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Friend zone?
What is defined as cheating?
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Friend zone?
Soldato
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Wouldn't know, im more than happy with my partner and my little girl. I have no need for other types of attention, im busy enough with what i have
Good call.
I think a lot of people would be more heart broken by a passionate kiss or repeatedly meeting up with someone else, rather than a single drunken sexual encounter. But lets be honest neither is great! It depends on a lot of things. Is it cheating to go out with a "freind" that you blatently fancy just because you find it exciting being in their company? Nothing happens, but you can feel a closeness each time you are with them.... is that "cheating"?
I think the answer to all this is "it depends"!
People vary in comfort zones, their perception of what they put up with will vary.
Basically, if the intent is innocent, it's not cheating - but the level allowed depends on the tolerance of your other half.
HIGH tolerance people go swinging, I suppose!
People vary in comfort zones, their perception of what they put up with will vary.
Basically, if the intent is innocent, it's not cheating - but the level allowed depends on the tolerance of your other half.
HIGH tolerance people go swinging, I suppose!
Just been reading through the thread properly and this popped out at me.
Yes they could.
Exactly, and aslong as your partner is ok with you flirting then fair play to you, i take it you would not have a problem doing it infront of him?
Myself i dont think i could be with you (No offence) if you like to do the hole you want me but you carnt have me thing to people.
I also take it you would be ok with your partner acting in the same way? (I am generaly curious if you are or not)
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Haha, nice try, but I don't trust a person in their entirety, then I wouldn't get into a relationship with them in the first place.
Perhaps you don't understand, it was done on purpose to get a rise out of the guys (ooer!) BECAUSE I was there. I was essentially the punchline enabler. I believe one of the lines of the night was:
"Hahaha, dude, your chick is totally flirting with me, you must feel like such a loser!"
To which she replied, "You might think that, but then it's him who I am going home with and ****ing the brains out of later."
Exact script is fuzzy as this was like a year ago
That's pretty much how I see it, but some people might never flirt innocently, thus cannot believe that other people do.
Really, you wouldn't be able to take my dirty jokes in mixed company, me hugging my male friends, and telling Darryl at work how beautiful he is when I want something?
( Darryl is 43, portly, balding, happily married with a 6 year old, and loves a bit of banter
)My boyfriend hasn't got any female friends that he's like that with as far as I've noticed - however of course I wouldn't mind!
He's been in the same room with me and my friend Parimal, who likes to hug his female friends and tell them "Awww, I love you!" - although that's less flirting and more genuine loving friendship. Pazza's just like that. BF doesn't bat an eye, he knows I'm all his.
I would never ever ever knowingly tease someone who actually likes me in /that/ way. That's extremely unfair.
I do still flirt with the BF, whisper things to him, gently pinch/grope his bum, stuff I'd never do to anyone else. If I'm being a bit 'friendly' with lots of my male friends, like at a birthday party - I make sure he gets more than his fair share too, and even more later on
I am nice, and friendly, in fact I've been told many a time I'm too nice at times.
But then there are also instances were some flirty banter = lulz, and variety is the spice of life and all that.
As much as I would like to agree, I know it's not true...From past experience, I have only cheated on 1 person, yet everyone I have been out with has cheated on me, apart from my wife...
No-One can say they won't cheat, because no-one knows what the future holds, but 8/10 people who cheat on their partners are drunk and blame it on drink, which again I feel that is NO excuse...
Really, you wouldn't be able to take my dirty jokes in mixed company, me hugging my male friends, and telling Darryl at work how beautiful he is when I want something?
( Darryl is 43, portly, balding, happily married with a 6 year old, and loves a bit of banter
My boyfriend hasn't got any female friends that he's like that with as far as I've noticed - however of course I wouldn't mind!
He's been in the same room with me and my friend Parimal, who likes to hug his female friends and tell them "Awww, I love you!" - although that's less flirting and more genuine loving friendship. Pazza's just like that. BF doesn't bat an eye, he knows I'm all his.
I would never ever ever knowingly tease someone who actually likes me in /that/ way. That's extremely unfair.
I do still flirt with the BF, whisper things to him, gently pinch/grope his bum, stuff I'd never do to anyone else. If I'm being a bit 'friendly' with lots of my male friends, like at a birthday party - I make sure he gets more than his fair share too, and even more later on
So what if one day your BF was suddenly like that with one or 2 girls (seems your not use to it as he currently does not)?
Im sorry to keep asking you directly, but its good to get a womans view. Also how do you know if the male likes it that way? I take it you just mean you are like this with close freinds? In that case its not really flirting. And in your other posts about being rude, do you mean you talk ABOUT rude things to people, or you say stuff like "im not wearing any nickers" or "facy comming round mine tonight, ill sort you out" you may never ever acctually do it, but in which case why say it?
Scary stuff, exactly the same here, lol. (Except she is not my wife, yet...)