Shorts and no tie at a wedding?

[dave28]

I really wouldnt, shorts to a wedding in extreme heat maybe or if told to dress like that. But otherwise it sound just plain wrong to me anyway

 

[Joeyuk]

If your there for the ceremony then definitely suit and tie. Just the reception after just smartly dressed would be fine for me.

 

[413x]

I’d wear a suit, but not a tie, most pointless thing in the world and I didn’t wear one when I got married.

Ties are horrible things. Why they are a thing still ill never know

 

[Uther]

Interesting to see people getting so hung up about this. As if what you're wearing is more important than your being there in the first place.

Within reason, I should say. It's all just silly tradition. I mean, who decided that a full dress suit is the only acceptable dress at a wedding? And why do we all follow it blindly? To keep suit makers in business?

If it's a Catholic wedding in a church (I assume) then that is the epitome of tradition. OP should wear a suit and blend into the background.

 

[413x]

Forum nerds not understanding social norms/etiquette shocker!

Not really a fan of norms myself.
I briefly worked where had to wear shirts and suits. It was disgusting in summer. I always overheated and felt uncomfortable. Didn't last long due to dress code.

It's a bit weird if you ask me

 

[CaptainRAVE]

Shorts are out, but if your like me and feel the heat you could always get a linen suit. It even got me through a wedding in St Lucia that was also in a heatwave and makes ours look like the Arctic.

Take some shorts in case you can change later, I’ve seen people do this, even at their own.

 

[Dis86]

Don't be a tool, it isn't your day. Leave your silly boat boy nonsense outfit on the hangar where it belongs.

I think that would be a truly inspirational name change.

 

[soundb0y]

I went to a wedding on a beach in about 30 degree heat and I still felt like a pleb in shorts.

For gods sake don't wear a t-shirt.

 

[Angilion]

Explain, without using the word "tradition", why a suit and tie is the only acceptable dress for X. Or words that are akin to "custom", "tradition", "expected", etc.

That's literally the only reason.

I find it weird that nobody challenges this. Well, a few people do, but by far the majority just go along with it.

Despite everybody I know *hating* dressing up in a suit, because suits are some of the least comfortable attire known to man.

Why should you hate what you wear at an occasion like this?

Meh, humans.

e: Also women get to wear whatever they like, really, in any colour, yet the blokes have to wear a dark grey or black suit. Bonkers. Pure bonkers pure tradition.

While that's true, it also applies to the whole idea of a wedding. So the internally consistent position would be to refuse to ever attend any wedding.

I've no issue with ceremonial clothing for ceremonial purposes.

 

[Malevolence]

Last wedding I attended, pre-pandemic, I wore combats and a Lawnmower Deth t-shirt. Nobody gave a ****.

 

[Dis86]

I love these threads. They're great for working out who the norms and weirdos are!

There's also a curious correlation between those that seem to be socially and economically successful vs those that tend to live in their parents spare room.

 

[MatsyLR]

You could say the whole concept of a wedding is purely traditional at this point. They serve no purpose technically.

 

[Deleted User 298457]

I love these threads. They're great for working out who the norms and weirdos are!

There's also a curious correlation between those that seem to be socially and economically successful vs those that tend to live in their parents spare room.

this is so true. The mobile phone thread is also very close in shining a spotlight.

 

[sigma]

Do you think it's a lack of understanding of what the social norms are?

It’ll vary from person to person.

 

[sigma]

Not really a fan of norms myself.
I briefly worked where had to wear shirts and suits. It was disgusting in summer. I always overheated and felt uncomfortable. Didn't last long due to dress code.

It's a bit weird if you ask me

Weird for you perhaps, most likely not weird for 99% of the rest of people who don’t leave jobs due to having to wear shirts.

 

[sigma]

You could say the whole concept of a wedding is purely traditional at this point. They serve no purpose technically.

I agree, but if you are going to go, at least show some respect. If you don’t want to wear reasonable clothing don’t bother going.

It’s similar to people who don’t take off their shoes when entering someone’s house.

I mean why wear clothes at all? They’re just an invention.

 

[robfosters]

Shorts are out, but if your like me and feel the heat you could always get a linen suit. It even got me through a wedding in St Lucia that was also in a heatwave and makes ours look like the Arctic.

Take some shorts in case you can change later, I’ve seen people do this, even at their own.

I hope you wore a Panama hat with it, for the full tea plantation owner look.

 

[Raggs]

Linen suit sounds good Sonny crockett style perhaps ?

 

[Lysander]

What about the last wedding, where literally ten + people came up to me saying they wish they were in shorts and no tie.

It was probably about three.

What if I wanted to turn up dressed as a woman in a flowery dress, painted nails and full make up? Would I be shot down in flames for wanting to identify as a woman that day? If I were it would end up in the local news.

Ridiculous.

Get a grip folks, it's the 21st century, we're no longer walking around in a Tudor neck ruffe because someone decided to go against the norm.

Also ridiculous.

 

[413x]

Weird for you perhaps, most likely not weird for 99% of the rest of people who don’t leave jobs due to having to wear shirts.

I just feel for most jobs we've moved past having to look a certain way. Same as tattoos etc.
I find it very outdated.