What are your thoughts?

Jenjey said:
For the boys I know, it doesn't matter whether the girl is nicer or not, it's how much further she'll go!
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boys yes, men no ;)

knip said:
I think i'd have to say if you go back to theirs and its just sex and nothing comes from it, then you had a fun evening (providing you are able to handle that) and if it develops from there and thats what both parties want then thats all good too.

It may sound weird, but to me, whilst sex can be amazing in a relationship, it can also be just as good (although not on such a deep level) as casual sex with someone you dont see again, or just have sex with on a casual basis. As long as both sides know that's what it is.
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I can see both sides to this, I've had casual encounters which have been pretty bad, and i've had casual with ex partners which were amazing, and casual with an ex which were quite frankly disappointing, though sex with the person while in a relationship was amazing, so i feel it more depends on the sexual chemistry between the people
 
mac1st3 said:
i feel it more depends on the sexual chemistry between the people
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This is very true. Lust can also play a big part in things. Sometimes (both girls and boys in my opinion) people just want sex at that moment, and arent thinking past anything beyond that. If something then develops then fair enough. Or maybe thats just me and my sex drive!

Ive never had sex with someone I didnt know for a while beforehand, but I have at the same time had casual sex with people. Just not the type for a one night stand because there has to be some kind of connection there.
 
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Just because you've swapped numbers doesn't suddenly mean that you're committed to each other or even that he'll blink and have tunnel vision only for you. Where on Earth have you got that idea from? It seems a little naive of you to assume that life is that black and white.

I know plenty of guys who are the same way Jenjey, but equally there are many, many more who are not; they just fade into the background as they're very likely the same ones you happily pass at the bar without even second's notice and this is probably because they're simply not crass enough to try and get you into bed; they're happier to just enjoy themselves.

Here's a general rule for you: any guy that approaches you on a night out is more than likely after one thing because the other guys that usually won't approach you in such a manner. If you're unsure which demographic these guys fall into: step back a little and try and work out if the guy is up himself or is turning on the cheese-charm and stop getting suckered into it.

Myself, I chat to anyone and everyone when I'm out but that doesn't mean I'm after sex. A lot of the time, I'm perfectly happy to banter with people then just go my seperate way. How odd would it be for one girl I made laugh and maybe even swapped numbers to suddenly think we have eyes only for eachother? You're living in a fairy-tale. The only thing that would be making me think is that she's got issues. Unless you are literally committed to someone (perhaps after having 'the talk') you have absolutely no obligation to them bar any social altruism (i.e. not ****ing them about/over).
 
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Woah woah woah...I'm not saying any of those things or living in a fairytale! Apart from the fact that I just wanted the opinion of people on the forums on this matter, I don't think what you're saying at all. But err...good comments.
 
Then what's the issue here? Unless there is some larger picture rattling around in your brain and this thread is simply part of that madness, I can only assume that this thread exists because it was/is a genuine concern on your part; something which it shouldn't be.
 
Not my part, one of my girl friends and we were all just giving our opinion on it and I thought I'd see what people said on here because the majority are male. It was more about whether it was a bad thing to go back to someone's house after a night out and then if you do that whether the guy will lose respect for you or if it could still continue on to something more after that. Got the answers now!
 
Righto. For the record: I think it's entirely dependant on individual circumstance. You just need to be good at reading situations and people not to make the mistakes which will inevitably happen but that doesn't mean the other gender is out to get you. It's just that some people are bumwipes. ;)
 
mac1st3 said:
meet a girl in a club, if things were going well, yea i'd go back and see how things progress, there's not much to lose unless you're a moron who doesn't use condoms with strangers, but as for the dating side of things, it's obviously not unheard of for people to actually find someone perfect for them in clubs, so I don't see why not
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its not just your penis that can allow you to be infected with an STD ;)
 
Captain Planet said:
You talk some crap. Two condoms will most definitely split because the rubber pulling against eachother will cause them to.

Seems like big dave is just out of sex education too, or evidently not it may seem.
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Or maybe you totally ignored what i wrote and made up your own assumptions? I said if you ignored the splitting issue as i was simply talking maths. Im fully aware of it thanky ou. But well done for trying to be irrationally aggressive and offensive for no reason.
 
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likwid said:
Clubs are absolutely the worst place to find a girlfriend, they are completely artificial environments and everyone's judgement is in their pants. That's not to say it doesn't happen, but the absolute best way to meet girls is either through your social circle or by joining some kind of club or further education. For example, joining a night class in a foreign language. You can almost guarantee there will nice girls there and of course there will be class nights out. If you don't meet your mate you will also increase your social circle, not to mention learning a foreign language/skill/etc, getting out of the house and using your brain.
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I get the impression clubs were never your thing, more of a pub man?

Most people between 18-27 (arguable but just my guess at a range) enjoy frequent clubbing because there are not so many commitments in life, depending on when you meet your partner and then things start changing.

If you happen to meet them in a club and you get on well and you start meeting up later or have a real good time together. Why is it any different then if you had met outside of the club? Sure you had been drinking. But to be honest you don't get drunk in clubs because its so expensive, especially on a student life income. So really you just met each other and had a good time dancing etc.

You can meet girls doing just about everything. It just so happens that the vast majority of people going clubbing thus your going to meet a tonne of them there who odly enough arnt all hoes and it happens to be quite fun dancing and drinking with the opposite sex. Seems like a winner to me.
 
What's with all the killjoys in this thread? If you're worried about STI's wear a condom. You're not 100% protected but the odds are extremely in your favour.
 
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