**The Mental Health Thread**

Got called into a "meeting" this morning with line manager. Went in and told have to have a video call with account director and an area manager about comments that were made by me. Refused and walked out as they aren't my line manager, though they're rescheduling for tomorrow, and i have to do it.

I'm just a low level worker and part of a contract that has already been lost come next year, can't get staff, we have no work in areas we have staff, can't get kit, ppe, or paid correctly, so it's a joke. I understand they may be giving me a chance to try an behave in a way they see fit, and i had to have this talk previously too about similar comments, which were never malicious and everyone thinks i'm decent for calling them out.

Sorry, needed to vent. Dunno what to say to them really other than, yeah my behaviour isn't ideal, but it's just a reflection of the company's attitude and i have too much **** going on to feel like i have any control right now.
 
If the business is not/cannot support you with the things you need and can't pay you properly then that sounds like a streessful environment.
Don't admit, agree verbally or sign anything that says it's a 'you' problem.
 
Not sure the best place to vocalise but this seems most appropriate. I’m struggling like hell at the moment. I’ve been dealing with an extremely abusive and threatening stalker for a while now. She originally worked in hr at my nhs trust and I had to seek advice being a service lead. Initially she was really helpful but it soon descended to threatening behaviour paired with blackmail. She lifted my home address from the work systems and would happily send messages at random times to say I’ve left a light on or a window open. Caught her asleep in the car around the corner from my home when walking the dog in a morning and she’s parked up in an evening facing my home with the full beam lighting the rear of my home up.

Plenty more that’s happened beyond this but currently going through the process to seek a non molestation order. As a bloke having a female carry out this behaviour is so emasculating. If I was solo/single I could manage better but having my kids in the home it’s pretty damn scary. I kept it bottled from everyone for a long time through fear of blackmail but once I verbalised it after the initial relief it’s been a slippy slope since.

Finding myself just lying in bed staring at the wall with my thoughts, not motivated to do anything around the house or even put the tv on. Have started counselling which has been helpful and have seen the gp but declined medication for now. I have a hang up of anxiety and depression being listed as a comorbidity until the end of my days. I keep convincing myself that the world will be brighter in a month or so but then I’ve done that for a year and deep down I know I’m kidding myself.

People suck.
 
Goodie said:
Not sure the best place to vocalise but this seems most appropriate. I’m struggling like hell at the moment. I’ve been dealing with an extremely abusive and threatening stalker for a while now. She originally worked in hr at my nhs trust and I had to seek advice being a service lead. Initially she was really helpful but it soon descended to threatening behaviour paired with blackmail. She lifted my home address from the work systems and would happily send messages at random times to say I’ve left a light on or a window open. Caught her asleep in the car around the corner from my home when walking the dog in a morning and she’s parked up in an evening facing my home with the full beam lighting the rear of my home up.

Plenty more that’s happened beyond this but currently going through the process to seek a non molestation order. As a bloke having a female carry out this behaviour is so emasculating. If I was solo/single I could manage better but having my kids in the home it’s pretty damn scary. I kept it bottled from everyone for a long time through fear of blackmail but once I verbalised it after the initial relief it’s been a slippy slope since.

Finding myself just lying in bed staring at the wall with my thoughts, not motivated to do anything around the house or even put the tv on. Have started counselling which has been helpful and have seen the gp but declined medication for now. I have a hang up of anxiety and depression being listed as a comorbidity until the end of my days. I keep convincing myself that the world will be brighter in a month or so but then I’ve done that for a year and deep down I know I’m kidding myself.

People suck.
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I'm not sure I can help other than the obvious of getting a restraining order but don't feel less of man because of this. Women are just as likely to be abusive as men but it just doesn't get reported in the press much.
 
Cromulent said:
I'm not sure I can help other than the obvious of getting a restraining order but don't feel less of man because of this. Women are just as likely to be abusive as men but it just doesn't get reported in the press much.
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Agree. I don't think this emasculating - you have a literal stalker going out of their way to encroach on your (and your family's) personal space, push boundaries, and disturb you on general. That's distressing stuff, thoroughly unpleasant - it is not a you problem that someone unhinged is doing this. She's clearly not a well person.

That's not in sympathy for her BTW, I'm really sorry this is happening to you.
 
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Goodie said:
Not sure the best place to vocalise but this seems most appropriate. I’m struggling like hell at the moment. I’ve been dealing with an extremely abusive and threatening stalker for a while now. She originally worked in hr at my nhs trust and I had to seek advice being a service lead. Initially she was really helpful but it soon descended to threatening behaviour paired with blackmail. She lifted my home address from the work systems and would happily send messages at random times to say I’ve left a light on or a window open. Caught her asleep in the car around the corner from my home when walking the dog in a morning and she’s parked up in an evening facing my home with the full beam lighting the rear of my home up.

Plenty more that’s happened beyond this but currently going through the process to seek a non molestation order. As a bloke having a female carry out this behaviour is so emasculating. If I was solo/single I could manage better but having my kids in the home it’s pretty damn scary. I kept it bottled from everyone for a long time through fear of blackmail but once I verbalised it after the initial relief it’s been a slippy slope since.

Finding myself just lying in bed staring at the wall with my thoughts, not motivated to do anything around the house or even put the tv on. Have started counselling which has been helpful and have seen the gp but declined medication for now. I have a hang up of anxiety and depression being listed as a comorbidity until the end of my days. I keep convincing myself that the world will be brighter in a month or so but then I’ve done that for a year and deep down I know I’m kidding myself.

People suck.
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It`s not your fault, she will move on to someone else once she realises you are going through the correct channels.

She probably attempts to find victims who suffer in silence so that she can torment them over a long period.
 
interesting ... need to read it further but are they saying the shingles vaccine reduces dementia in those that don't ever have shingles ?
it wasn't clear from the r4 pm interview this evening either, but they mentioned that herpes is the same type of viral infection, implying that people who've had it (there's a vaccine apparently)
could be more prone to dementia.



med.stanford.edu

Study strengthens link between shingles vaccine and lower dementia risk

A new analysis of a vaccination program in Wales found that the shingles vaccine appeared to lower new dementia diagnoses by 20% — more than any other known intervention.
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An unusual public health policy in Wales may have produced the strongest evidence yet that a vaccine can reduce the risk of dementia. In a new study led by Stanford Medicine, researchers analyzing the health records of Welsh older adults discovered that those who received the shingles vaccine were 20% less likely to develop dementia over the next seven years than those who did not receive the vaccine.


The remarkable findings, published April 2 in Nature, support an emerging theory that viruses that affect the nervous system can increase the risk of dementia. If further confirmed, the new findings suggest that a preventive intervention for dementia is already close at hand.
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Reading in the news about horrible attacks by schizophrenics and it shocks me at how people do not understand schizophrenia at all. They are ill and need help. They are not evil.
 
I had an appointment with my psychiatrist last month, been seeing 1 regularly since 2010, the 1 I see now since 2017, he mentioned he is considering discharging me because I'm showing no symptoms and haven't for several years and I've held down a job since last Summer (first work I'd done in 15 years). I don't know if I'm discharged am I still counted as being schizophrenic? I know from an experience in 2020/21 if I stop taking meds the illness comes back.

Yeh, sorry for everyone here who is suffering, mental health although not as taboo as it once was, is still looked down on by some and sadly brushed off. I was close to death in 2017 due to being mentally ill, here I am in 2025 and tbh life is really good, I feel so lucky, I feel like a lottery winner (maybe not quite but you know what I mean I hope).
 
Tykey said:
I had an appointment with my psychiatrist last month, been seeing 1 regularly since 2010, the 1 I see now since 2017, he mentioned he is considering discharging me because I'm showing no symptoms and haven't for several years and I've held down a job since last Summer (first work I'd done in 15 years). I don't know if I'm discharged am I still counted as being schizophrenic? I know from an experience in 2020/21 if I stop taking meds the illness comes back.

Yeh, sorry for everyone here who is suffering, mental health although not as taboo as it once was, is still looked down on by some and sadly brushed off. I was close to death in 2017 due to being mentally ill, here I am in 2025 and tbh life is really good, I feel so lucky, I feel like a lottery winner (maybe not quite but you know what I mean I hope).
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I'm in roughly the same boat. I absolutely know I'll be taking meds for the rest of my life as if I stop I'm end up back in hospital and in a much worse situation than I was before stopping. I think you can have schizophrenia and have schizophrenia in remission if it is being treated well. I don't think it ever goes away or gets "cured".
 
Tykey said:
I had an appointment with my psychiatrist last month, been seeing 1 regularly since 2010, the 1 I see now since 2017, he mentioned he is considering discharging me because I'm showing no symptoms and haven't for several years and I've held down a job since last Summer (first work I'd done in 15 years). I don't know if I'm discharged am I still counted as being schizophrenic? I know from an experience in 2020/21 if I stop taking meds the illness comes back.

Yeh, sorry for everyone here who is suffering, mental health although not as taboo as it once was, is still looked down on by some and sadly brushed off. I was close to death in 2017 due to being mentally ill, here I am in 2025 and tbh life is really good, I feel so lucky, I feel like a lottery winner (maybe not quite but you know what I mean I hope).
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Well done for getting that far in work, definitely good going. Hope it continues for you :)
 
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