Why is it all sucky? (Probably the longest OcUK post ever)

agw_01 said:
Make sure you show her how much she's losing out on by not being with you.

Have a great time, enjoy yourself and just make sure she's around to see you happy :)

She'll come crawling back to you in no time... to which you can turn around and kick her in the teeth ;) :cool:
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You are confused! This is OcUK, the only violence towards women allowed is a punch to the ovaries...

She did just message me with an excuse as to why she had been ignoring me and wants to see me, but I am not convinced she was telling the truth so she can still bog off.
 
M0T said:
You are confused! This is OcUK, the only violence towards women allowed is a punch to the ovaries...
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No no there is also the approved practise of stabbing her in't knockers, preferably with a key !
 
Oh man, life is full of up's and downs, times when you think whats the point anymore! Then your on top of the world, thinking life cant possibly get any better!!

From what i have read, you seem to have a difficult life (hug) You may be feeling really down at the moment but it will get better, it always does, it just takes time, try to smile at things chick, will help:)

I have been in the same position as you with this girl, except for me it was with a guy:( Makes you feel really rubbish and like you've been played like a card, but its not you its her
 
74, he had been a smoker all his life and got heart disease just before I was born and had a heart attack.

At that point he quit smoking but by then the damage is done and because of the very active person he was he was stressing himself too much. He had a heart attack after doing about 5 things in the garden in about 2 hours that would have taken me most of a day.
 
Malenko said:
No no there is also the approved practise of stabbing her in't knockers, preferably with a key !
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Also allowed is the old

Pen + neck tbh :)

Like you say it's her loss, if she comes crawling back tell her to sod off.
 
mate my eyes are incredibly sore after reading that, but life is swings and roundabouts. Keep your chin up mate, your fortunes will take a good turn soon.
 
M0T said:
As for that girl, I decided that she had one last chance to act like a normal person and then she could sod off. All seemed to be going well, up until yesterday when she decided to start ignoring me again.
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Handsome is as handsome does.
M0T said:
As a side note its not the best plan to ski into a tree :(
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Use your willy as a fender! :D

On a lighter note, my bro and I used to enjoy skiing up to a tree, lifting one ski round and putting it back into the track on the other side. Good fun!
 
I haven't read all the replies but maybe you can take something positive out of the relationship you had with the girl at work. She was in a relationship, you knew it was wrong but you got involved anyway putting her existing relationship at risk.

Maybe that can help you with perspective around your Dads affair and divorce. Sometimes we know whats right and wrong but still end up doing the wrong thing, not because we want to hurt other people but because we're human and fallable.....
 
I read your original post through all the way, sorry to hear about your experiences. I think you are doing the right thing keeping this girl distant, don't let her control things and muck you about (again).

I can see where you are coming from with some things. Well not the family problems but bereavement, suicide etc are all things I've experienced over the last few years. Time is the greatest healer. And talking helps.

I often came accross as "heavy" to people I met at uni at first, but it was mainly because I needed to get things off my chest. Talking about things is all part of the process.
 
Hmmm, like all men I think I may be weak.

She added me to msn yesterday and spoke to me for about 2 hours about stuff. I ended up messaging her earlier with a silly comment and she immediatly jumped on the net to try and talk to me, pity I was halfway round the m25 at the time.

I dunno, I'm now confusing myself, I much prefered being on holiday, everything was so much simpler. Maybe I should just go on permenant vacation, mountain biking in the summer, skiing in the winter....

I suppose the way I am looking at it now is that I haven't got any other options and you don't really get anywhere if you don't take risks every once in a while.
 
Well I think this is the last post I'll make in this thread, just thought I'd do one final update.

Basically have been talking to her a lot over msn and she got very flirty with me and I told her I liked her and wanted to see her, and she agreed to meet up with me.

Then yesterday she told me she was really busy and didn't know if she'd be able to do it, she was acting really strangely barely talking to me, but she got upset when I said I thought she was being mean to me, she also got upset when I said I wasn't like to meet any of her non uni friends. Then she seemed to just get really weird.

Basically what I did was send her my original post minus the bits about her, and just told her that I didn't think she liked me and was just playing me me. She then said I obviously have self confidence issues and that I need to 'realise that people will like me for who I am and not who I pretend to be' :confused:

Since she never said anything about liking me, despite the huge opportunity provided there, I take it to mean that she was just attention whoring. Hopefully she will realise that its not fair and just leave me alone.
 
M0T said:
I said I thought she was being mean to me
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told her that I didn't think she liked me
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Bad move :(

Girls hate insecure guys. No matter how physically attractive you are or how nice you are as a person, being insecure, needy and clingy is a sure fire way to eliminate any attraction that she might feel towards you.

You really do have to keep thoughts like this to yourself, because it can only have a negative affect on your relationship if you say that sort of thing to her.
 
When I told her that its because she asked me, and got all worried about it. I didn't tell her off the top of my head, I dodged the question for as long as possible but she just kept asking if I thought she was mean to me.

Probably wanted to know if she'd been succeeding.
 
Just walk away bud, cut her out of yor life completely, don't talk to her, if you see her just blank her, go at it from the point of view that to you she no longer exists.

It's not worth all the crap even bothering with her.
 
Spud21 said:
Just walk away bud, cut her out of yor life completely, don't talk to her, if you see her just blank her, go at it from the point of view that to you she no longer exists.

It's not worth all the crap even bothering with her.
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He speaks the truth im afraid.
 
I hate it when everyone else is right :(

I think I know what it is with her, after a conversation we had earlier.

It seems to be that she has had a really bad experience with someone that she loved, and although she wants a relationship shes scared that shes going to get hurt again, so she keeps pulling away.

I told her that if she keeps doing that she'll always be missing something and I basically told her that she'd be safe with me.

It remains to be seen if anything changes, but shes my friend and I believe she was telling the truth.
 
you now owe me a packet of mints and a diet cheery coke!


anyway, stop clinging onto that one beacon of happyness, dont let one thing become your happy point.
oh, stop bloody texting and msn'in, get over there and talk!
 
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