What is defined as cheating?

[Neodite]

I cant believe that some people dont trust there other halfs to do a little flirting, its just harmless fun, what a boring world we would live in if no one ever flirted

If you want to flirt, be single or do it with your partner, you realy think its ok to flirt around?

 

[unwashed potato!]

If you want to flirt, be single or do it with your partner, you realy think its ok to flirt around?

and boring if you don't

 

[Neodite]

to flirt with your partner only? insecure much?

 

[Rich_L]

to flirt with your partner only? insecure much?

Aye, reminds me of the stony-faced couples you see who are afraid to smile at someone else lest it be misconstrued

I told my missus to shoot me if we ever became the 'boring' couple that no-one invites out

 

[Dinomania]

Would be interested to know the female perspective on the whole sexual innuendo stuff, I never do it as all the women I have ever hung around with look and act in an uncomfortable manner when someone makes that kind of comment, and generally they are a little silly as well. What do the women here think?

I have a REALLY dirty mind and a real love of awful puns.

So, I'm probably not the best one to ask - as I'm often the one who drags down the tone! Most of my female friends think it's funny too, although I doubt they'd take it as low as I do if on their own. It tends to put the blokes well at ease as then they're free to come out (hurr) with whatever they please...!

Case-in-point, just had a (slightly hushed, but with loud laughter) conversation in the work coffee-room about Steak and BJ day, and also miming ejaculatory faces/poses as a guy was telling us about the "jizz in my pants" video which is apparently going round the internet. None of that is a problem to a relationship, of course it isn't..!

 

[.Kencs]

OK, After reviewing other posts, I see the following as acceptable:
Flirting with no intention if its a friend on yours and nothing sexual.

I find the following classed as cheating or unacceptable:
Flirting with a complete stranger, espcially when drunk as you have no need to flirt with a complete stranger unless you want something, mainly a snog or something more, and I also consider cheating to be anything from a Kiss to more.

Thats my views after reading some of the posts.
Fair enough ALL women flirt whether they say they do or don't. My wife says she never flirts, but I know she does, she says she doesn't to stop an arguement, but flirting with a complete stranger when out is just unacceptable for me as I wouldn't flirt with a women I didn't know as it is leading on if she classes it as 'just a bit of fun'
I respect a person more for being honest and no lying about it, lying about it just makes me think there was something more to it as why lie if it was harmless...?

Also, it would depend on the other person's past relationship history. For example, if you were with someone and the person your with cheated on their other half in the past or flirted sexually while with their ex, could they really change?

 

[[DOD]Asprilla]

I have a REALLY dirty mind.

Are you flirting?

 

[Neodite]

Aye, reminds me of the stony-faced couples you see who are afraid to smile at someone else lest it be misconstrued

I told my missus to shoot me if we ever became the 'boring' couple that no-one invites out

Surly not many people are that bad? lol. My partner knows i dont mind her having a look (Because lets face it you wont beable to tell if they are thinking hes fit, or LOLZ LOOKZ AT THE SPOT ON HIS HEAD)

But she also knows if shes going to go any further than a look with anouther lad, then she aint cheating, coz its over before she begins.. People need to be more faithfull

 

[HarryPainful]

One of the funniest things was watching my gf flirt with all the guys in the room, having them drooling and eating out the palm of her hand, only to turn away, straddle me and start snogging, haha!

Mate, she sounds like a tramp.

 

[Zefan]

Doing something that you know you shouldn't be doing.

Exactly. It's different depending on the person you're with. I know girls who think flirting is quite innocent, but others who would have zero tolerance.

Personally, anything which makes people think "Errm, isn't she/he in a relationship...?" counts. This of course again depends on how the person normally acts.

 

[Dinomania]

Are you flirting?

Maybe... How you doin'?

(see Flirting Type 2)

 

[platypus]

I have a REALLY dirty mind and a real love of awful puns.

So, I'm probably not the best one to ask - as I'm often the one who drags down the tone! Most of my female friends think it's funny too, although I doubt they'd take it as low as I do if on their own. It tends to put the blokes well at ease as then they're free to come out (hurr) with whatever they please...!

Case-in-point, just had a (slightly hushed, but with loud laughter) conversation in the work coffee-room about Steak and BJ day, and also miming ejaculatory faces/poses as a guy was telling us about the "jizz in my pants" video which is apparently going round the internet. None of that is a problem to a relationship, of course it isn't..!

Indeed, one of my friends and I always try and "out-gross" each other.

I invariably win because I usually descend to the level of trying to make her picture her dad getting out of the shower. But its the journey thats fun!

 

[[DOD]Asprilla]

Maybe... How you doin'?

(see Flirting Type 2)

Careful, you're on a slippery pole to type 4.

 

[krooton]

Mate, she sounds like a tramp.

No, she's sexually confident and loves how easy mean can be manipulated at times.

As I stated, this was with our friends at a houseparty, it wasn't with random blokes in a pub.

I'd wager a guess that those who are adamant that flirting should only be done if single or to your partner aren't the types that have loads of platonic friends of the opposite sex...

Of my 8 core group of friends, only 2 are male, so I get the female psyche, we all know where we stand with eachother (just friends) so anything that could possibly misconstrued is said purely in jest.

 

[platypus]

Of my 8 core group of friends, only 2 are male, so I get the female psyche, we all know where we stand with eachother (just friends) so anything that could possibly misconstrued is said purely in jest.

I'm the same, I just get on with women easier then men. Maybe because I'm not into the whole macho thing. And quite like handbags*.






*This is not actually true.

 

[Neodite]

OK, After reviewing other posts, I see the following as acceptable:
Flirting with no intention if its a friend on yours and nothing sexual.

I find the following classed as cheating or unacceptable:
Flirting with a complete stranger, espcially when drunk as you have no need to flirt with a complete stranger unless you want something, mainly a snog or something more, and I also consider cheating to be anything from a Kiss to more.

Thats my views after reading some of the posts.
Fair enough ALL women flirt whether they say they do or don't. My wife says she never flirts, but I know she does, she says she doesn't to stop an arguement, but flirting with a complete stranger when out is just unacceptable for me as I wouldn't flirt with a women I didn't know as it is leading on if she classes it as 'just a bit of fun'
I respect a person more for being honest and no lying about it, lying about it just makes me think there was something more to it as why lie if it was harmless...?

Also, it would depend on the other person's past relationship history. For example, if you were with someone and the person your with cheated on their other half in the past or flirted sexually while with their ex, could they really change?

I honestly dont see how anyone could argue with this. Pretty much spot on, and if people do have the need to flirt with a stranger, maybe you should ask yourself why, and "fun" is not a nice way to treat your partners now is it people

From when i was younger (17/18) my female freinds around the same age use to flirt with blokes to get drinks, dancing dirty with them the lot, if they had partners or not, aslong as they didnt snog them they thought it was ok... now 6 years on, none of them are like that anymore, as i dunno about anyone else, but i find it pretty slaggy when girls do that (and no i wouldnt do it if i could*)

Maybe some people show there relationships more respect than some people on here, i carnt belive some people dont mind there gf's kissing other guys i hope you dnt plan to marry that girl


*well maybe once just to see (but only if i was single)

*edit - Im sorry if my posts are some what crappy to read, im rushing around at work and very intrested in the topic at the same time

 

[HarryPainful]

loves how easy mean can be manipulated at times.

Including you perhaps.

If she is like that in front of you and you are OK with it, what about when you are not there.

 

[Dinomania]

That's the thing, it's just the distinction between it being "in jest" or not.

A lot of women - and myself included, I've been guilty of this when a bit tipsy - will do the following:
Make it clear she's taken,
Then because everyone knows she's taken,
Will assume she's "safe",
And will allow herself to sit on laps, generally make naughty comments (heck, I do that anyway), generally flirt, maybe even outrageously!

But!
/not/ with intent.

However this can be unfair as some people will still feel led on by this, so you have to keep it in check. If you're jesting, make sure the other side also knows your jesting. It still isn't cheating, but it's unfair on the poor sod who's getting all hopeful.

 

[Neodite]

I'd wager a guess that those who are adamant that flirting should only be done if single or to your partner aren't the types that have loads of platonic friends of the opposite sex..

I have many female freinds, a lot often ring me up if they are having problems, they also dont flirt with me, because they are good freinds, same as my male freinds dnt flirt with me (well maybe one does)

 

[tisonlyme]

Sara talks sense