The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

wannabedamned said:
I suppose I'll post in here again, finally met someone I like. Takes some doing!

She's lovely, There is a down side, she's currently being strung along by a guy at work. They havent done anything, but they've been hangin out a lot lately. Inside of work, not outside.

I was quite blunt to be honest and asked if there's anything going on between her and him. She said she didnt know. Anyways, fast forward to early hours of this morning. And we're currently chatting, quite a lot. On the phone, texting and facebook chat.

I said to her, if she's fedup of being stung along, to let me take her out for a drink.

She said "We'll see ;)"

So yeah... We shall see :p
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So many red flags that I don't know where to start. Just avoid.
 
[FnG]magnolia;23091872 said:
So many red flags that I don't know where to start. Just avoid.
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True dat.

Chatting to the early hours at this point, especially about the other chap just makes you out to be some agony aunt.

And the "we'll see" comment, do you enjoy being second best? If there's nothing going on between her and the other chap then there would be no reason for her not to want to go out with you for a drink. So she's either caught up on this other guy, or just not interested in you.

In my opinion that is.
 
What a cracking bit of advice posted from that website. Definately agree with it being on the OP.

Its funny to read that and realise I did a hell of a lot of what was listed there
 
I dont think its a case of second best, more...late to the show.

She said We'll see, because she's already started something with this other guy, My fault really as I've liked her a while, just didnt act on my own, more react to the fact she's be snatched up.
 
So met this girl on Internet Dating. Had been speaking online and via text for a while, really hit it off big time on our first date on Wednesday.

She's a teacher so free time is limited.

Again been speaking since then and she has invited me over to her place on Sunday evening.

I suggested first of all we go out somewhere local as we both have work. But she suggested this as it can't be a late one.

She specifically mentioned that coming over is NOT a provision for anything (;)) which is cool, I'm an old school dater and think waiting is better anyway!

But would you find this strange or too speedy someone inviting you over on a second date? Even considering her job?
 
CaptainRAVE said:
That is incredibly helpful :) - the OP needs to link to that post! Cheers magnolia.

At least I managed some kind of closure, both the sack part and openly discussing what went wrong.
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cork-spotters said:
Good post magnolia.
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Cobra-UK said:
What a cracking bit of advice posted from that website. Definately agree with it being on the OP.

Its funny to read that and realise I did a hell of a lot of what was listed there
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If you three gentlemen want to send me a trust message I'll pay for your registration at that forum. You'll then be able to read the actual threads rather than just the OP. If you're not interested then that's ok :)

Hang in there regardless and keep on keeping on. It does get better, it really does.
 
JamesU2005 said:
But would you find this strange or too speedy someone inviting you over on a second date? Even considering her job?
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I'd go, if there are other cars parked on her front, it's either an orgy, or gang bang, either could be good, unless you're the victim of the gang bang and she has a herd of gimps ready to impale you while she leads them around in full latex and a whip.

Or it might just be you going over for dinner.
 
[FnG]magnolia;23095125 said:
If you three gentlemen want to send me a trust message I'll pay for your registration at that forum. You'll then be able to read the actual threads rather than just the OP. If you're not interested then that's ok :)

Hang in there regardless and keep on keeping on. It does get better, it really does.
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I appreciate the offer, but no need :) - what you posted was more than helpful enough.

I am feeling a fair amount better this evening. Obviously still a lot of ups and downs, and my dreams will probably mess me up again, but I feel at least a little better every day.

It helps that my friends are rallying around me so much, friends I didn't even think would care about me tbh. It is actually quite humbling.

This thread has been a life saver.
 
JamesU2005 said:
But would you find this strange or too speedy someone inviting you over on a second date? Even considering her job?
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You do realise the waiting 7 days thing, etc, etc is for Films or Cosmopoliton readers? In the real world, if someone is keen to see the other person again I say its a good thing. How on earth the act of wanting to see someone again got turned around by films and magazines to be a bad thing is a mystery to me!

The game playing, waiting days between texts, puts me off far more than someone who is genuinely excited to meet up again.
 
JamesU2005 said:
So met this girl on Internet Dating. Had been speaking online and via text for a while, really hit it off big time on our first date on Wednesday.

She's a teacher so free time is limited.

Again been speaking since then and she has invited me over to her place on Sunday evening.

I suggested first of all we go out somewhere local as we both have work. But she suggested this as it can't be a late one.

She specifically mentioned that coming over is NOT a provision for anything (;)) which is cool, I'm an old school dater and think waiting is better anyway!

But would you find this strange or too speedy someone inviting you over on a second date? Even considering her job?
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The whole waiting thing is something from the 60's, its 2012, if you or she is interested why wait.

Go tomorrow, have fun, but go under the assumption that it is nothing more than a chat and possibly lunch or dinner.
 
[FnG]magnolia;23091753 said:
The entire thread is right here but SA requires you to pay US$10 to register as a forum user so be aware of that.

It's probably the best thread I've ever read on any forum for whatever that's worth :)
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That's weird, I managed to read that thread a couple of weeks ago without any problems.

Upon some investigation, seems that reading is not normally charged, but they randomly change this for days or weeks on end every now and then....
 
Broken Hope said:
People tend to stay in together more often in Winter cause it's colder outside, so having nobody to stay in and do stuff with isn't great.
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Not that a break-up is good any any time of the year, it's certainly worse in the winter..... Dark when you leave for work, dark when you get home from work, raining all weekend..... Getting out and doing stuff can be difficult. I've just joined the gym so am intending to get myself up there 3/4 times a week. Even considering trying to find myself a second job just to keep myself busy.
 
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