i dont think lapping a sink like that is gonna make much difference. we already know the contact is crap. from the description the middle is the flat part and the edges are off. We already know its the middle that isnt making contact when it should be, and you dont need a lot of contact to cool an a64 efficiantly.
Be honest, if it was making proper contact you should see an imprint of the cpu. when i last pulled my scythe off, i saw the writing on the IHS imprinted on the heatsink, and thats how it should be. All that to me says there isnt enough pressure on the cpu, or the heat pipes are faulty.
still, you can try to lap it.