Upset neighbours

Tony Edwards · 2 May 2023 at 21:35

theone8181 said:
I've told the kids to not be so rowdy and to try and go on the street more (we live on a culdesac) and maybe give other neighbours gardens a go. There are 3 other family's with similar aged kids, but they always tend to go in my garden so hopefully this will pacify the neighbours a bit.

Maybe the other parents are a bit more strict and they dont allow screaming in their gardens so the kids come to yours where its a free for all.

Stumble Bum · 2 May 2023 at 22:20

kieran_read said:
At the end of the day the law is up until 11pm (i think it's 11pm) it ok and only after where noise can be reported as anti-social.

This isn't true, a statutory noise nuisance can occur at any time of the day or night.

Haggisman · 2 May 2023 at 22:48

kieran_read said:
Unless after all this we find out you bought them a drum set, amplifier and a guitar and they're out their screaming death metal... then op... you're a dick

Depends if they're any good surely? Would be a welcome change from all the hip hop "urban" crap the "yoof" listen to these days

Dis86 · 2 May 2023 at 22:50

kieran_read said:
It doesn't concern your neighbours if it's earlier enough in the evening.

At the end of the day the law is up until 11pm (i think it's 11pm) it ok and only after where noise can be reported as anti-social.

Ultimatly considering their ages I doubt they are even out that late what 7-8pm? I hardly think that's late at all. I don't even have kids but this seems like an over-reaction to me on children playing outside, I bet they're the kind of neighbours that complain kids spend too much inside playing games in front of the TV too.

I don't know if your children and hit the frequency of bats or something but shutting the windows tends to drown out most noise so I can't imagine they are screeming to such a level the windows are shaking or something. I think if it's later at night 8pm onwards or something then sure you can start to say yeh it's be inconsiderate.

You can ask your kids to keep it down but kids will be kids at the end of the day.

Unless after all this we find out you bought them a drum set, amplifier and a guitar and they're out their screaming death metal... then op... you're a dick

Completely inaccurate. There are no time controls on noise.
Additionally you shouldn't have to shut your windows. People are allowed to have their windows open and enjoy their own outdoor spaces.

Kids will be kids. The cop out of feckless parents everywhere.

Rroff · 2 May 2023 at 23:02

Dis86 said:
Completely inaccurate. There are no time controls on noise.
Additionally you shouldn't have to shut your windows. People are allowed to have their windows open and enjoy their own outdoor spaces.

Kids will be kids. The cop out of feckless parents everywhere.

There might not be a strict legal time window but anti-social noise between 11pm and 7am and so on can see action taken against you: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/noise-nuisances-how-councils-deal-with-complaints

EDIT: Or other times if that is your point - it doesn't have to be night time noise to be legally unreasonable.

Dis86 · 2 May 2023 at 23:03

Rroff said:
There might not be a strict legal time window but anti-social noise between 11pm and 7am and so on can see action taken against you: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/noise-nuisances-how-councils-deal-with-complaints

Your own link

"Councils can investigate complaints of statutory nuisance to tackle noise produced at any time of day or night."

Rroff · 2 May 2023 at 23:07

Dis86 said:
Your own link

"Councils can investigate complaints of statutory nuisance to tackle noise produced at any time of day or night."

I edited my post above wasn't sure which way around you were commenting on it from.

Haggisman · 2 May 2023 at 23:40

Of course if you do phone the council and tell them "Hi, I'd like to complain about some kids laughing and playing on a trampoline", I'm pretty sure the kids wouldn't be the only ones laughing

wildman · 2 May 2023 at 23:40

throwaway4372 said:
Get your kids into chess

or teach your kids the primary use of a letterbox ?.................

Hagar · 3 May 2023 at 03:24

"Little children should be seen and not heard."

I seem to remember that one. Probably from school.

cheesefest · 3 May 2023 at 05:49

IvanDobskey said:
Kids playing is one thing, but constant screaming and screeching is not on.

Oh babies coming into work that just do random high pitch noises when their parent(s) don’t stop it is awful.

tom_e · 3 May 2023 at 05:56

cheesefest said:
Oh babies coming into work that just do random high pitch noises when their parent(s) don’t stop it is awful.

What would you like us to do with the baby? Gag them?
Babies gonna baby.

cheesefest · 3 May 2023 at 06:01

tom_e said:
What would you like us to do with the baby? Gag them?
Babies gonna baby.

Just a sush or a kiss usually stops this.

Also don’t like parents thrusting a tablet on their 15 month old to play noisy games. Lazy parenting. Listening to Peppa Pig and the likes for 20 mins at the doctors waiting room was annoying

theone8181 · 3 May 2023 at 06:07

cheesefest said:
Just a sush or a kiss usually stops this.

Also don’t like parents thrusting a tablet on their 15 month old to play noisy games. Lazy parenting. Listening to Peppa Pig and the likes for 20 mins at the doctors waiting room was annoying

We bought headphones for that reason, although tablets are more for long journeys. Make car trips much more pleasant

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tom_e · 3 May 2023 at 06:08

cheesefest said:
Just a sush or a kiss usually stops this.

As a parent of a 5 week old baby, it really doesn't. If they want to get grumpy they're going to do it regardless.

godinman · 3 May 2023 at 06:45

GD doing what GD does best, some sensible answers by adults with fully developed frontal cortexes, and then you have Dis86 & cheesefest :cry:

Deleted member 77746 · 3 May 2023 at 07:10

If it’s a sensible time let them get on with it. That’s part of been a kid, they will grow out of it eventually (hopefully).

Or just tell the kids to try to be a bit more quiet though.

Rroff · 3 May 2023 at 07:10

tom_e said:
As a parent of a 5 week old baby, it really doesn't. If they want to get grumpy they're going to do it regardless.

Depends on person and baby, and what is making them cry, quite a bit, some people have more of a knack and/or understanding than others. Some babies will be super grumpy for 9 out of 10 people but respond to that 1 in 10, etc. etc.

I'm one of the people who seems to have a knack for it, but it doesn't work for every baby.

Deleted member 77746 · 3 May 2023 at 07:11

godinman said:
GD doing what GD does best, some sensible answers by adults with fully developed frontal cortexes, and then you have Dis86 & cheesefest

They haven’t fully developed yet. They still growing up and screaming.

Haggisman · 3 May 2023 at 07:14

tom_e said:
What would you like us to do with the baby? Gag them?

Based on some of the replies in this thread, hitting them until they're quiet seems to be the advised solution

tom_e said:
Babies gonna baby.

Stop being so feckless :cry:

cheesefest said:
Just a sush or a kiss usually stops this.

You've been very lucky with your kids if this is all it takes to stop them crying!

cheesefest said:
Also don’t like parents thrusting a tablet on their 15 month old to play noisy games. Lazy parenting. Listening to Peppa Pig and the likes for 20 mins at the doctors waiting room was annoying

So... You don't want the kid making any noise, but the parent also isn't allowed to do anything to stop it? 10/10 logic

FWIW I agree re. noisy games, and while I will give mine my phone to keep them entertained, the sound will be off.

If you have a better suggestion on how to keep a bored & miserable 1-2 year old distracted and quiet then I'm happy to hear it, as they sure as hell aren't going to sit there quietly staring at the walls for 20 minutes.

I assume you use those 20 minutes productively rather than just staring at your own phone, otherwise that would be a bit hypocritical, wouldn't it. :cry: