Listen, as soon as I find out what's going on and know what the problem is, then maybe it's time to sympathise. Not getting even just a "Sorry can't make it" just feels a bit rude and I've never actually been stood up or been left hanging waiting for the telephone like that before. Really humiliating.
As I said, he has the benefit of the doubt, because I do like him and actually trust him not to lie. But this is the third time now we've tried to meet, and really it's getting a little bit hard to remain understanding without feeling annoyed when he's optimistic until the last and then finds out it's impossible for one reason or another. Just this time he wasn't even able to let me know it was off.
My mind is swinging from very sympathetic to very annoyed. My last text wasn't angry or needy, just disappointed. He is a nice guy and it would be a shame if a massive spate of bad luck all in one go ruins what could be an interesting time for both of us.
However, I don't wish to be mucked around. If I just bend over backwards and say that it's fine that I felt humiliated and forgotten, then I wouldn't be showing much strength of character. I have a right to be hacked-off, just as he has a right to explain himself.
I'm sure we'll come to some kind of understanding...