Relationships and Gaming

Been with the missus for 10 years and its been pretty much the same tried to get me to watch Emmerdale an EastEnders but I was not having that and she respects me for it I suppose, she has moaned when I have stayed up till gone 4am gaming though!

Mine too bud. Shes OK with gaming as I dont drink or gamble or anything typical "lads" do but its the sitting until 4am she thinks is stupid :)
 
For me she doesn't really mind, when we are together i won't spend every moment playing games, we tend to watch a lot of movies together but if she ever wants to watch crap like geordie shore etc I'll boot up the PC or xbox. I actually built her a computer for her uni work a few months back and as a present for her installed steam and got her a few lego games, shes loving haha.

Pretty much this. I have a PC in living room which is good enough to run Lego games so sometimes she spends all saturday playing Harry Potter or Sims 3 which gives me time to watch football/ play games.
As a bonus she still does the cooking even when she's gaming :D

My ex on other hand complained a lot but I must admit I was much worse at managing my time back then. It's all about finding the balance.
 
How do your wifes/husbands, fiancées, partners, lovers, knock offs react to your gaming needs?

I have been with my wife for about 15 years now, from day one, I told her that gaming/computers were a hobby and that was that.

Sure, she tried to "curb" it in some ways but I stood my ground and that was that.

"Come and sit on the sofa and watch this" - Refering to some **** mind numbing reality show or Peckham Housewives or the like.

"Erm, no. It is **** so why would I do that, I will be sat 5ft away on the computer enjoying myself talking to a load of strangers who are infinitely more interesting than you. Love you though".

Also, there was:

Midnight, 1AM, 2AM: (In a angry voice)
"Will you come to bed, I cannot sleep if your not there"
"**** off, I will come to bed when I want" (maybe not those exact words, must respect the fair lady).

After a while, the message was received and I was left to it.

How can you have such stupid problems after being married to her for 15 years? You should have solved such issues and established barriers during the first 6 months of the relationship. You should also talk with more respect about your partner.

No wonder most women think british guys are a joke.
 
How can you have such stupid problems after being married to her for 15 years? You should have solved such issues and established barriers during the first 6 months of the relationship. You should also talk with more respect about your partner.

No wonder most women think british guys are a joke.

Agreed. If I spoke to my gf like that she would give me a slap.
 
Not a good combination. Wife does not like when I want to spend time playing instead of being with her all of the time. Married for about 11 years. She gives me the bad eye and I always have bad consience about that.

Kid(5year) had no problem with it because he goes to bed around 7 and I never spend solo time playing when kid is awake. Only when he gets to sit with his Ipad then I can sit in the same room and play some games for an hour.

Problem is wife, well not so much anymore since due to other issues not related to gaming have forced me to separate from her if she does not get help for her situation.

So there we are now...filling in divorce papers. I feel actually very good inside because the last years have been a nightmare.

Ooops got a bit away from the subject. But Wife is so dependent on me that she can not enjoy freetime by herself. So having a gaming hobby with a wife that has this condition is not turning out well.

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Pretty much says it all.
 
Mine doesn't mind at all. She's also a gamer so totally gets the attraction.

Saying that, I only play a few times a week these days. She likes it when I play Uncharted and watches the whole thing and help with suggestions for the puzzles and stuff. I usually play for 1-2 hours and that'll be it. In fact, she does encourage me to play more often but don't always feel like it. She plays Witcher 3 and Fallout 4 quite often when I'm on the sofa reading so it does work the other way round as well sometimes.

But before I met her, I've been told point blank by dates, that they'll never date a gamer. One cow even told me that that's so 'far beyond the line it's not even funny'. I ensured she gave me a fun night of rolling around before I showed her my gaming PC and console collection. Strangely, she didn't seem to mind all that much the next day :p
 
She is pretty good about it TBH, then again she spends quite a bit of time playing Tapped Out, CoC, Dominations et al on the iPad.

All about moderation and not letting it take over or a higher priority than your relationship. Certainly no issue if I indulge my odd pastime of building train sim routes on the laptop, while she's watching a cop or zombie show on disc or Netflix/Now TV. Likewise in the evening, I'll normally have 60 - 80 mins on the main PC playing normal games before bedtime while she watches the TV upstairs or reads a book.
 
Shes doesn't mind! She games herself and is deep in ESO atm. When not playing single player stuff we are currently playing Portal 2 together. I really cant complain :D
 
Married 14 years, two kids. I get a bit of time a couple of hours a week at night time when kids in bed. My lad who's 8 is getting into more PC games now and likes to watch me play etc. Otherwise, it's a hour here and there when wife is nightshift or alike.
 
Married 14 years, two kids. I get a bit of time a couple of hours a week at night time when kids in bed. My lad who's 8 is getting into more PC games now and likes to watch me play etc. Otherwise, it's a hour here and there when wife is nightshift or alike.

+1

Had to read that twice and thought I don't remember posting this:D
 
My girlfriend is not a gamer but she really enjoys reading. I still don't think she quite "gets it" but when I explained to her that playing a game is similar to getting into a book that you can't put down, she seemed to understand. Sometimes she'll just ask me if i'm "playing games" and off I go. Other nights she wants me to spend time with her (usually watching TV), which is understandable.

Usually though I have to wait until 10pm-ish to get anywhere near my PC to play games (stuff to do, child to put to bed, etc) Then it's a decision on my part as to how tired I want to be the next day. As opposed to when I was single and could just get in from work and play games whenever. It does kind of kill my motivation to play games sometimes. I really only jump on for a few rounds of CS GO now rather than attempting to sit down and play something more in-depth like Fallout 4 or whatever.
 
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