Virginity

[TW]Fox;13282162 said:
Why is it strange? Some people are like that. I waited until I was 21 and was with somebody I really, really liked before I did it. Whats wrong with that? It might not be the norm but it's hardly weird.
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Kudos to you :)

I always find it annoying when someone is taking the mickey because your still a virgin,at the end of the day its only a word,you'll find that 50% of boys and girls will lie about their virginity because they think its shameful to have not lost it.
 
Voltar said:
Ok, I see that this is getting derailed somewhat so I'll pose another thought to you all:

I'm sure you've all read the thread about the girl selling her virginity for 2.6 million.
Why did none of you find her age strange?
Is it not strange in this day and age to be a virgin much after the age of say 18? Do you perceive it as weird that someone would 'wait' or indeed would you wonder how they could have actually made it refusing or ignoring all that sex?
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i think you need to take into account the different circles people hang in. my little brother for instance is 21 and still a virgin (afaik) and has chosen to wait until he gets married to have sex which is fair enough.

i've got a group of football mates who whenever they go out women are the first things they go for, if they pull within the first 5 minutes of the pub then that's all you see of them for the evening. i've another set of mates who when we go out we stick together, and if women come to us then fine, having a good time is more important.

i also don't really belive that everyone is having rampant sex behind every curtain or bush (fnarr fnarr) so i don't think it is strange for people to wait.
 
I think if the girl was a virgin it'd put me off for a one-night stand, because it's fairly likely all she'd feel is quite a lot of pain which isn't much of a turn-on for me. If it was part of a possible relationship though, I wouldn't mind too much.
 
For a girl loosing her virginty isn't incredibly pleasant; it hurts, is akward and embarassing (hm, maybe I just did it with the wrong guy? :p). I don't understand why people care about it so much. My bf knows I've had other partners and it doesn't keep him awake at night! It's what we do together and not what we've done with other people that counts. It's not a number to be proud or embarassed about it's just part of who you are.
Apparently popping a girls cherry isn't that great an experience either as it hurts a bit but that's just what I've been told, not sure if it's the same in most experiences.

Waiting till you're married or whatever to lose it doesn't make it any more valuable. It just means you haven;t tried before you buy ;)
 
penski said:
I'm snipped - sex is all about feeling good.

Yes, there is an emotional connection but that is just 'feeling good together'.

*n
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ah....

something I couldn't do is the snip but seeing your tatoos it probably was a piece of cake compared to the tatoo needle.

My brother has had the snip and compared it to a kick in the nuts. :eek:
 
Voltar said:
One thing I was wondering is: men are pleased when the girl is a virgin. Women are not so pleased.
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I find it more the other way around tbh...


Women tend not to mind whether a man is a virgin or not, where-as i'd prefer a non virgin.

As stated above, it's an enjoyable past time, virgins generally suck (no pun intended) and i'd much prefer a woman with at least a little experience so that she knows what she's doing...
 
Voltaire said it best:

"It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge."
 
I'm Muslim and a Virgin. I'm Proud of myself, It doesn't really matter to me. I'll just lose it when I get married.

Easy as. :)
 
It's quite a tough one:

You get someone back to bed with you and they are 22 (like the £2.6M one) blurt out 'it's my 1st time' or some other cliche. Then what? Lose your boner or lose your desire?

One of your friends tells you that he/she is still a virgin. Yet in the time you've known them they have talked and joked with you and the others about sex etc. How does that affect your view of them if at all?

If you found out a guy or girl who you're interested in (and vice versa) is a virgin what do you think? To put my own opinion in here, I'd probably think nothing of it and be flattered that they would want to give it to me as it were. Mainly this is due to my age (21)
 
Well I'm still a virgin at age 20, mostly to my crippling lack of self-confidence and low self esteem, lack of time/money and only going to the same pub where decent girls seem to be sparse.
I don't think I'd be too bothered when I lost it if I knew I actually had the confidence to get to that situation. Would prefer someone wit ha bit of experience. Could think of it as a tutorial session :p. Also get a bit torn between waiting for someone special and jumping in with anyone. On balance I don't think I can afford to wait for a relationship, and would do it with someone as long as they were a nice person/good company, not a village bicycle.
Just hope it comes along soon. All my other friends are slowly dropping into relationships and I feel liek a 5 year old in comparison to their sexual experiences.
 
Interesting post RossG.

I think that the main factor from what I've been told is the great anxiety in the inner debate regarding the waiting part and the going for it part.
 
Lost mine to my girlfriend at the same time she did :)

Not really awkward, pretty good actually, was really glad I waited till her unlike all my friends who threw it away on drunken nights.

Must agree with the emotional connection thing, that does exist to us.

Feels pretty good too though, and is a super workout :D (for me at least :lol)
 
Voltar said:
It's quite a tough one:

You get someone back to bed with you and they are 22 (like the £2.6M one) blurt out 'it's my 1st time' or some other cliche. Then what? Lose your boner or lose your desire?

One of your friends tells you that he/she is still a virgin. Yet in the time you've known them they have talked and joked with you and the others about sex etc. How does that affect your view of them if at all?

If you found out a guy or girl who you're interested in (and vice versa) is a virgin what do you think? To put my own opinion in here, I'd probably think nothing of it and be flattered that they would want to give it to me as it were. Mainly this is due to my age (21)
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He was 24. He's been as good with the naughty jokes as any other of my mates. He was fairly convincingly comfortable with everything until the VERY last minute when nerves caught up with him and the Melty Man turned up. Well, down.

TBH it was a relief when he admitted it was his first go, to then know it was mostly nerves holding him back and not something else. Certainly didn't bother me.

Also, sometimes, it can take a month or even a couple more before you get into the groove with a new partner. But it's oh so sweet when you do.

He'd just been too busy with life to end up in a situation where he got close enough to a girl for things to happen... You don't build up a relationship when your timetable of activities means that a request for a drink comes back with "Umm, well, a fortnight Tuesday I have about four hours free, how's that? But I'll need to rush off after..."

As it happened he broke his leg, and as I'd visit him during occasional evenings to keep him company (he couldn't really go out), eventually things bloomed :)

If it was a one-night-stand situation (never really done those, certainly not with anyone I didn't already know), I imagine it'd be a very odd situation. I'd probably back out...
 
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