Y.A.R.T. (Yet Another Relationship Thread)..

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Not paying anything and being taken care off, and and she's "super stressed" with uni.

Main stresses of uni is having no money, she doesn't have that issue. It's just an excuse, given cut
It off and move on!
 
Well if you think it would have already ended if you didn't live together I think you have your answer...

Best thing to do is get a few naked pictures of her, fly out to australia, try and join the mile high club (not on your own...) and just see where things take you :)
 
SMN said:
I just dont want to pull the plug too soon without giving it a go, as stupid as it sounds. Im off to Australia in 10 days for a month, so Im going to say to her she should move out when I'm back and then we can see how it goes in the new year.
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I think to prevent this new handsome man on the scene using your house as a love nest for the next month, you should kick her out when you go! All of these issues, her moving out, and a months absence? Maybe I'm a cynic, but that's almost guaranteed cheating. Either that or leave a webcam or two recording around the house while you're away.
 
TLDR version?

Only playin'... 10 months is nothing, if she is texting a fella after this small little hiccup imagine what it's going to be like in years to come... Get out.
 
[TW]Fox;20724043 said:
Dump girl.

Move to Australia

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+1

Relationships are 2-way streets and it sounds like the emotional pull if coming all from you at the moment. Getting away from this is probably the best thing you can do right now, so it is opportune that you are heading back home in 10 days. Maybe a break would help, but doubtful if you are already both not on the same page. End of the day, you need to go with your gut, and ignore the temptation to fulfil some sort of "wounded knight in armour" emotional template. Break it down cool and compassionately, then make up your mind.
 
The older you get the less tolerant you become for people who waste your time.

This is part of the educational process.

She is wasting your time and making out like it's your fault.

The sooner you learn to recognise a lost cause the better.

If you give her the benefit of the doubt after she has said that you are the 'least of her priorities' she will walk all over you and make you feel like you deserved it.
Your self esteem and confidence will take a kicking that you could have totally avoided.

Ask yourself, 'what does this girl have that I cannot get better with somebody else and for less argie-bargie?'

Make a plan for yourself that doesn't need her in order to be a complete success, and then go with it. :)
 
Get one last pasty smash and be done with it. Oh and pics of girl, as you're going to break up anyway.

I think where it went wrong is that you're too nice to her, and do too much for her. Keep a bird at arms length at all times, it keeps them coming back. This has come with experience in the past.

Treat em mean keep em keen, as lame as it sounds, is not a myth..
 
TommyV said:
Treat em mean keep em keen, as lame as it sounds, is not a myth..
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This.

Just kick her out for now and see what happens.

Sounds like you're all set where you are though, so I wouldn't bother relocating or anything just yet. I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who would appreciate you without having to move to Australia.
 
SMN said:
For 2-3 months over the summer I had my brother move in with me during university as my parents are in Australia and i have to look after him as hes my blood, so he had his own room etc and granted its not the best, but needs must.

He moved out in September, and since then things have taken a bit of a nose dive. My missus has started her 2nd year at university, and she has been super stressed with assignments. I have tried my best to help her, to read through things, do all the cooking/washing up etc so she can get them out the way in the hopes she'll be "happier" and back to what she was before.
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Sounds like your brother was double dipping. :(
 
[TW]Fox;20724043 said:
Dump girl.

Move to Australia

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Possibly only the 2nd time I've agreed with Fox but do this!!

Its a misconception that women like to be looked after and have everything done for them, they like to pay their own way and be equal as such.
If they do like to be kept and you do everything for them, they'll keep liking untill you run out of money or get fed up.

In my experience anyway!
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SMN said:
"If i get a job anywhere in the UK after uni, I have to take it, regardless if your coming or not".
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My ex came out with this, well it was more "I have a job interview at xxxxx and if the job offered wasn't near you, I would take it" (job would have been in Ireland). She has just finished her Masters. I ignored it at first, as there was a possibility of them offering a job closer to me. But I just couldn't ignore for long as it was playing on my mind too much. We broke up, about 2 days ago :o.

Was for the best.
 
Start a sentence with "I wasn't sure what to do about our relationship, so I posed the question to a dysfunctional man-child collective on the internet..."

That should solve all your problems.

Edit: If not, burn her house down.
 
I'd give it until January and see how it pans out. If you can out to Australia though, go for it.

P.S. Being a second year student who has to cook/wash up etc... for himself, and would die otherwise (through lack of food), trust me when I say there is no way she couldn't do her degree and do that. Personally I'd love to have someone doing it all for me. (Sorry OP, but I'm not interested ;) )

kd
 
Jono8 said:
"but i cant do the washing up etc as im too busy with uni "

I'm sorry what??!
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My gf has a full-time job, is doing a degree-level NVQ4, and still washes up every night.

It's the only Alpha thing I have ever managed :D
 
She says she wants to move out and hates it there.
Tell her she has a week. You want her out before you got to Australia.
IF she's there, you'll probably worry about what she's getting up to, in your house... even if she's not doing anything at all - you don't want your holiday ruined. I know I wouldn't.

She's basically said she doesn't want a future with you. If you happen to be around at the time, so be it, but that's not what she WANTS.

It's easy for me to say; I'm not the one still in love with her, but just move on. Say goodbye to her on fairly amicable terms and get on with your life. Relationships can and do sometimes fall apart, unfortunately. This is one of those relationships.

(+1 to what Fox said)
 
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