Sex After Marriage????

[RoboCod]

Sex after marriage...does it still exist?? How do you value a girl who does not believe in sex before marriage???? Would you date a girl who had such views?? lol, wondering what others thought.

You're asking me if I'd sleep with a virgin?!?

Have done times before and certainly would again!

'sex before marriage in our society is almost inevitable...' i wont quote here as I dont fully remember the rest: God understands, but when it is gratuitous self-placation it is not justified..

I find it very justifiable

 

[MrSix]

I've been married 28 years and I'm still getting it every day (twice on sundays).

lolz.

*Imagines Mrs dmpoole bending over to putting the roast in the oven*

 

[Stonedofmoo]

To the OP, just take it in the bum

Technically you're still a virgin then

 

[MrSix]

To the OP, just take it in the bum

Technically you're still a virgin then

Here here!

One up the bum, no harm done.

 

[Freefaller]

I respect the views of abstinence and find it impressive and honourable. However it's not something I'd be interested in dealing with I'm afraid. Sex isn't the be all and end all by any means, however it is a fun, important and intimate part of a relationship ontop of all the emotional/spiritual attachment.

 

[Hitman_Leon]

The first time I did it my balls hurt after. Anyone else ?

Are you sure you had sex and not a vasectomy . Or was it the first time you tried to do it and the girl was less than thrilled so gave you a little fancy foot work for trying it on.

 

[-Ad-]

I'm not at an age where getting married is on my mind, but I think that "try before you buy" is a fair enough policy.

Does that include the Distance selling regulations or SOGA ???

Im a catholic, but grew out of the 'FOLLOW THESE RULES OR BE DAMMED FOREVER 1111111111111' years and years ago. And sex is amazing, there is no wait I could have waited or been with another girl who wanted the same. If we were both crap and suddenly became horny rabbits, then it would only lead to disappointment, possible problems, and MORE DAMNATION !!!!!!

 

[nightwish]

Just thought I'd add my experience here...

When we first started going out, my GF thought the same as the OP. I liked her a lot but a long term relationship without sex is just not for me. (I was a virgin too at the time, but gagging for it )

So I decided I'd carry on until Christmas (started going out properly in September although known each other for a year or two before that), and then if she still wouldn't budge I'd basically have to split up with her.

Anyway, she changed her mind at the end of Nov (cutting it fine!)

That was 4 years ago. We're still together, she's the only person I've ever slept with, now renting a house between the two of us and looking for jobs, etc. Still no immediate plans to get married (I haven't anyway!)

My point is, tho it may seem obvious, is that a girl saying to a guy she doesn't believe in sex before marriage (does it ever happen the other way round?), is a big turn off! And so, you may be missing out on perfectly good relationships with guys, who just happen to want a bit of sex as well.

Incidentally, my GF has no regrets now and reckons she made the right choice. (tho thats just her view obviously)

 

[aardvark]

Would you date a girl who had such views?? lol, wondering what others thought.

not a chance

 

[SkeeterUK]

Id like to know if i was sexually compatible with them before i married em. No telling whats down there and dont wana shock later after being married.

So its really not relevent to wait, i mean the world wont explode if you have sex before your married.

Alternativly you could ask your fiance if you could have it away with others if she wont put it out there for you.

 

[Edinho]

Sex. An over rated exchange of bodily fluids.

Also have to rofl at the life advise from the majority of 20-22 years olds in this forum.

In the end do what YOU want to do and be responsible for yourself.

 

[nightwish]

Would you date a girl who had such views?? lol, wondering what others thought.

Yeah, to answer the question - not any more! Too much stress and hassle. A relationship without sex is just friends tbh.

Personaly, I don't believe in marriage before sex. I certainly wouldn't even consider marrying someone without knowing what the sex life would be like, even if I could wait that long!

 

[Majago]

I know Christian friends who have stuck to the no sex before marriage, I also know a lot of Christian friends who didn't.

I'm a Christian (24yo) and was planning to wait until after marriage however after being in a long term relationship with a girl I thoguh was 'the one' we ended up sleeping together.

Met my now wife and we waited until after marriage - that made me wish I hadn't been with the other girl as my wife was a virgin and I think it would have been more special for her if I had been too.

 

[nightwish]

Sex. over rated exchange of bodily fluids.

tbh, you're not doing it right / with the right person

 

[da_mic_1530]

megzy's back, or am I reading this wrong?

 

[MookJong]

I think there is a difference between sex and making love. Sex can be simply a meeting of bodies, making love is body, heart and mind.

You can have sex with pretty much anyone....it's nothing that special. But I think you have to find someone who you have that intense and intimate bond with to make love. If you take it slow and wait for the right person your more likely to be making love.

Saying that I don't agree with waiting until after marriage at all, but there is a lot to be said for waiting for the right person.

 

[RoboCod]

Sex. An over rated exchange of bodily fluids.

Anyone who says that are likely to just be crap in the sack to be honest.

 

[MookJong]

Anyone who says that are likely to just be crap in the sack to be honest.

Depending what he means I possibly agree, comparing the one night stands I've had to sex while in a proper relationship there is no comparison.

However if he is point blank saying all sex is over rated, then he probably needs to review what he is doing and who he is doing it with.

 

[Apopcalyptic]

Hey

I'm 21. Friends were shocked when I told them that I did not believe in sex before marriage. I view my virginity as my gift to my future husband. At the moment, Im single, though I have been in a long term relationship and few lil relationships. Guys have new from get go where I stand.

Sex after marriage...does it still exist?? How do you value a girl who does not believe in sex before marriage???? Would you date a girl who had such views?? lol, wondering what others thought.

Megz, the decision you've made is excellent. There's so much promiscuity in society these day that I wish there were more like you! It really would solve so many problems!

Whilst I'm not a Christian, I do have great respect for the morality that Christianity teaches. The simple fact that Britain is now 'multi faith' and Christian principles are no longer instilled into a large percentage of our youth probably contributes massively to our dire situation!

To all the naysayers out there suggesting that Megz will be very disappointed if her future husband is crap in the sack : Her decision won't be clouded by his size or technique. The marriage will be purely about love, respect and adoration. It'll be great either way!


/ramble ramble ramble

 

[MookJong]

SNIP
/ramble ramble ramble

Good post, have to agree with most of that.