The 5 year plan to £50k
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Have you maybe thought of prioritising your career over a cat in the short term and searching for opportunities that, while maybe prohibiting your pet ownership in the next year or so, may lead to a fulfilling professional existence? I.e. Spending 12-18 months lining yourself up with decent career prospects, and then opting for a pet.
What would be more important to you:
- a career and then a cat
- a cat but maybe not a career
Obviously they're not mutually exclusive, but you certainly seem to be prioritising the opportunity to buy a cat over you professional development.
What would be more important to you:
- a career and then a cat
- a cat but maybe not a career
Obviously they're not mutually exclusive, but you certainly seem to be prioritising the opportunity to buy a cat over you professional development.
Places with 1 room (kitchen/bedroom/living area combined) are going for £500 per month in Truro where I work. Not seen any one bedroom apartments in my searching. It's either 2-bedroom apartments or single-room "studios".
2 bedroom - £800.
3 bedroom - £1,100.
Will be able to consider places elsewhere when I've got a car, but for now has to be walking distance to work.
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It's very probably not - remember, it's pre anything - pre tax, pre NI, pre sick leave, pre holiday, etc etc. The actual amount you'll see in your pocket after allowing for all of that and ensuring you've accounted for the fact you cannot guarantee a job every single day of the year and that £200 begins to look like that £27k a year you said you are on now...
Getting a car would be a sensible start. Then consider where you need to live to get an appropriate job and an appropriate place to live.
Consider leaving Cornwall, and heading to, for example, Plymouth, Exeter, or Bristol. Apply for jobs in your chosen locale. Drive to interviews in your newly acquired car. When you get a job, rent a place initially for 6 months, then consider your options.
If it all goes completely **** up, just move back home and try again. You've got no responsibility, and nothing to lose. Your current job is temporary, and you've always got moving back in with your mum to fall back on.
If I'm 100% honest I'd rather have an average paying job and a cat. I don't think any amount of money is going to pull me out of the depression I've settled into. A cat would really help me. And, well, I just love cats.
I thought this whole thread was about getting yourself into a well-paid career?
Looking at things simply - can you get yourself a cat at any point during the next 40-50 years, depending on your longevity? Yes. Can you begin a new career with such ease over a similar timeframe? Certainly not. In fact, each day you put off this much-wanted career progression, the harder it'll become to start a new career.
I don't think it makes an awful lot off sense to start a thread discussing your urgent need to sort out your priorities. And then inform us all that your priorities and career development will ultimately play second fiddle to a feline... What if you get a cat and it hates you?
Anyway, best of luck
There's little doubt that there is actually something wrong with OP. Probably, life would be happier if he had some professional help to address his issues. Even aside from that, though, there has been plenty of advice in the thread that could help him get to where he wants to be.
Sounds more like the cat would just help with the symptoms of having a **** life. A better solution would perhaps be to sort your life out as per the origninal intent in the thread rather than giving up, getting a cat and going down the route of an old fashioned spinster/cat woman.
Stop trying to find shortcuts, excuses and just pick a career and go for it - consider moving to London for a year or two if you have to.
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Well I kinda ****** up my life to date. But I don't think I'm mentally challenged. You could say I'm a bit odd and you'd be right. But I'm not crazy. Confused and out of my depth just trying to get by in the world, sure. I'm honestly not sure how anyone manages it.
But then this world and this society we've created is pretty crazy from my perspective. It's a world where 75% of people are trapped financially by the people with a vested interest in keeping them poor. It's a world where you have to fight to keep your head above water if you work, or have a couple kids and let everyone else pay for your house and your Sky TV. It's mad.
Try not to think so big. It's not helpful and just makes everything seem overwhelming. Most people don't think too hard about that stuff, and just crack on.
Truthfully, it doesn't really matter. It's always been the way that humans have struggled to get by. A few at the top of the pyramid get things a bit easier, it's true, but struggle is the natural way of life for all living things.
Just break things down into smaller challenges and start moving forward. As I said previously, you are only a few steps away from getting out of your current funk.
Car, location, job, accommodation. Take on one at a time, and don't worry too much about the details - you can deal with the little things as they crop up.
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Indeed, this is why I said many pages back that moving out should be one of your number one priorities. Perhaps you are now starting to realise that standing on your own two feet is not simply a choice to make on a financial basis, it also aids personal development - something you will not get if you stay at home.
With regard to a car, I would assess your living situation and finances first. Cars are expensive and really should be avoided if you are on a tight budget unless absolutely necessary. First thing is first though, I cant remember sorry; do you have a license?
If you don't you need to get one. Even if you don't own your own car having a license opens doors. You may be considered for a role that provides a company car, for example.
Cats - yes they are amazing. I love cats but really I would not be making important life decisions based on them. I don't feel like you should either, but it is your choice.
With respect, it sounds like you crave affection and a cat just seems like a way of trying to plug that gap . Would a human partner not offer more than a cat? I say that because a girlfriend/boyfriend (whichever would be relevant to you) would offer that affection and intimacy but also could be a person to help you along. Bring you out of your shell etc.
Start believing in yourself a bit more and just roll your sleeves up and crack on. Invariably, what you will find is it is not as scary as you feared. I know you find advice hard to swallow. You get defensive but to be fair a lot of people have put the boot in over recent months - myself included.
If you really, really want to make a new life you can do it but you need to start listening to the people who have been there and done it already. There is some golden advice in most of your threads if you can just swallow your pride for a minute and take it on board.
If you need help, there are people here that can help. But don't be surprised if they become disinterested in your life because you are all talk and no do. Ergo - the whole point is to take the advice on board and do. Have a good think and make a plan. Set your priorities, and start looking into hpw you can achieve them.
First thing to do is move out. Like someone has suggested, try a different area - one with more job prospects. I know you desperately want a cat, but please try and think of the bigger picture here. Why hobble your chances in life because of a pet you don't even own yet, not to mention the fact the reality of ownership may not be to your taste or affordable for you?
Cats are expensive. Our two have cost a fortune - and by fortune I mean probably in the region of 10 grand in 4 years (accounting for special food and vets bills, flea/worming treatments booster injections etc etc). Ours cost a bit more than the average as one of them is on a special diet, but even so an average cat is going to cost you in the region of at least £1,000 a year. That is the reality. If you are unlucky enough to have one that needs a special diet, could you afford it? As an example, one of our cats has to have urinary food. He has a box of food pouches every 12 days, which is approximately £335 a year just on pouches. But then there are the biscuits he has too, which we share between the two of them and get through a bag every 2 weeks which is approximately £415 a year. Then the 2nd cat has his own pouches. True they are normal ones and not as expensive, but they still come in at £200 a year. So we spend nearly a grand a year just on pet food.
All vets bills are on top, and your cat will probably go to the vet a few times a year. Booster injections (£35 a pop). Spot on flea treatments, about £12 a pop for 2 if they are decent, and they should be used monthly. Worming tablets are cheap but still need to be bought. Then if your cat has any injuries or infections, you have ad-hoc vets bills. OK, you can take out insurance but the policies are very cynical and people do have trouble getting the insurers to pay out, particularly if your cat is accident prone or has to have repeated visits for a reoccurring condition.
Cat litter is going to cost you a fortune if you want an indoor cat. You are probably talking at least £50 a month for decent stuff. Then there are toys, cleaning products, poo bags and the other sundries you will need to keep stocked.
I would strongly advise that you get your life in order before even considering a cat. I mean that in the friendliest possible way as one cat lover to another.
All men need pussy.
Sell your cat? Look at these cats!
http://www.pets4homes.co.uk/sale/cats/local/glasgow/
£70 - £500! Thats a GTX 980 right there.
http://www.pets4homes.co.uk/sale/cats/local/glasgow/
£70 - £500! Thats a GTX 980 right there.
I... I don't have a cat
And I don't even want a GTX 980
In fact I'd happily give up gaming completely to have a cat @Buffet: £1000 per year per kitty? That's about twice what I'd budgeted for. I'd been thinking that £35 a month would cover everything. I did read the rest of your post btw, and thank you.
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**** the cat idea off, for starters.
Knuckle down where you are and try for a more involved role internally, OR apply for better jobs externally. That's your starter.
Additionally, once you've made that decision you then try to find a place of your own and move out so you get some real world independence by living in some 1-bedroom hole that'll teach you a whole lot more than just the value of money.
Knuckle down where you are and try for a more involved role internally, OR apply for better jobs externally. That's your starter.
Additionally, once you've made that decision you then try to find a place of your own and move out so you get some real world independence by living in some 1-bedroom hole that'll teach you a whole lot more than just the value of money.
You're not really selling this to me.
Why wouldn't I move into something more comfortable? Why in the nine hells would I choose to live in a 1-room "hole" if I don't have to?
Is there some reason why I should live in squalor? Some lesson I can't learn somewhere nicer?
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