We never do anything special now. Probably did first 2 years we were together. My wife was working looking after covid patients and I was building terrain for some wargaming. I got kids from school, fed, played, bathed them and put them in bed. Wife came home about 8:30pm, had a bowl of noodles, bath, and we went to bed shattered to be woke up at 4am next morning by our middle kid. So yeah, we do **** all because we literally can't.
For some reason my Facebook feed was full of the usual lovey dovey posts and pictures of couple out with images of their food. No idea how they managed to get on my feed as I have not seen any posts from them for ages as my settings are set up to not follow or show posts from them because of all these posts. I use Facebook for groups and comms for close friends only.
Anyway, we can't get anyone to look after our kids as we have one who has ASD and ADHD, not even their grandmother wants to look after them, can't handle it. So even for us to go out for an hour for a bite to eat is extremely rare. We do have a friend who has ADHD kids of her own who is looking after them this afternoon after school, whilst we go to another school (special one) to check it out for next year for our eldest. Even then its not a time to chill or have fun for us.