What is defined as cheating?

helpimcrap · 13 Mar 2009 at 16:38

touching in an inappropriate manner. people flirt, it happens.

chucky · 13 Mar 2009 at 16:46

Its gotta be a mixture of the intent of the action, and the act itself.

Kissing another girl, may not be cheating, but it depends on the intent.

Neodite · 13 Mar 2009 at 16:50

chucky said:
Its gotta be a mixture of the intent of the action, and the act itself.

Kissing another girl, may not be cheating, but it depends on the intent.

Depends what you mean from kissing, if you mean a real kiss, how many intentions could you possibly have? lol

Abit OT, but it may tie in, i also dont agree with the hole "Its your hen night, your last night of freedem, its ok if you sleep with him" If thats the case surly it was ok all along?

I flirt with a girl if im single and find them attractive, i dont flirt with female mates when im with somone either, a little goes on if im single however, but only things like "niss ass" never more..

Maybe im just old fasiond

On yet anouther note, affairs should be ileagal if proved

Dinomania · 13 Mar 2009 at 16:51

Neodite said:
So what if one day your BF was suddenly like that with one or 2 girls (seems your not use to it as he currently does not)?

I daresay if it was sudden, I'd be surprised and a little uncomfortable with it to begin with. But I'd have to get used to it, it's only fair.

Neodite said:
I take it you just mean you are like this with close freinds? In that case its not really flirting.

Oh? Why is it not flirting? But no, I wouldn't be all close like that with a stranger.

Neodite said:
And in your other posts about being rude, do you mean you talk ABOUT rude things to people, or you say stuff like "im not wearing any nickers" or "facy comming round mine tonight, ill sort you out" you may never ever acctually do it, but in which case why say it?

HAHA! No, can't say I've ever declared a lack of knickers! In mixed company over a pub table I might have winked at a male friend and said something lewd like "You and me Dev, round the corner later, what you think?" right in front of both my other half and his (who he is engaged to and are incredibly rarely seen separately)! Most likely as a punchline to something else that's been said.

Or, I've given somebody back some money I owe them, and winked saying "That was for last night - thanks - you were amazing!" loud enough for others to hear.

So, I do say dirty stuff, and I do direct it at folk - but only 'safe' folk, I guess.

platypus · 13 Mar 2009 at 16:58

You sound like my kinda broad.

Dinomania · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:00

platypus said:
You sound like my kinda broad.

You and me, in the bike shed, 10 minutes

.Kencs · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:03

:O Think this topic is going in a slightly different direction lol

Dinomania · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:05

.Kencs said:
:O Think this topic is going in a slightly different direction lol

Why, what kind of directions do you prefer to take, big boy?

Neodite · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:06

sara said:
I daresay if it was sudden, I'd be surprised and a little uncomfortable with it to begin with. But I'd have to get used to it, it's only fair.

Oh? Why is it not flirting? But no, I wouldn't be all close like that with a stranger.

HAHA! No, can't say I've ever declared a lack of knickers! In mixed company over a pub table I might have winked at a male friend and said something lewd like "You and me Dev, round the corner later, what you think?" right in front of both my other half and his (who he is engaged to and are incredibly rarely seen separately)! Most likely as a punchline to something else that's been said.

Or, I've given somebody back some money I owe them, and winked saying "That was for last night - thanks - you were amazing!" loud enough for others to hear.

So, I do say dirty stuff, and I do direct it at folk - but only 'safe' folk, I guess.

Oh im sorry, i assumed you did this in clubs etc. I had you wrong and i am sorry. In which case you dont exatly flirt do you, just freindly and upfront?

Nitefly · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:08

Cheating is strictly a physical thing in my eyes. That isn't to say that excessive flirting shouldn't be frowned upon.

.Kencs · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:18

Right...instead of posting debates what I find cheating and whats not cheating...here goes...

Flirting with a good friend - Acceptable
Flirting with intesions - Not-Acceptable
Flirting with a complete stranger - Not-Acceptable
Groping someone (friend or not) - Not-Acceptable
Kissing - Not-Acceptable
Sleeping with someone - Not-Acceptable
Flirting with a stranger when drunk - Not-Acceptable

And my BIGGEST one I HATE:

Lying About Flirting - Not-Acceptable

Obviously this is just my view and may be different for others or if your not with someone...

Neodite · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:19

.Kencs said:
Right...instead of posting debates what I find cheating and whats not cheating...here goes...

Flirting with a good friend - Acceptable
Flirting with intesions - Not-Acceptable
Flirting with a complete stranger - Not-Acceptable
Groping someone (friend or not) - Not-Acceptable
Kissing - Not-Acceptable
Sleeping with someone - Not-Acceptable
Flirting when drunk - Not-Acceptable
Lying About Flirting - Not-Acceptable

Obviously this is just my view and may be different for others or if your not with someone...

Agreed! 100% Id like to add that the flirting with a good freind id like to not be done infront of me, but i am a jelious person

Here is a question for you, my partners cousin (female) when she says goodbye tries to kiss me on the lips while my GF is sat next to me, now i know she means nothing more than goodbye, but i always turn my head for a kiss on the cheek instead. Im not sure why but i just find it uncomftable (altho my partner has said she thinks her cousin fancies me, so maybe that is why)

Does anyone else get like this?

matt_fsr · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:24

sara said:
Why, what kind of directions do you prefer to take, big boy?

Surely you can handle more than 1 at once my fair lady?

Greebo · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:29

Neodite said:
Agreed! 100% Id like to add that the flirting with a good freind id like to not be done infront of me, but i am a jelious person

Here is a question for you, my partners cousin (female) when she says goodbye tries to kiss me on the lips while my GF is sat next to me, now i know she means nothing more than goodbye, but i always turn my head for a kiss on the cheek instead. Im not sure why but i just find it uncomftable (altho my partner has said she thinks her cousin fancies me, so maybe that is why)

Does anyone else get like this?

Yeah she does that with me too.

.Kencs · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:31

matt_fsr said:
Surely you can handle more than 1 at once my fair lady?

PMSL

Ultra_Extreme · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:31

Its only cheating if your caught, doesnt hurt anyone otherwise and, if the quantum world has taught us anything, the unobserved act exists in all possible states, this means any time you are alone you are also shagging jessica simpson, in a vat of custard.

Neodite · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:32

Greebo said:
Yeah she does that with me too.

Aww i thought i was special

Amp34 · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:38

What about online? Watching a webcam for instance?

Either having known them and chatted to them or just watching a random one?

alexakasloth · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:40

[DOD]Asprilla;13674577 said:
I'd probably say that heavy petting, and kissing them in a sexual manner counts as well.

I'd say the same.

Sparky__H · 13 Mar 2009 at 17:41

Amp34 said:
What about online? Watching a webcam for instance?

Either having known them and chatted to them or just watching a random one?

If you know the girl then that's way beyond acceptable behaviour. However if you don't know her then it's just live porn.

What is defined as cheating?

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