Weird situation - about a girl thread

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Ok so I have perhaps a bit of an odd "problem". Maybe not so much of a problem, but we'll see (maybe typing will help).

Ok, I've recently met someone I really genuinely like. I won't go into details, but needless to say, she's a friendly girl, especially towards me.

Now this week she's stayed at mine twice. No problem I hear you say? Well I agreee, but as I said, I genuinely like her. Not just "Oh yeah I'd hit that" kind of thing, bbut interest in her properly. She seems to react well to me, and has fed me several compliments, however I'm not entirely sure whether I ought to take this further.

Maybe a forum full of computer forum guys isn''t the BEST place to pose this sort of question. But basically it's a case of do I actually go for something, or do I leave it how it is for now.


Normally I'd make a real move myself, But the fact that she's a couple years older than me really is a bit of a factor... perhaps I'm slightly intimidated by the age factor as one girl here turned me down on that basis not TOO long ago, but is this actually a factor, and should I let it get to me.



Anyway, I am slightly drunk having recently got back from the union, so apologies if this doesn't really make sense, but talking about it might help :)


And please TRY to avoid "TTIUWP" and "Hit it hard" comments etc. They really don't help.
 
Insanity said:
Age isnt an issue, anybody that claims that it is, is just looking for an excuse.
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See I would take the same opinion, as I have a large number of friends older than me. It's just sometimes weird them being in last year at uni and me being in my first!
 
I don't really think male/female friendships like you've described ever last. The situation normally comes about because there's a spark, and it will either end up with a more normal friendship, or something more.

I had a friend like that once, and one night I got stupidly drunk and kissed him. It really was just a natural progression from the amount of time we spent together and lots of physical contact (lying in his arms watching movies etc). After some intial drunken "omg what did I just do", in front of him, we spoke about it and ended up together for 3 years. Not the happiest 3 years of my life, but that was never really related to how we got together ;).
 
Vixen said:
I don't really think male/female friendships like you've described ever last. The situation normally comes about because there's a spark, and it will either end up with a more normal friendship, or something more.

I had a friend like that once, and one night I got stupidly drunk and kissed him. It really was just a natural progression from the amount of time we spent together and lots of physical contact (lying in his arms watching movies etc). After some intial drunken "omg what did I just do", in front of him, we spoke about it and ended up together for 3 years. Not the happiest 3 years of my life, but that was never really related to how we got together ;).
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This post confused me :(

Does that post = thumbs up or thuimbs down and why? :p
 
badgermonkey said:
This post confused me :(

Does that post = thumbs up or thuimbs down and why? :p
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It's not likely that things will stay the way they are for any length of time, and it is probably this way because there's an attraction between you. It worked for me (a long time ago :p), so it can work.

I think that's a thumbs up, I'm kinda tired.
 
If you've recently met her then you don't have as much to lose as you would if you had been friends for a while (like Vixen would have). So just go for it.

I'm in a very similar situion, with someone two years older than me (I'm 20.8 :o), however it's more of a distance thing for me (she's about an hour away, which doesn't seem much I know). Decisions :)
 
definitely don't let the age thing stop you, i just turned 21 couple of days ago, been with my gf for over 2years, and shes 18months younger than me!

She was 17 when i was 19 when we started going out, i never think about the age difference, except when she takes the mick for me being an old man now :(
 
Take a chance and see what happens, you'll never know otherwise. Life is for living not pondering what if. The age thing is nothing, would only be a problem if the difference was massive or you were younger.
Go for it ;)
 
If you want to make a move, its better to do it sooner rather than later, you'll end up in the friendship zone otherwise ....... :(
 
dbailey10 said:
If she's staying at yours, surely your already in there?!
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Thats what I was thinking :)

/seriously though mate, just tell her how you feel, and go from there, by the sounds of it your half way there anyway so just go in, don't do it when your drunk either, that just makes a serious mess of things.

Just recently we had a new girl at work start, she seemed quite nice, prettly little thing she is too. Thought she liked me cause she kept following me round, being really friendly, bit of flirting.

So when I asked her out for a drink and she said yes, I thought great :)

Saw her before she left work that day and said hey look lets swap numbers whe she went all funny on me. She then ignored me for two weeks, but that wasn't enough she went round telling anyone that would listen that I was pestering her for sex !!

She's now got a boyfriend but was disappointed to learn that I'd moved on and was no longer interested in her.
 
Behemoth said:
She's now got a boyfriend but was disappointed to learn that I'd moved on and was no longer interested in her.
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good lad with the moving on business :cool:

hard to accept at first, but theres no point getting stuck in a rut over a girl, there's plenty of them about :cool:
 
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