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Everything crossed for Threepwoods dad.
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Thank you both for your best wishes!
Just had news that he is out of surgery and will be moved to the High care bit as soon as bed is clear, within the hour they say.
The tumour was a 20cm ball sat on top of his kidney btw... It was pushing down on his organs.
We don't know yet if they had to remove the kidney or if any of his liver has been removed either, both of which were a possibility, nor do we know if it was cancer.
Right now I'm super happy he made it through the operation, stress levels dropping!
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I’ve just done a good deed for today. I was in Next shop buying some things and a fragile old man come into the store wanting to buy a belt.
His trousers kept falling down and he looked so fragile bless him. Grey washed out hair but didn’t look like he was homeless or taking drugs.
I was at the checkout and he couldn’t find his card and he walked off holding his trousers up.
The woman went to put the belt back and he walked away so I shouted over to her to bring it back and I shouted of the man to come back so I paid for it.
he tried it on and it fit, bless him. He was so happy and couldn’t say thank you enough.
His trousers kept falling down and he looked so fragile bless him. Grey washed out hair but didn’t look like he was homeless or taking drugs.
I was at the checkout and he couldn’t find his card and he walked off holding his trousers up.
The woman went to put the belt back and he walked away so I shouted over to her to bring it back and I shouted of the man to come back so I paid for it.
he tried it on and it fit, bless him. He was so happy and couldn’t say thank you enough.
Better than filming it in fairness.
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All I did was speak about it wasn't expecting karma points. I didn't film it or brag about it. Why shouldn't you say about when doing a good thing? I'm not bragging as it was just a belt but it's the principle. I just couldn't bare him walking away with no belt + having to keep pulling his trousers up walking around a busy centre.
How would people know about it if they never said anything? You hear about it every so often and it's nice to be seen doing something that wasn't for attention.
@Threepwood Ah that's good he's through the surgery. That is an insane sized tumour 
keeping my fingers crossed for you and glad your stress levels have dropped somewhat
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Woop woop day off tomorrow. Looking forward to a day filled with doing absolutely nothing
(with a few chores maybe thrown in)
keeping my fingers crossed for you and glad your stress levels have dropped somewhat .......
Woop woop day off tomorrow. Looking forward to a day filled with doing absolutely nothing
(with a few chores maybe thrown in)
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Left work at 7.30pm again, supposed to be on leave next week but someone booked me in for a site recce (something I'm good at and enjoy, only get to do it 1-2 times a year).
My boss gave me the all clear to not-use-my-holiday next week, WTF is going on?
Floating along at stress levels somewhere between demanding a payrise and lunching a cabbie.
My boss gave me the all clear to not-use-my-holiday next week, WTF is going on?
Floating along at stress levels somewhere between demanding a payrise and lunching a cabbie.
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Ask for a meeting. Don't stand for being taken like that. What time were you meant to leave work?
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I've actually got an insanely relaxed setup at work - it's a typical office environment and we don't have any timekeeping. All salaried. So if I oversleep or miss the bus, it's no big deal. Likewise I can leave early if I'm not feeling good etc etc. Meant to finish at 5.30pm but chose to stay and get stuff done.
The issue is that stupid tasks fill my day and slow me down, so I'm staying late to finish the bits of work I actually want to get done. Should've made it clearer that I can take leave if I want, I just want to see my workload completed.
I'm probably being ungrateful and also thick for choosing to stay late
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I've actually got an insanely relaxed setup at work - it's a typical office environment and we don't have any timekeeping. All salaried. So if I oversleep or miss the bus, it's no big deal. Likewise I can leave early if I'm not feeling good etc etc. Meant to finish at 5.30pm but chose to stay and get stuff done.
The issue is that stupid tasks fill my day and slow me down, so I'm staying late to finish the bits of work I actually want to get done. Should've made it clearer that I can take leave if I want, I just want to see my workload completed.
I'm probably being ungrateful and also thick for choosing to stay late
That changes everything! I would do that if my circumstances were a relaxed environment.
Sounds like you just keen. Don't know about the stress levels though if it's a relaxed environment it isn't coming from work.
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Great news, glad it went well.Thank you both for your best wishes!
Just had news that he is out of surgery and will be moved to the High care bit as soon as bed is clear, within the hour they say.
The tumour was a 20cm ball sat on top of his kidney btw... It was pushing down on his organs.
We don't know yet if they had to remove the kidney or if any of his liver has been removed either, both of which were a possibility, nor do we know if it was cancer.
Right now I'm super happy he made it through the operation, stress levels dropping!
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Aye, the work itself and office are good. It's just disorganised to the point of stress in terms of leaving our equipment lying around. I need to get better at leaving that out of mind, if 6-10 others aren't going to do their bit to tidy.That changes everything! I would do that if my circumstances were a relaxed environment.
About to leave for the Extinction Rebellion site in Trafalgar Square. I'm pretty sceptical about them but I've agreed to take part in a small repair event. Looking forward to being home by 2pm TBH.
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Everybody has to chip in. It's not nice leaving everything to one person. Enjoy!
Am relieved and a bit more optimistic about my ability to suppress pain perception from my knees - last night I felt no pain from the first brisk walk I've managed in years - 100m up and down a steep hill - and today no joint swelling. As before, there is awareness of extra sensation signals only from the damaged area present during motion. I conclude that the ability to disassociate the ability to feel pain by cognitive (thought) control only does not work by suppressing injury-associated raw vagus nerve afferent (brain inbound) signals in a major way. This I suspect is solely due to the specific targetted nature of the cognitive filter developed for the experiment - "dissociate high sensory stimulus magnitude from semantic interpretation" being effective. The filter was simply implemented by practice of thought-stopping using the mnemonic "no units, no (meaning) standards, no (meaning) values". Subsequently reduced to "No SUV", then to "No" - all producing the same beneficial effect.
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Does anyone know of any decent resources for just talking things out to people?
I witnessed an attempted suicide yesterday, the guy was a complete state (he'd jumped from a high window). I had my toddler in my arms too so I think it was a complex range of emotions. I had to stick the littleun in the car with Minions on so I could sit with this guy until the emergency services came. I can't shake the image of all the gore and the fear it's affected my lad somehow but it's impossible to communicate, and the hope that the guy is ok? Who do you go to for that?
I witnessed an attempted suicide yesterday, the guy was a complete state (he'd jumped from a high window). I had my toddler in my arms too so I think it was a complex range of emotions. I had to stick the littleun in the car with Minions on so I could sit with this guy until the emergency services came. I can't shake the image of all the gore and the fear it's affected my lad somehow but it's impossible to communicate, and the hope that the guy is ok? Who do you go to for that?
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New washing machine and separate tumble dryer bought yesterday, this living on your own game is expensive
It's only the beginning.
Don't worry about your toddler, his earliest memories as an adult will only go back to about 3 years of age. Do you have free telephone counseling services in the uk? They are usually charity based, and helpful.
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