Pretty ****** Off!!

I've read the first two pages and cba to read any more to be honest.

My opinion.

Deal with it. I would be ****** off if I was her dad, just because I would be protective of my daughter. I'd give you a hard time, and if you stuck around long enough then maybe I'd give you a chance. Maybe I wouldn't, It would depend on your resolve and reaction during the harsh times.

What your experiencing is a part of life. You're going to meet a whole lot more people through your lifetime that will give you a hard time, or not really like you for whatever reason. Maybe they won't like what you're doing or whatever but man just suck it up and have some more belief in yourself.

If the girl means a lot to you and you're happy together then just suck it up and get used to it. People are going to be protective of people that mean a lot to them. You'd be the same.

Now you sound happy, and obviously to be happy with her you've got to deal with the crap from her step dad or whatever, but she's worth it right?

My closing advice would be, close the thread and stop posting on the internet about your relationship and just go on what YOU feel. Life is what you make of it, that means your choices. If ever I had problems in a relationship or with a parent or even a mate / brother / sister of a girlfriend I'd always know myself weather they were worth hanging on to.

I'm sure that's a little off topic, but damn these threads annoy me.

I'm sure it'll work out, because you'll make your own decision on how to deal with it.
 
Neoni said:
dont drive. we dont go out clubbin' we go walks on a night time, find a bench to relax on, watch tv, go cinemas, cook together, go shopping together.

plus i aint a chav lol.
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Really? Wouldn't have guessed from your signature. :p

Not saying that is exactly you, just saying it's what I see. People are people at the end of the day, own and individual morals and thoughts so not exactly everyone follows a trend or stereotype.

All I can say is, if you're both happy then good luck - no relationship doesn't come with it's stuff to work with so maybe he is the bad bit ;)
 
Stiff_Cookie said:
No I am not kidding and TBH, if it were my daughter I wouldnt let them date. Because she is 16, WTF does she know about love or life? She hasnt lived outside her parents house and is probably still in school. I would also be sceptical of anyone who is dating my sister who isnt even in high school any more. Did you guys meet in high school or at a club.
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+ all other posts saying the same thing.

Sorry but that is absolutely pathetic. Its up to the individual to learn about those things. You can't teach someone how to love or be loved. You have to let people make their own mistakes. At 16 you are a fully consenting adult and it boggles my mind that there are still people out there who get angry when their offspring reach sexual maturity as if it is some great deadly sin. People need to learn about these things themselves, even if that means getting a broken heart along the way.

I know I'd be a fair bit happier knowing that my daughter had a good caring trustworthy boyfriend just 3 years older than her rather than going with a no good chav scum behind my back, who will probably get her into drugs and pregnant within 6 months.

Plus, you never know, their love might actually be genuine. I know many people who have been happily married for 20, 30, even 40+ years after they met in their teens. In fact one woman at work claims shes never been with another man, her husband was her first and only. That speaks volumes. Why is it not possible for that to happen today? Why do people instantly jump to conclusions and preach "its not love" and "you don't know what love is"? In my opinion some people need to take a step back, have a long think and stop marring people with stereotypes.

And to the OP... I understand where your coming from and I suspect we have all been in a similar situation in one way or another, due to the insanely narrow mindedness of what is seemingly the majority of the population. Her step dad is, put simply, out of line. He has no right to say anything to her, he's in no position to tell her what to do. However, it's his house (I presume) so while she is in it then she has to live by his rules. I don't think that means he has the power to tell her she can't go out - especially as her mother doesn't mind - but I guess there is not a lot you can do about it. I know what I'd have done in that situation though, I'd have done it anyway! That's not the thing to do though, do the right thing and just ignore it and move on. It's not the end of the world.

Whatever happens, good luck to you both :)
 
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Did the dogs get fed?

Dont care about the rest... If she was my daughter id protect her too, i know its only 3 years but think of all the things that, i know this is cheesy and BS, booze, night clubs, adult type stuff, she is still a child really. Even if you are legally an adult.
 
dbmzk1 said:
+ all other posts saying the same thing.

Sorry but that is absolutely pathetic. Its up to the individual to learn about those things. You can't teach someone how to love or be loved. You have to let people make their own mistakes. At 16 you are a fully consenting adult and it boggles my mind that there are still people out there who get angry when their offspring reach sexual maturity as if it is some great deadly sin. People need to learn about these things themselves, even if that means getting a broken heart along the way.

I know I'd be a fair bit happier knowing that my daughter had a good caring trustworthy boyfriend just 3 years older than her rather than going with a no good chav scum behind my back, who will probably get her into drugs and pregnant within 6 months.

Plus, you never know, their love might actually be genuine. I know many people who have been happily married for 20, 30, even 40+ years after they met in their teens. In fact one woman at work claims shes never been with another man, her husband was her first and only. That speaks volumes. Why is it not possible for that to happen today? Why do people instantly jump to conclusions and preach "its not love" and "you don't know what love is"? In my opinion some people need to take a step back, have a long think and stop marring people with stereotypes.

And to the OP... I understand where your coming from and I suspect we have all been in a similar situation in one way or another, due to the insanely narrow mindedness of what is seemingly the majority of the population. Her step dad is, put simply, out of line. He has no right to say anything to her, he's in no position to tell her what to do. However, it's his house (I presume) so while she is in it then she has to live by his rules. I don't think that means he has the power to tell her she can't go out - especially as her mother doesn't mind - but I guess there is not a lot you can do about it. I know what I'd have done in that situation though, I'd have done it anyway! That's not the thing to do though, do the right thing and just ignore it and move on. It's not the end of the world.

Whatever happens, good luck to you both :)
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There you go OP! The answer you wanted!
 
My g/f is 17 now and im 21 my family fine with it so are hers just obviousley your g/f perants arnt. To some people age diff is nothing and to others means a lot
 
Mephisto said:
OMFG PAEDO!!11oneone
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LOL I hope you're joking. 16=Legal. Not necessarily mentally mature but if there's grass by the wicket :p (That would way be too young for me though, edging towards 30 and wouldn't touch anything under 19 :) )

I can sort of understand the attitude with not wanting her coming home with tattoos etc though, he wants her to enjoy her youth without making stupid mistakes that she'll regret if possible.
 
I don't see what your trying to accomplish here? Are you actually looking for advice, just venting, or what??

I think you've gotta take a look at yourself, sounds to me like you need to get a little more self confidence, believe in yourself abit more.
 
I dont understand how people can go with people that are that much younger....i had a random 16 year old add me......and got the "do you like me" yeh i like you :confused: "Do you love me?????" yeh i love you.........."do you want to have my babies" :rolleyes: *blocked and deleted*

I cant say nothing,im 18 shes 20.......she thinks shes a perv :o
 
VIRII said:
So what? Does a father have to like it, allow it or facilitate it? His house, his rules. When you a big grown up you don't live with mummy and daddy do you...
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I echo this.

If she lives under their roof, she abides by their rules. Simple as.

Reasonable and unreasonable doesn't come into parental decisions - you may think its unreasonable but he clearly think's he's doing the best for his daughter (or step daughter) so you (and her) should respect that.

Oh and to add context to this, I'm not an old fart who has kids, I'm 21.

EDIT: I'm not saying your love for one another is false or not geniune because I'm sure it is but you should understand that going out with a 16 yr old girl comes with baggage (ie parents) and not get so pent up about it when it comes into play.
 
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My sister was 16 when she started to go out with her 19 year old boyfriend. My dad wasn't too pleased when he found out but my mum just said there isnt much he could do about it because if she really likes the lad she will see him no matter what.
He may be a bit older than her but he is a really nice guy and looks after my sister, pick's he up from college takes her out for food. I guess im trying to say that Neoni is doing nothing wrong by going out with his GF, and the step father sounds a bit of an arse.
 
tbh mate, I think you should just accept the fact he doesnt want you ringing after 10 or he doesnt want his daughter staying at yours for the weekend with an empty house, its understandble imo.

You could try talking to him about the night out though, just tell him you inderstand the first two but you've planned this night out for ages.
 
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