Well Mum really upset me by not thinking about what she says.
I'm a fairly portly fellow but the weight around my face was well hidden by the fact I had a beard, I shaved it all off in an attempt to encourage myself to lose weight (which so far is working) - I hate how I look now whereas before I was just "meh" about it.
Mum got upset about the fact that I now look fat, and made me feel like she's ashamed of me, looked on the verge of tears, and said stupid **** like "I didn't realise you were so fat" and "Your whole face is all bloated" and I got annoyed and said "thanks, maybe offer words of encouragement about me losing weight instead of making me feel like ****" and she didn't apologise, and carried on about it. Made me feel like dirt and I went from looking forward to losing some weight, to feeling even more depressed and hating myself even more. It felt like I was being talked to by the school bully not by my own mother.
I retaliated by pointing out some of her flaws to see how she liked it (I was angry, and have never done that before in my life) and she started crying, and I then went out. I phoned her when I was out to apologise and say I was just hurt and angry that she would say things like that with no consideration for how I feel, but she didn't let me say anything other than "I'm sorry" before hanging up. She knows I'm self concious and have mental health issues etc) - And then I come home to a note from her saying I should "never speak to her again".
I was shocked to be honest, it just seemed out of character and uncaring and childish. Shouldn't dish it out if you can't take it.
Yes I feel bad because she's my Mum, we'll probably make up tomorrow, but I hope she apologises too, because she really hurt me.
I'm a fairly portly fellow but the weight around my face was well hidden by the fact I had a beard, I shaved it all off in an attempt to encourage myself to lose weight (which so far is working) - I hate how I look now whereas before I was just "meh" about it.
Mum got upset about the fact that I now look fat, and made me feel like she's ashamed of me, looked on the verge of tears, and said stupid **** like "I didn't realise you were so fat" and "Your whole face is all bloated" and I got annoyed and said "thanks, maybe offer words of encouragement about me losing weight instead of making me feel like ****" and she didn't apologise, and carried on about it. Made me feel like dirt and I went from looking forward to losing some weight, to feeling even more depressed and hating myself even more. It felt like I was being talked to by the school bully not by my own mother.
I retaliated by pointing out some of her flaws to see how she liked it (I was angry, and have never done that before in my life) and she started crying, and I then went out. I phoned her when I was out to apologise and say I was just hurt and angry that she would say things like that with no consideration for how I feel, but she didn't let me say anything other than "I'm sorry" before hanging up. She knows I'm self concious and have mental health issues etc) - And then I come home to a note from her saying I should "never speak to her again".
I was shocked to be honest, it just seemed out of character and uncaring and childish. Shouldn't dish it out if you can't take it.
Yes I feel bad because she's my Mum, we'll probably make up tomorrow, but I hope she apologises too, because she really hurt me.
