With a corner set aside for queen wasps and a free-standing door for the absolutely necessary letterbox.
Psycho sister and my parents estate
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With a corner set aside for queen wasps and a free-standing door for the absolutely necessary letterbox.
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POA and being shady and secretive = being a ****
Her house may be worth 1.5 mil, wonder how many loans and the like are levied against the property?
I've seen it before people living the good life, nice house new cars, multiple holidays every year
Choking on debt
Bet if she sells the house for 1.5mil she's got very little to show for it
POA and being shady and secretive = being a ****
Her house may be worth 1.5 mil, wonder how many loans and the like are levied against the property?
I've seen it before people living the good life, nice house new cars, multiple holidays every year
Choking on debt
Bet if she sells the house for 1.5mil she's got very little to show for it
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Yep, there a couple I know, friends of a friend, who have a nice big detached house, a couple or three very decent cars, always dressed in designer clobber and whenever they're out they're spending loads. Thing is they own none of it and all the spending is on credit. Neither have decent paying jobs, he's on NMW in a warehouse and she's a receptionist, so I'd hate to see what their debts are like. If you've ever seen the 'Deano' meme then you have them pictured.
Personally, I couldn't live like that.
Hi , yes this is my thought, I just wanted a bit of a sanity check on my theory from random people.
Obviously for many decades she has presented this image as being superior and a bit of a socialite so it's a bit of reversal and very unexpected.
In order to move on I have needed to try and come up with a plausible theory to explain her behaviour and the things my dad said to me and I think this is the closest I'm going to get. Obviously she is never going to come clean and hasn't told any friends or other family.
If I were to approach any of them I'm sure I would be further cast as the bad guy.
So that's all folks thanks for your thoughts.
But you are both executors, and joint beneficiaries, , no? You've got every right to see all the accounts.
That she transfered money to her own accounts rather than setting up a seperate account for the estate, that alone is really dubious, although not technically illegal.
You could threaten her with court to force her hand if she fails to disclose all the information, once you've seen the accounts you can decide whether to drop the matter or not.
Maybe just that threat would make her come clean, as she does not have a leg to stand on for witholding information.
Not technically illegal, threaten with court… what’s to be gained here? OP has an amount they’re happy with. This extra “information” is not worth the hassle.
Not gonna lie, the not knowing would be like an itch for me. Not for the sake of the money, I just can't walk away from a good mystery and this sounds like a cracker.
That said, your attitude sounds entirely healthy and people can go made over money and what they are "owed". Madness.
That said, your attitude sounds entirely healthy and people can go made over money and what they are "owed". Madness.
A fair point and the op seems happy, so that's up to them. The conduct of the other executor certainly suggests some foul play to me though (using thier private accounts, refusing any visibility). If its just a grand or 3 I agree it's not worth the stress, but by the sounds of it, they could be getting ripped off by a significantly higher amount.
Executors have a legal responsibility to administrate the estate correctly.
If there are any other claims against the estate, or debts unpaid, (that may have been ignored) both the OP (even though he took the back seat) and his sister as executors can be held personally liable. That alone is reason enough to demand full transparency from his sister.
Being an executor is a lot of responsibility and not a duty to be taken lightly.
If there are any other claims against the estate, or debts unpaid, (that may have been ignored) both the OP (even though he took the back seat) and his sister as executors can be held personally liable. That alone is reason enough to demand full transparency from his sister.
Being an executor is a lot of responsibility and not a duty to be taken lightly.
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Maybe she didn't want you to spend it on coke and hookers like you usually do. 
Maybe she didn't want you to spend it on coke and hookers like you usually do.
I appreciate you jest, but it sounds like the sister has more questionable judgement, maybe not coke and hookers but maybe she fancied a new Audi or wanted to pay some of her own debts off on the sly...if shes gonna go bankrupt anyway, the OP may aswell extract what he can, whilst he can.
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Family and friends - lawyer up early.
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Money’s like alcohol in that it doesn’t take much to make people show their true colours.
You can choose your friends but not your family. OP was just wanting what was rightfully and legally his. Would you let a sibling away with defrauding you of potentially five figures just because they’re family?
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