Why are YOU single?

A timely piece from Charlie Brooker, and I wish I agreed with less of it...

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/jan/12/charlie-brooker-relationships

As for myself... well, my first relationship cost me my degree. My second cost me a good friend. My third cost me my self respect. So I'm pretty much in the 'been there, done that, wasn't very good at it' camp.

Ok, I've never been happier than when in a relationship. But I've also never been unhappier than when relationships end, and cowardice won in the end. So at 45 I'm now cruising towards senility on my own, and I expect it to stay that way... mainly because the older you get, the more baggage both sides bring to the relationship. That complicates things considerably, especially if you still have a secret itch to have children.

Anyway, if you're young, single, and unhappy, you only really need to know one thing... life is something you have to go out and do, not something which you should allow to happen *to* you. I wasted a lot of years waiting for something to change either in me or in the world around me. Either change it yourself -- with all the ups and downs that go with it -- or learn to be content with the life you have.

Andrew McP... content. Sort of. :-)

PS I wasn't going to bother contributing to this thread... why advertise my long term failures? But a lot of the posts sounded like me twenty years ago, so I thought my contribution might be useful. Or at least make some of you feel better about your own lives so far. ;-)
 
Wizzkidy said:
I don't like Charlie Brooker, he talks about male masturbation WAY to often!
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I've not really read much of his work tbh but I was about to make a post saying that I thought that article was brilliant, some parts of it really made me laugh out loud.

Thanks for posting that Andrew, brightened up my morning.

EDIT - I guess I have read some of his work before but unknowingly, as apparently he was a writer in PC Zone during the mid 90's and I always loved reading that magazine around that time.
 
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Raymond Lin said:
This post is probably more revealing than i like but what the hell.

I work everyday, i really do. Not out of choice but partly family obligations.

My 9-5 jobs i leave the house at 7:15 for the train to go to work, the people who catches the train are mostly the same faces, and are mostly men on this route. Apart from them are school children and 6th form teenagers going to the private school in Worcester. So unless all of the sudden to have a liking to men or want to go to hit on the 16-17 year olds, no go there.

At work, the firm is not that large, about 35 people there, and only like 4 girls are under 30. Of that 4, 1 is married with a kid, 1 has a bf (but i get along with her really well), 1 that i secretly like is leaving and moving aboard, and the one left is great but i am still unsure of dating people you work with.

Then I get home at 6:45 ish, get change and dinner puts the time to around 8 most nights and having to get up early the next day again i am not in the mood to go out nor do i want to these days.

The weekend i am obligated to go help my parents' place, which rules out going out on Saturday and Sunday nights, and it leaves only Friday nights to go out. Which by about 11pm I am usually ready for bed on a Friday after a whole week of early starts.

So there it is, unless my life suddenly turns into a romantic comedies where i can pick up woman during my lunch break in town or the customers that comes to the Chinese thinks that guy behind the till is a a great guy to date, my chances of finding someone at the moment is pretty slim.

EDIT - i suppose forgot I can also meet people over the net, itsonlyme, feel free to drop me an email ;)
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Dude, I'm up at 5 every day and don't get home till 630pm yet I still get myself out during the week and I'm older than you! Don't be a boring fart!! :p
 
I'm single because...
I can't take anything serious in my life, I... I don't really have another reason, probably because I just suck :)

I don't like taking everything serious, makes life boring.
 
I'm single because I've not wanted to stay in the last few relationships I've been in, I dont have huge amounts of luck with the ladies but last 3 relationships (spanning most of the last 4 years) they've been a lot more into it than I have so it's come to an end.
 
I'm rarely single. I seem to not be able to not have relationships. Part of the reason is I get worried about what it's like to be on my own, in spite of loving my own company.
 
I have a rather complex number of criteria for a lady, and those that meet them tend to either already be spoken for, or not physically attractive to me.

On the flipside, I'm not enough of a ******* to attract women, nice guy stereotype and all that.

Oh, and I am too broke to even consider dating at the moment :(
 
I've not really been out of a relationship since I was 16, after a break up I normally stay single for a few months to a year but out of choice.

At the moment I've been going out with my GF for 2.5 yrs and I moved away from my work in Aberdeen to be with her and we currently live together.

KaHn
 
Too laid back/Shy (when it comes to stunning girls anyway)

Plus most girls I meet I just end up slamming the 2nd or 3rd time I go out with them. After that I can't seem to commit? Saying that though, I have met someone I would like to be with long term.
 
Anyone have a fear of been left on their own in a busy crowded place which in turn leaved them very nervous and does not know what to do with themselves?
 
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