we have been very lucky, she hardly ever crys and she sleeps right through the night usually 21.30-9.00/10.00ish without waking up!
What about the baby?
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What about the baby?
Don't get me started on the baby....
Can I ask a question (and have you answer 100% honestly) is it worth it?
All I can see are the downsides, loss of free time, loss of income, wife gets a bit more strecthedand it all lasts 18 years? Why bother?
Lots of lovely'n's though so congrats too
Yes it is absolutely worth it. Mrs Snail and I had to wait some time for our 9 month old boy and everyday is better now than before he was born. I get unconditional love from a person I (we) have created and everyday you get something new. I must admit when I was in my twenties I was unsure about kids, but being in my thirties changed my mind.
To be honest, I began to think why was I here? What good was I doing? Anyway, I came to the conclusion that a new version of myself was what I was here for. I now have my mini-me and it is the best thing I have every done in my life.
Wll here is my oldest Kayley who is 7 in April but talks and acts like a 10 year old! She loves having her photo took as you can see from her pose.
And here her baby Sister Kimberley who is 2 in February and as you can see from the picture She is praying for mercy from her nasty daddy!
They are my life and have I no regrets about starting a family.
Some wondeful photo's on here guys keep them coming.
And here her baby Sister Kimberley who is 2 in February and as you can see from the picture She is praying for mercy from her nasty daddy!
They are my life and have I no regrets about starting a family.
Some wondeful photo's on here guys keep them coming.
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It's really interesting to hear. Did you never think perhaps an younger version of yourself isn't really what the world needs? I think that TBH about having kids. If I've not done anything oustanding why would anything I bring in to the world fo that? I can understand how having something you love and loves you is a nice feeling, but dunno, if thats enough to justify all the downsides. Though more recently must admit I think I've been generally more open to the idea.
I have no interest in knowing you and yes, i dont know how you put it over, only by what you have put here.
But saying that you made them feel embarrassed would have be accompanied by uncomfortable feeling. If I was with a girl and her dad said that to me, i would think 'idiot', especially if you continued to point out single mums and make comments like you do.
I am hoping that the younger version of me will be better and have fewer of my faults and make a good contribution to society - that is, of course to be seen and one of my roles as parent is to bring him up correctly.
Ironically, in my professional life I am a University Chemistry academic and have also made new compounds which have never been prepared or thought of before. However, none of these matches my son.
What I would say, however, is that it is hard work and also what is right for me is not for everyone. If you want my opinion, people should make their own choices for what/when is right for them : I certainly knew when it was time.
I concur, I'm not an idiot and thus don't need an old man pointing out the obvious to me.
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Well its worked for the last 7 years so I win.
BTW, my daughters don't find it embarrassing.
Nearly every day in my job I come across schoolkids with sexual problems who's parents don't know how to talk to them about it.
How embarrassing is that?
I live in a City where sex education doesn't happen so as a father its up to me to tell my own kids and their boyfriends.
I have 2 little ones, one is almost 2 and a half and is perfect. Slept through the night from a couple of months old and before that only woke every 4 hours so sleeping for me wasnt an issue.
The 2nd is a week old, and hasnt learnt daddy needs sleep yet. Currently on 3 hourly night time feeds which wouldnt usually be an issue as the crying wouldnt wake me as I can sleep through it. However, the wife had an emergency c-section so I have little choice but to wake up when she gives me a forceful nudge.
Wouldnt change it though
The 2nd is a week old, and hasnt learnt daddy needs sleep yet. Currently on 3 hourly night time feeds which wouldnt usually be an issue as the crying wouldnt wake me as I can sleep through it. However, the wife had an emergency c-section so I have little choice but to wake up when she gives me a forceful nudge.
Wouldnt change it though
We've never had so much sex education, but we have an ever increasing number of underage single mums, go figure.
Anyway, back on topic.....
My boy is 11 now, 12 in july, he has never given us any problems, other than his expensive taste in gadgets.
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I was pretty chuffed with my 16 month old daughter this morning. She woke up at 5am having a bit of a cry, but she tucked herslef back under the covers & went straight back to sleep for another 3 hours. All I did was ask her if she was going to lie back down & go to sleep.
However, a monumental faceplant on the pavement later in the morning soon took the shine off her day
Bit of a fat lip but after some fish pie she felt much better.
However, a monumental faceplant on the pavement later in the morning soon took the shine off her day
Bit of a fat lip but after some fish pie she felt much better.
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I'm having a tough time of it atm. I never knew how difficult it would be to be a single parent. My missus is currently working in UK and Germany until April and has abandoned me with our five angels.....not!
Now, as the only carer, I find I am hyper-sensitive to noise at night and rarely sleep more than a few hours. Simple things like taking a shower or popping out for a loaf of bread can be logistical headaches that used to be taken for granted with another adult in the the house. Add that to that fact that I'm trying to establish a business from home and you should have a mental picture of a completely manic house.
Thankfully Christmas is over but here in Australia it's the main Summer holiday and the kids are driving me barmy. The child minder who has our three year old, two days a week has been car-less and then ill all over the festive period and now that the temperature is soaring, I find my patience running out fast.
I'm not really complaining but having some friends or relatives close by who might offer to help once in a while, would be great. Those of you who are able to rely on a close family or a solid network of friends should feel fortunate.
All said and done, I love my kids dearly and I appreciate how fortunate I am.
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Now, as the only carer, I find I am hyper-sensitive to noise at night and rarely sleep more than a few hours. Simple things like taking a shower or popping out for a loaf of bread can be logistical headaches that used to be taken for granted with another adult in the the house. Add that to that fact that I'm trying to establish a business from home and you should have a mental picture of a completely manic house.
Thankfully Christmas is over but here in Australia it's the main Summer holiday and the kids are driving me barmy. The child minder who has our three year old, two days a week has been car-less and then ill all over the festive period and now that the temperature is soaring, I find my patience running out fast.
I'm not really complaining but having some friends or relatives close by who might offer to help once in a while, would be great. Those of you who are able to rely on a close family or a solid network of friends should feel fortunate.
All said and done, I love my kids dearly and I appreciate how fortunate I am.
......yes, I know what a tv is!
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Something tells me that dmpoole couldn't give a rats arse what his daughters boyfriends think of him.
I have a 3 year old and yes along the way, there has been a lot of heart ache at times. Its felt like my whole world been turned upside down from time to time and with no doubt, a lot more to come. I still wouldn't change any of it.
In short, she r0x!
Can I ask a question (and have you answer 100% honestly) is it worth it?
All I can see are the downsides, loss of free time, loss of income, wife gets a bit more strecthed
Lots of lovely'n's though so congrats too
I have a 3 year old and yes along the way, there has been a lot of heart ache at times. Its felt like my whole world been turned upside down from time to time and with no doubt, a lot more to come. I still wouldn't change any of it.
In short, she r0x!
Can I ask a question (and have you answer 100% honestly) is it worth it?
All I can see are the downsides, loss of free time, loss of income, wife gets a bit more strecthed
Lots of lovely'n's though so congrats too
Yes it is worth it
Yes there are upsets, you have less time to do the things you want, your sleep gets interrupted and so forth
But when you see your child get born, when she first grabs hold of your finger in her little fist, the first time she manages to say PAPA I don't care how big and hard you are or how much of a tough guy you may be your heart just melts
All I can say is my little Alex rocks my world and god help anyone who tries to mess with her
Yep, totally worth it. Aleksander (no, we don't have poor spelling, it's the Polish version of the name as the wife's family hail from there) is 23 months now and it's been the best 23 months of my life. Every day there's something new he does which amazes and amuses me and my wife (this morning it was taking his teddy's temperature with the digital thermometer). And I will admit that I was bawling like a baby when holding him for the first time after he was born.
After reading some of these posts I'm glad in a way that I didn't have a daughter - the worrying during teenage years would probably do me in!
edit: here he is on christmas eve, eyeing up the nibbles!
After reading some of these posts I'm glad in a way that I didn't have a daughter - the worrying during teenage years would probably do me in!
edit: here he is on christmas eve, eyeing up the nibbles!
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Can I ask a question (and have you answer 100% honestly) is it worth it?
All I can see are the downsides, loss of free time, loss of income, wife gets a bit more strecthed
Very very rewarding if you accept you have responsibilities to live upto. It is right you loose some of "your" time, you have to get up in the middle of the night and you have to try and understand that with the really young babies, crying is there way of telling you any one of a thousand of one things could be wrong.
But and it's a very big but it is more than compensated with the other things you get in return. Your first fathers day card and birthday card are always special. It's hard to put into words really but it's a really really special bond. I have been able to learn loads of new stuff because my son has different tastes and wants to know different things about the world, things I didn't necessarily care about or had interest in before.
One of my main hobbies and past times now is football coaching, something I would never have dreamed of getting involved in if it wasn't for my son. My quality of life has improved in so many different ways through this alone.
I have been truly blessed with having one amazing six year old son. He has enough of me in that means we share a lot of things in common but he is enough of his own person at this early age to be someone completely different. Plus we have another son coming in May next year.
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Besides my own daughters (and some of their friends) who I've had to advise, I'm also in charge of around 100 x 14 to 16 year old girls and you honestly wouldn't believe some of the sex facts they come out with.
One class of 33 girls said that all their sex education is passed down from their mates and all of them said they wouldn't be able to talk about it to their parents - how sad is that?
About 2 months ago I had a very quick impromptu sex lesson with them and one of the questions I asked was - 'How many times would a boy have to put his penis inside you before you had a chance of getting pregnant?'
Out of a class of 33 x 15/16 year old girls only one got the correct answer and she wasn't sure.
They probably have sex education at school but they just don't listen.
Over the last 2 months I've been letting them take the Realcare Babies home and its had the opposite effect with some of them because they now want babies of their own
And I tell you what men, after wearing this for 4 hours I was crippled and I have so much empathy for pregnant women now -
What a gay pose.