Selfishness!

Admiral Huddy

Admiral Huddy

Admiral Huddy

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Do you think people are becoming more selfish.

I have noticed more recently that people are so wrapped up with their own lifes that they are becoming more oblivous to their surroundings. Take cars for example, once people are inside then nothing and no one is more important than them getting from a to b. People on the trains will "scrum" through the doors to get a seat. . .

I opened the door for a woman at work this morning and she went past without even a whisper.. To busy listening to her iPod. Completely in another world..

Where has all the respect and politness gone? Does nobody say please and thank you anymore.

Has social deprevation taken over that we are no longer able to communicate or act in a civil manner.

Discuss:
 
Agreed about the holding doors open bit

more and more people at work dont even say thanks when holding the door open (even though you have stood there for 10 seconds waiting for them to walk through), then thye just walk through it without touching the door, and not hold it for the person behind them

I just dont bother holding the door open for people now
 
It is getting bad, even saying 'good morning' to people gets ignored sometimes (I walk to work through a small village).
 
Hmmm, i do agree with the politeness point you made, it really gets on my nerves when you do hold a door open for example, and people just wonder through.

Getting a train seat is just one of those things mate. Happens everywhere in the world apart from a few places, but they tend to be places where big business isn't really present?

As for respect? Well that dissapeared when chavs hit the scene.

But, when all is said and done, there are still some of us that have some respect and manors.

/que grumpy old man comments :D


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Kitten_caboodle said:
If that happens to me, I make a point of saying 'Don't worry about it, you're welcome' at the top of my voice. Usually embarrasses them if nothing else.
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I quite agree. I tend to do the same. Sometimes they get into a right strop. its great :D

FishThrower said:
I just dont bother holding the door open for people now
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Should never give up manors. Otherwise you sink to their level.
 
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Yeah happens all the time, number of people i've had come up to me ask me for directions I tell them politely and then they just walk off without saying thankyou!!!!!! :mad:
 
messiah khan said:
*Holds door to GD open for fellow OCUKers* Good morning to you all' :)
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Why thank you and good morning. Cucumber sandwich? :p


What really niffed me off was going christmas shopping last Saturday. It was like the coming of doomsday. There I was looking at something in wollies and some woman snatched it out of my hands as I was putting it back. I didn't maon or get anoyoed, they aren't worth it. I just went home. Couldn't be bothered with the maddness of it all.
 
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Those ignorant people arn't worth the effort of getting annoyed at all. I always try and be a polite as possible, but I agree that often you get very little of it in return.
 
Admiral Huddy said:
Cumcumber sandwich?
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I don't think that society in general (whatever that means) is getting much less polite - certainly not enough to notice over the course of 2-3 years. People just notice it more when they get older and grumpier. People almost always say thanks to me when I hold a door open for them.
 
I agree, people are much more selfish these days.

If somebody opened the door for me, I'll take a hold of it as early as possible and say a quick thanks.

Something I never make the mistake of doing, is holding doors open for other people, unless they are friends or family. People out there will just take advantage of the fact your opening the door, and not do so much as even nod.

I don't even bat an eyelid when that trollop claiming child benefit for 200 kids, or the stubborn old fart who is set in his ways, gives me a foul look - they get ignored. :)
 
So you admit that you deliberately avoid holding a door open for someone just because they might not say thank you? Does that not sound just the teensiest bit petty?
 
kitten_caboodle said:
If that happens to me, I make a point of saying 'Don't worry about it, you're welcome' at the top of my voice. Usually embarrasses them if nothing else.
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Haha yeah I always say don't mention it.
 
Admiral Huddy said:
Where has all the respect and politness gone? Does nobody say please and thank you anymore.
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I know exactly what you mean, i see examples of this everyday!

I still try and be a "gentleman" by opening doors or waiting for people on stairs and stuff but there are so many people out there who just don't care about being polite anymore. I usually make a point of saying "your welcome" in a sarchastic voice but even then a lot of people still dont care =/
 
Arcade Fire said:
So you admit that you deliberately avoid holding a door open for someone just because they might not say thank you? Does that not sound just the teensiest bit petty?
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Agreed. If someone open a door in front of me, and didn't glance behind them and hold it open, I qould consider that rude in itself. It really doesn't take much effort a tall to hold a door open a few seconds, even if you don't get a thanks out of it.
 
kitten_caboodle said:
If that happens to me, I make a point of saying 'Don't worry about it, you're welcome' at the top of my voice. Usually embarrasses them if nothing else.
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i usually start a conversation with myself.

something along the lines of.

"thankyou very much lawrence"
to which I reply
"your welcome"

if i still dont get their attention then bothered. their loss.
 
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