I'm an ABS convert. I actually don't like riding bikes without it now. I don't believe in the "removal of control" theory at all. In my mind ABS only does one thing- change the consequences when the human element fails, i.e. instead of locking up (and usually, falling off), you activate the ABS. I have failed, and failed hard, multiple times over the years.
It's definitely worth knowing how ABS feels so you don't freak out the first time it happens, but even with modern ABS the "best" way to brake is still to the limit of grip rather than the limit of ABS. I.e. just jamming the lever on is fine in an emergency, but you don't stop as quickly as braking to the limits of grip. Way better than locking up and falling off though