So apparently i'm going to be a dad..

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ex- girlfriend of 3 years tells me she's pregnant, we split up a little over 2 months ago and she just found out this morning. I am however exceptionally happy in a new relationship with a fantastic girl and don't want to be a father to a child that wasn't planned and unwanted by either of us (shes on contraceptive injections).

She hasn't made her mind up if she's going to have the child yet of course and I wont push her into an abortion. I know legally I have no leg to stand on until the child is born but anyone got ANY advice as to what to do next? At the moment i'm still friendly with my ex and we do still talk so I'm meeting her later for a chat.

As cold as it sounds I'm still not convinced it's true, she only found out about my new GF a fortnight ago, went mental and previously had problems "letting me go" and now this.

Come on studs, one of you bound to have been in this situation before! :p Do I make it clear there's no future for "us" or do I play it gently gently for now?
 
I'd make sure she is pregnant first, chances are she is simply a nut job. I've seen that trick pulled before. Either way I hope it works out for you.
 
Maybe she is insanely jealous and wants you back? Putting a "child" into the equation might be her crazy logic to it.

I'd insist on medical proof that she is pregnant before doing anything else.
 
Me being the sceptical guy I am id say its a ploy to get you to still see her even though you have a new lady. peeps say im always thinkin negative but sometimes its just exactly as it turns out.
 
Kami said:
ex- girlfriend of 3 years tells me she's pregnant, we split up a little over 2 months ago and she just found out this morning. I am however exceptionally happy in a new relationship with a fantastic girl and don't want to be a father to a child that wasn't planned and unwanted by either of us (shes on contraceptive injections).

She hasn't made her mind up if she's going to have the child yet of course and I wont push her into an abortion. I know legally I have no leg to stand on until the child is born but anyone got ANY advice as to what to do next? At the moment i'm still friendly with my ex and we do still talk so I'm meeting her later for a chat.

As cold as it sounds I'm still not convinced it's true, she only found out about my new GF a fortnight ago, went mental and previously had problems "letting me go" and now this.

Come on studs, one of you bound to have been in this situation before! :p Do I make it clear there's no future for "us" or do I play it gently gently for now?
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Sounds like your in my EXACT situation (word for word)
 
The girl's deceiving you in one of two ways...
1) by saying she is pregnant
or
2) by saying she was on contraceptive injections in the first place.
You really should get some proof before you get worked up about it. I know some one who got married to some one who said she was pregnant by him. He asked her to marry him and turned out she wasn't pregnant at all.
 
VIRII said:
Agree to go with her to the doctor to get it double checked and take it from there.
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Nix said:
Play it gently, I think she's making it up. It's probably a cry for attention / jelousy.
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Your only way forwards is to be supportive and continue to be friendly with her. Make her realise there are boundaries though if you can manage it. You're happy in another relationship and she needs to realise this.
 
Cheers guys, i'm actually more worried about the effect this is having on my new girlfriend than my ex. Oddly if this had happened a year ago I'd probably have been over the moon!

She has a mid-wife appointment on Thursday, i've asked to go along but she's not got back to me about it. Keep avoiding answering that particular question!
 
BillytheImpaler said:
Isn't she visited by her Aunt Flo at regular intervals?
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Not on Depo (injection), no. The ovulation and period should stop altogether.

Definitely offer to accompany her to the doctor to get a pregnancy test done. If she indeed is carrying a baby under the Depo injection, it could end up a very frail child as the hormones it adds aren't really condusive to baby-making...
 
Yeah, any baby conceived whilst using depo is in trouble. She needs to get herself checked out asap.

Can't believe people still use depo. Its an awful, awful thing.
 
Gilly said:
Can't believe people still use depo. Its an awful, awful thing.
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Very very convenient though.

Tried it for a while but it didn't play ball with my cycles so scrapped that idea.

All hormonal contraceptives suck, tbh - unfortunately I'm back on pills because otherwise I'd have a period every 2 weeks :(
 
Be very careful when you meet up with her too that she doesnt pollute your mind. She will try and cause tension between your current gf and you, which is not good. Make sure your current gf's mind is totally at rest and reassure her that you DO NOT like this ex no more. Sounds to me, she is telling porkies about a baby to get you back.
 
Kami said:
Cheers guys, i'm actually more worried about the effect this is having on my new girlfriend than my ex. Oddly if this had happened a year ago I'd probably have been over the moon!

She has a mid-wife appointment on Thursday, i've asked to go along but she's not got back to me about it. Keep avoiding answering that particular question!
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Exactly my reasoning. In my eyes she is trying to put tension in with your new relationship by telling porkies. Make sure your current gf knows how happy you are with her :)
 
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