What do you get from getting married?

Haggisman said:
No different from celebrating the anniversary of when you got together.
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I don't disagree with you.

In response to the posit Serious question. Marriage shows nothing to me. It would show great commitment if divorce was impossible or even difficult to obtain, but it isn't., I was merely pointing out that like any type of anniversary, your wedding anniversary shows commitment when it reaches those lengthy milestones; conversely, like any type of anniversary, it won't show commitment if you break it early on.

I hope that makes sense.
 
RDM said:
I am making no comment at all on levels of commitment, that is down to the individual couple, just outlining some of the legal consequences of cohabiting rather than being married.
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Sorry that last bit wasn’t aimed at you. :)

You are of course right which is why I have said all along I do want to get married, it's just a shame you have to have a bit of paper and a couple of gold rings to be entitled to these "rights" when in fact you can be just as committed and in some cases more so without them.
 
J.T said:
You are of course right which is why I have said all along I do want to get married, it's just a shame you have to have a bit of paper and a couple of gold rings to be entitled to these "rights" when in fact you can be just as committed and in some cases more so without them.
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I disagree, the bit of paper is actually a very easy way of determining if the couple have made that commitment. Without it then it is difficult to say if someone is just a girlfriend, just living together or actually in a committed relationship. The bit of paper makes it legally unambiguous. Considering how much (misplaced in my opinion) antipathy there is towards marriage on these boards would you really want the full rights of marriage given automatically just because you live with someone?
 
RDM said:
The bit of paper makes it legally unambiguous. Considering how much (misplaced in my opinion) antipathy there is towards marriage on these boards would you really want the full rights of marriage given automatically just because you live with someone?
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I can't quiet put my finger on why these forums have such a high level of misogyny. Often thinly veiled as 'humour' but in threads like this not even disguised.
 
RDM said:
Considering how much (misplaced in my opinion) antipathy there is towards marriage on these boards would you really want the full rights of marriage given automatically just because you live with someone?
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After 20 years together and three children, yes I would and I don’t think that’s too much to ask either.

But again as I keep saying I still want to marry and I’m not arguing against marriage at all I am just saying being married for 5 years does not prove you are any more or less committed to each other than a none married couple who have also been together for 5 years.
 
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platypus said:
Like anything; when you see people celebrating their 10th, 20th, 30th, 40th, etc wedding anniversary it shows commitment.
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Which has nothing to do with being married. It's the years that show the commitment, not the marriage.

I'll use a couple I know well as an example. They got together when they were in their early 20s. They've been together for 30 years. They have a son. They have a house they bought together, with a mortgage.

Can you argue that they haven't shown commitment?

Can you argue that it would have shown more commitment if they had done exactly the same thing after formally registering their relationship with the local authorities (i.e. got married)?
 
J.T said:
After 20 years together and three children, yes I would and I don’t think that’s too much to ask either.
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I am not talking about you specifically. But more generally how do you legally prove commitment? When do you think cohabiting couples should be given the same legal rights as married couples?
 
Woden said:
Tax advantages? I think you are looking at this from the wrong angle.
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Indeed. If that's the only reason you're thinking of getting married, do us a favour and don't bother.

Personally, I don't understand why people don't want to marry the woman of their dreams. However, we live in a time where people don't have to, and can make that choice.
 
Almost 5 months in marriage so can't say atm :D

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Been with (Helen) 7 years engaged after 2 years. Personally I wanted to marry her and felt it was the right time and choice to make
 
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Admiral Huddy said:
It does. I'm pretty sure they leave it somewhere at the airport checking desk on the way home.
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I'm doing it wrong then.

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You can say what you like about commitment and such and honestly I cannot say you unmarried couples aren't commited but for a lot of people and in the eyes of the world being married demonstrates a higher degree of commitment.

I could have told my wife we were committed blah blah till I was blue in the face but for her it wouldn't have meant as much as marrying her.
 
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Angilion said:
Which has nothing to do with being married. It's the years that show the commitment, not the marriage.

I'll use a couple I know well as an example. They got together when they were in their early 20s. They've been together for 30 years. They have a son. They have a house they bought together, with a mortgage.

Can you argue that they haven't shown commitment?

Can you argue that it would have shown more commitment if they had done exactly the same thing after formally registering their relationship with the local authorities (i.e. got married)?
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I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall here, but I was stating how your wedding anniversary is a sign of commitment, one of many possibilities.

I did not say that being in a relationship for years does not show commitment. I'll even quote myself:

platypus said:
I don't disagree with you.

In response to the posit Serious question. Marriage shows nothing to me. It would show great commitment if divorce was impossible or even difficult to obtain, but it isn't., I was merely pointing out that like any type of anniversary, your wedding anniversary shows commitment when it reaches those lengthy milestones; conversely, like any type of anniversary, it won't show commitment if you break it early on.
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You had said that marriage would only show commitment if divorce was impossible. I was pointing out that any type of relationship only shows commitment if its for a length of time.

Perhaps I should be asking you why "Marriage doesn't show commitment for you", when by any sensible logic a marriage of a number of years surely shows commitment, the availability of Divorce being easy or impossible to obtain is surely irrelevant?
 
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MaxP779 said:
Apart from a ring, the guy does get a ring right? Are there tax advantages or what?
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Perhaps, depending on your country, but the real moolah is to be generated by forcing them to go to sex parties held in some of the finer hotels in London. There you can expect them to be rented for anything up to five thousand pounds for a night (1am to 5am) which is a tremendous return on investment and only one of the reasons why you should get a wife and not shares.

If you're very clever and good at forward planning then you will get a wife who is an accountant or tax advisor and she can increase your returns on her body being sold to other men whilst keeping things legal!

I hope this helps you get married and get the financial gains from a woman that you expect.
 
Tattysnuc said:
I proposed to my now wife after 5 months, and are still very happily married 6.25 years after we'd originally met (married for 4.25 of those)

I never thought I'd get married, neither did my wife. Proposing was one of the most impulsive things I'd ever done - and very out of character, but it was right for me, and never a day goes past with me regretting in.

Apologies if I make you feel nauseous.
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likewise, knew my missus for a bout a year mostly in a long distance relationship at first but then got married and couldnt be happier
 
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