Saberu's guide to Pulling on the dancefloor

WantoN · 11 Oct 2006 at 18:39

Is it me, or could that whole shabang been summed up in a couple of sentences. Without a single appearance of the word 'kino'

Ant

Saberu · 11 Oct 2006 at 18:43

WantoN said:
Is it me, or could that whole shabang been summed up in a couple of sentences.

Perhaps but I doubt people would realise the principles behind how it works if I summed it up in two sentences.

WantoN · 11 Oct 2006 at 18:57

Saberu said:
Perhaps but I doubt people would realise the principles behind how it works if I summed it up in two sentences.

I'm doing my best not to sound negative, because your intentions behind this were no doubt good. But, how exactly WHAT works? Meeting birds in clubs? I mean, seriously. To all intents in purposes you've literally just written down what happens when you pull, except by throwing in words like kino; I prefer 'touching' but there you are

Quite frankly, a thread telling people to improve there dancing would have been a little more helpful.

Ant :cool:

daz · 11 Oct 2006 at 19:03

WantoN said:
To all intents in purposes you've literally just written down what happens when you pull

I think that's the point... there are guys that haven't got a clue how to pull, and spend their nights out standing at the edge of the dancefloor, drink in one hand checking out the totty wishing they had the confidence to do something.

Saberu · 11 Oct 2006 at 19:43

daz said:
I think that's the point... there are guys that haven't got a clue how to pull, and spend their nights out standing at the edge of the dancefloor, drink in one hand checking out the totty wishing they had the confidence to do something.

Exactly. Or dancing near to the totty without going in for the approach, even worse as the girl knows your deliberately dancing near her and don't have the balls to approach

Daz I think you and a couple of other posters are the only guys that truly understand this. You all win a taffy, everyone else has to walk away in shame

daz · 11 Oct 2006 at 19:53

I'm personally not into sarging and all of that stuff, but since my friend Adam has been doing PR work for The School of Seduction I've been helping them with various things on their website, and basically hanging out with a few of the guys.

What's interesting is that it's not geeks and saddos that are into this (well, there are a few - those are the ones that actually don't get very far...) but the kind of guys that are actually doing it are mainly young professional types - investment bankers, IT workers...

Something that was quite interesting was that two weeks before I was helping these guys out with their website, I had actually read a book by Danny Wallace called "The Yes Man". It's a sort of parody of "The Dice Man". It's an incredibly funny story, and basically the idea is that you start saying "Yes" more... "Yes" to going for a few beers. "Yes" to going to a film you don't like... "Yes" to going to a Japanese restaurant, even if you don't fancy Japanese food... just being more positive socially. It's not a bad mindset.

Christo · 11 Oct 2006 at 20:05

Woah, what is going on!? How do all these people on here know people in this so called 'seduction community'!? Its like a bloody cult!

edit - Just thought, ah ok well this IS a computer forum after all.

Rich_L · 11 Oct 2006 at 20:07

Hehe this be me 'kinoing' in El Mexico

Note the quality hawaiian and filtheh wife-beater combo

*edit*
Haha how unimpressed does the one behind me look! LOL!

I had actually read a book by Danny Wallace called "The Yes Man". It's a sort of parody of "The Dice Man". It's an incredibly funny story, and basically the idea is that you start saying "Yes" more... "Yes" to going for a few beers. "Yes" to going to a film you don't like... "Yes" to going to a Japanese restaurant, even if you don't fancy Japanese food... just being more positive socially. It's not a bad mindset.

Absolutely, it's one of the best books I've read and played a part in me becoming awesome (lol), read it at a pretty crappy time and made me think, "Hell that's a good point, why waste time moping around, get out there and do life to the max". Great book

agw_01 · 11 Oct 2006 at 20:42

Saberu said:
4) DO approach a girl who is dancing with her friend (especially if it's seductive dancing/kinoing with her female friend). I used to think this was a big no no but now I've been informed you should definitely go for it.

Tried it... got a rather repulsive look (WTF, I'm not THAT ugly am I?) as one of them pushed me away. Danced next to the other one who turned her back to me waving her hands in the air so I put my hands on her hips and started dancing with her. She turned around and shook her head while moving away from me...

So I did a cool little dance as I wandered back to my group of friends :cool:

No bother, onto the next group

Pumpkinstew · 11 Oct 2006 at 22:18

Well, I suppose it makes a certain amount of sense once you realise Kino isn't German for cinema in this context.

On the other hand nothing's going to crimp your style quite like thinking too hard. Everything in the OP has to come like second nature or it'll look forced and clumsy. Here's where alcohol helps. Or I should say the right amount of alcohol.

I'm not what you'd called a pulling machine by any standards but I would say think KISS (I've noticed you like acronyms - Keep It Simple, Saberu ).

See a girl you like. Make eye contact. Smile. Hold eye contact. If she smiles back, great. If she looks away but glances back after a few moments that's also good. Knock back some dutch courage and go over.

toastyman · 11 Oct 2006 at 22:27

Raymond Lin said:
And you are at Stafford uni, guess you guys have so much time on your hands as there are hardly any girls you started to come up with this?

AKA sausage fest

That said, the last few nights have had more and more girls at them :confused:

Maybe 30!!

HangTime · 11 Oct 2006 at 22:40

Saberu said:
5) This is something I already knew and is pretty common sense but I thought i'd add it anyway, the last 20 minutes of club opening time is when you get lots of girls pouring on the dancefloor to try and dance with a bloke and the girls already on the dancefloor are more accepting to approaches. Be careful though as when this happens a lot of other guys who know about this stuff move in and that happened to me tonight so they all moved in before I got the balls to.

I guess this may depend on the venue / closing time but in my experience leaving things until the last minute often results in the dancefloor being left with primarily:

1) 'Proper' clubbers who are out mainly for the music and/or 'have a good time' with little interest in pulling per se
2) Mingers.

In fact when I used to go clubbing regularly I often found that things were much less busy from around 2am onwards (closing at 3am). The real players had usually picked up by then.

However, I'd go with some of the other stuff there. I reckon I missed out on loads of potential (dances, kisses, or more) because I didn't have the balls to touch a girl unless I felt 100% sure she was coming on to me. Often it seems like a girl will just dance in front of you hoping you will grab hold from behind or similar, but I'd be like 'hmmmm.... there was no eye contact first, maybe she's just there by chance' - basically I'd make up excuses to myself not to grab the bull by the horns (as it were). Then 15mins later I'd see some other chap move in and walk off with the spoils.

Obviously there will be times when you read it wrong and she will angrily push your hands away, tell you to **** off or whatever, but hey, that goes with the territory, just apologise and give her some space. As the saying goes, if you don't shoot, you won't score.

Maz · 11 Oct 2006 at 22:45

This stuff actually makes girls have sex with you?

I rely on getting majorly ****** up and then talking random crap and making them laugh!

Failing that I go to the dance floor!!

leaskovski · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:00

Rich_L said:
*edit*
Haha how unimpressed does the one behind me look! LOL!

The one behind looks to have a tash! :eek:

This thread tho!!! f'kino tastic

if thats to close to the edge mods, star it :confused:

A5H · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:12

Is this a joke?
To 'pull' all you have to do is be there :/

Jesus christ. If anyone takes this seriously, I pity them.
I also wonder what kind of ego it takes to write a thread as self indulgent and daft as this.

:/

Welshy · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:23

toastyman said:
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Wow another stafford uni student, what course you doing mate?

toastyman · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:26

Welshy said:
Wow another stafford uni student, what course you doing mate?

Computer Science: Web Development

Dead easy so far exc. the maths

Yourself?

JonC · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:27

The first post smells of ASF.

Welshy · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:34

toastyman said:
Computer Science: Web Development

Dead easy so far exc. the maths

Yourself?

Second year software engineering. It's already getting harder than last year

Saberu · 11 Oct 2006 at 23:35

agw_01 said:
Tried it... got a rather repulsive look (WTF, I'm not THAT ugly am I?) as one of them pushed me away. Danced next to the other one who turned her back to me waving her hands in the air so I put my hands on her hips and started dancing with her. She turned around and shook her head while moving away from me...

Some girls are just less receptive than others, my results from this are generally mixed but when it does work the other girl will either walk away and leave you to it or she may even join in :eek:

toastyman said:
AKA sausage fest

That said, the last few nights have had more and more girls at them

Maybe 30!!

Oooh pushing way into the double figures now

Btw have fun in your 1st year because the 2nd year is twice as difficult in terms of workload. Think I spent most of my 1st year sleeping in till midday!

JonC: ASF is a big part of the seduction community so obviously the terminology I used can be found there a lot.

Nice to see some constructive discussion in the thread, oh and cool picture Rich_L!

Hangtime saw your post about closing time. Yeah it's not best to rely on going on the dancefloor at a certain time to pull, it's better to just go on to dance and enjoy the music then see what oppurtunities arise. Closing time in the clubs around here is almost always 2am so thats probably why thats the case.

A5H care to explain why this thread is self indulgent :confused: