What more can we do ?

WTF IS HE DOING GETTING SOMEONE PREGNANT?! WTF!

Seriously, what an idiot.

Having said that, I've been in a situation where I've been rock bottom and not known where the hell I'm going, what I'm doing, or how to change. But I sorted myself out, luckily landed a job and now going to uni over summer to get a qualification to allow me to get onto a degree. It's down to him to change, no amount of pushing, kicking out, raising of rent cost etc will make him change.

But getting someone pregnant? Stupid.
 
I've been paying digs since I started earning money (16), well since I started a half decent job. I toke it as part and parcel of life and happily paid digs.

Was paying £100pm at 16 and upped it as my wages went up, has went both ways and anytime I have needed money or help from my dad he has done so.

To be honest I would be kicking him out and would hope my dad would have done the same to me he isn't going to learn the ways of life any other way. He may end up disliking you for it but at the end of the day you are only trying to help.
 
he pays or gets kicked out, so no argument there.

the baby makes things worse, if he cant/wont get a decent job, how the hell does he expect to support a baby?

he needs a kick in the ass, fast.
 
Whats going to happen then his kid arrives? Presumably if he cant pay £20 a week then he's got not much of a chance buying food, clothes etc for his child.

I am back at home at the moment with parents (im 24) and dont pay board as I dont have a job. I help my grandparents and mum and dad whenever they need anything doing instead. Task of this week is chopping down a 30ft tree at my grandmas, painting a fence and shed. (I also have a couple of interviews lined up)
I have never paid board because when ive been working before i wasnt at home

However this stuff will be stupidly easy compaired to raising a child on 8 hours work a week. Guessing its income support time?
 
I'm only 17 myself but i'd expect to pay rent if i was working and out of education. £25 per month is absolute peanuts, i think you need to up that to about £80 tbh! He's 18, he can't seriously think he doesn't need to pay his way now, i worry for the kid if he is this selfish and won't get a better job to help support his child. You need to come down harsh and show him some real reality imo. However, limiting his gaming time is a bit childish in my view and its a deterant to help you if your treating him like a kid. Just do something drastic to make him realise what an immature child he is being.
 
uvarvu said:
Dunno if it's me but how someone can ask a sibling to pay rent is beyond me. Must be a culture thing!
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Who's asking a sibling to pay rent? The guy's living under his parents roof, using their amenities and eating their food. As such, he should contribute towards the running of the house.
 
uvarvu said:
Dunno if it's me but how someone can ask a sibling to pay rent is beyond me. Must be a culture thing!
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It's just you. If you are earning money you should contribute. I pay £125 a month and then 33% of any bill that comes in plus I pay for the Broadband. If you are earning money you should be contributing. No excuses.
 
Kami said:
Otherwise get him on the housing list with the council and tell him he's got X months before you boot him out.
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If he's still living at home he'll stay at the bottom of the housing list. His only hope for a council house would be if he shacks up with the mother of his child. If she's prepared to have him.

OLDPHART said:
It worked out at £65, this includes food, rent, electric, gas, TV license, Sky TV, Talk and internet both have a PC which they got from me due to upgrading + TV again which they got from us.
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This is a very good idea, I didn't really know the true costs of everything until I lived on my own. Although I did always give my parents what they asked for.

Good luck.
 
Hatter The Mad said:
He sounds like a dirty scally - where did it all go wrong?
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More Trolling? :rolleyes:

I'm sure the OP appreciates you refering to his son as a scally and questioning his upbringing.

OP, sounds like your son needs a good kick up the backside and get jolted into realising what the real worlds like.. we all have to at some point :(
 
I think he knows which side of his breads buttered.. as far as i'm concerned when it came to me working I WANTED to pay my parents to live here.. and as my wages have gone up so has my board.. I pay £250 a month (They don't ask anymore of me) and that gets everything inclusive of washing, food, internet & TV etc etc
 
I must be doing something wrong.
My babies are 22 & 20 and don't pay a penny and both are good girls who haven't caused me one bit of grief.
I made the decision to have them and I will keep them if I have to even though both have had jobs from the age of 16.
If they had the attitude of the child in the OP then things would be different.
 
If you limit his xbox usage, he won't give you anything.
Just be nice to him and he will probably pay you.
Why not talk to him and work out a price which you can both agree on?
 
TaKeN said:
More Trolling? :rolleyes:
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Well, not from here. How about yourself? It sure looks like you're trolling to me.


TaKeN said:
I'm sure the OP appreciates you refering to his son as a scally and questioning his upbringing.
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No, this is your insinuation and you putting words in my mouth. And, probably unlike you, I've read the whole thread. The fact the OP is posting a thread like this is testimony to good parenting and common sense (in my opinion) - therefore, my question was valid. What went wrong with him? This insight is important when asking someone "what else can we do?".
 
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