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Just get on with it. Stop hanging around and do the deed. 40 is not too old for a man and in fact might encourage you to stay fit for longer. I don't remember any kids getting abuse for having older parents. Younger parents do tend to be a little smug though. For women, problems start from 30 - it becomes far more difficult to conceive and there is a greater risks involved, both to mother and child.

We started young. I'm 39, my eldest is 18 in April and youngest started secondary school in September.
 
OP - I'm nearly 38 and the missus is 29. We had our first child 5 months ago. I can't describe how amazing it is to be a dad. We plan to have another ASAP :)

I think you're worrying too much. My parents were in their 40's when they had me......no problems whatsoever. People are staying healthier and living longer, so I think the age issue is slightly less of a problem these days. Take my dad; touching 80 and still incredibly active. He actually fell down the stairs last week and all he had to show for it was a bump on the head :p As long as you're generally fit & healthy, you have another decade to go before you have to worry about being too old, IMO.

As for the money; I don't think many people are totally "secure" when they have kids, are they? We're not. I work part time and go to school part time, and the wife does freelance design work from home. We're not in major debt or anything, more like just keeping our head above water. As long as you have a plan and some prospect of a stable financial future, I wouldn't worry too much.

Just do it! :D
 
I think a life without children is strange. They are fantastic things, and thats only my experience of growing up in a large family, let alone having one.

My parents have always said it's the best decision they have ever made, and whilst I'm not sure if I believe them, I certainly think it gives a more fruitful life, not to mention that my parents will ALWAYS have people covering their backs.
 
The age of the dad is a problem really, but if the mother is older than 40 you can get problems with the child so, before then :)
 
I find it really weird that there is more than 10 years between some siblings, I'm 24 and my brother is 26.

I also find it weird that some of you are talking about 3rd, 4th and in some cases 5th child! :eek:

Call me sheltered, I don't mind but I want 1, maybe 2, and I want them close together so I can actually enjoy my retirement and not have my children still living at home lol

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I think a life without children is strange. They are fantastic things, and thats only my experience of growing up in a large family, let alone having one.
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Fantastic? they cost an average of £10k per kid to raise, they could become chavs or criminals, you don't get that with a dog and they don't ask for money every weekend
 
My mum was nearly 40 when she had me. Never caused any issues at all. She was / still is much more active and a better parent than 90% of parents I know.

P.s If your kid gets bullied at school it won't be because you are old. I never got bullied at school and I played warhammer and magic the gathering and people knew my mum was quite old so fear not.
 
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If your kid gets bullied at school it won't be because you are old. I never got bullied at school and I played warhammer and magic the gathering and people knew my mum was quite old so fear not.
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Everyone knows that only gingers, fat kids or kids with glasses get bullied lol
 
36 and have an 18 month old daughter, wish I'd become a dad years ago. Seriously folks there's never a "best time" to do it, get on with it if you want to have kids, you'll just make it work and it is the most amazing addition to your life.

We won't be able to afford childcare for a second child for a few years (until our first is at nursery) so I'll be over 40 by the time the next one arrives :( which I feel is a little late. If one of us wasn't working it'd actually be cheaper just to have a second child now, got to love how daft the benefits system is but alas we'll wait.
 
Like others have said it doesn't matter a great deal. My dad is 74 this year and I am 25. Growing up he used to run around with me and play as much as anyone else. Even now he still works part time and is always outside. Age is just a number.

At school they just thought it was funny my dad was alive in ww2. I never got any stick for it.
 
My mum had me when she was 17/18 shes 45ish now:p But theres 5 of us:
me 26
sister 24
brother 15
sister 3
brother 2

So shes gonna be an old mum by the time the youngest is 18 my mum is crazy:p

I dont want kids, i just want a partner to have conventional intercourse with.
 
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Meh, I've known people to have fathers who are 70 when they are in their 20's.

Again, it's the both of you who have to make the decision, I'd love to have a kid one day, but my current lady practically hates the things :o
 
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