are being a mean oold miser is just defending their own weakness.

Are they trying to suggest that it's for your own benefit you don't take the easy option and let the kids watch TV with their dinner in an armchair? It's certainly easier to throw sweets at kids when they stamp their feet, it's not as if it's a significant cost.

You're doing it the right way and the hard way.
 
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