Your Neighbours
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Thankfully, none of my neighbours are what I would call "bad" but 2 of them do test my patience sometimes with their behaviour.
That sounds solvable, something you can work with. I've experienced some awful neighbours at times and it was a lost cause. Maybe be really kind to them, take round a bottle of wine or something as a gift, and at the same time mention the issue you have.
How did this come about?
I may have the wrong poster here but aren't you the one that minimises human interactions as much as possible as you don't like it? You need to learn how to deal with that given the societal norms require interactions.
Breathing.
I'm not going to say much more about my life on this forum as in the short space of time I've been registered I've noticed there are a lot of members who troll, pick on peoples' posts for fun, and take pleasure in trying to start fights/drama.
What I will say though is who I am now is not the same as who I was when I was younger. Life threw me a few curve balls along the way and I've had a lot of bad experiences with fake people and disloyal women so that's why I keep myself to myself these days and prefer to live a quiet life with minimal social interaction. I've got a very close circle of great friends and family that I trust 100% and that's enough for me. I don't need to get to know new people anymore and I certainly haven't got the time or patience for putting up with b/s.
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I think this is fair enough.
I've experienced terrible neighbors and fantastic neighbor's over the last 30 plus years. The bad including the use of solicitors to address excess noise issues. Albeit to no avail so I moved after a year.
What I learnt from that is toleration as far as is possible. Unless the behaviors' are antisocial or excessive. As has been said nod politely, take parcels in for them and talk random crap when you see them.
Why do i get the impression this is a you problem not the neighbours.
You need to chill out a bit, life will throw you curve balls and generally be **** sometimes its just how it is.
As for the neighbours you don't need to interact with any off them if you don't want to. Just a nod or hello and move on
Let them live there lives as well,they are not here to please you and not everyone is here to make you feel good about yourself
You need to chill out a bit, life will throw you curve balls and generally be **** sometimes its just how it is.
As for the neighbours you don't need to interact with any off them if you don't want to. Just a nod or hello and move on
Let them live there lives as well,they are not here to please you and not everyone is here to make you feel good about yourself
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I have one neighbour who is aweful, causes issues with everyone on the street. even the smallest of things he freaks out about and starts swearing and literally foaming at the mouth, absolute horrible family.
His son has autism and lives direct next door to me, i say lives, but he does not actually stay in the house, his dad lives further down the street. Pretty sure the husband and wife both have autism and because of this have had a son with even worse autism. On his sons house he has 6 cameras, this is a 1 bed and all the cameras are pointing up and down the street with minimal coverage of the property, his dads house which is larger 4 bed i think, also has cameras all over it pointing down the street and at neighbours houses.
On a number of times he has moaned at stuff i have said or done because he has been listening and watching me on his cameras, feel like i am under constant surveilance.
Its so bad i am at a point where i just want to move house, which i intend to do next year hopefully when finances are a little better and houses prices have settled more.
His son has autism and lives direct next door to me, i say lives, but he does not actually stay in the house, his dad lives further down the street. Pretty sure the husband and wife both have autism and because of this have had a son with even worse autism. On his sons house he has 6 cameras, this is a 1 bed and all the cameras are pointing up and down the street with minimal coverage of the property, his dads house which is larger 4 bed i think, also has cameras all over it pointing down the street and at neighbours houses.
On a number of times he has moaned at stuff i have said or done because he has been listening and watching me on his cameras, feel like i am under constant surveilance.
Its so bad i am at a point where i just want to move house, which i intend to do next year hopefully when finances are a little better and houses prices have settled more.
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Our neighbours are all pretty good. We live down quite a quiet little street. We're on chatting terms with quite a few folk around us.
We even do the bin putting in thing.
We even do the bin putting in thing.
There's a house at the end of my street just like this but thankfully it's nowhere near me so I don't need to be concerned but I feel sorry for the residents who live close by as neighbours as everything about the house says "trouble". Loads of CCTV cams illegally pointing in all directions, always different BMWs and Audi's and old work vans parked outside every time I drive past, washing line erected in the driveway/front garden, loads of kids bikes outside, curtains always closed, and a lawn that looks like it hardly ever gets mowed. I've never seen who actually lives there but I doubt it's a nice family
That's just what I've always done so far. I turn a blind eye to minor petty irritations as that's just part of life and I keep any interactions brief but friendly, however, a couple of my neighbours (smokers) are very chatty and it's hard to avoid them as they're outside the main door quite often having a fag but I don't think they're satisfied with a quick "Good Morning, how are you, weather's nice today isn't it" as they always try to get me into deeper conversations that I don't want to talk about. 2 examples of this lately would be bringing up politics and mentioning illegal boat crossings. Who in their right mind would want to get into personal stuff like that with a close neighbour when there's a strong chance you both could have 2 opposing viewpoints that could create hostility! I'm starting to feel like I have to plan escapes from my flat to avoid meeting those neighbours outside everyday
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I'm going to be blunt here, the last 4 threads I've read through you have been involved and the impression I get from your posts is that you are VERY confrontational and don't like to admit when you are wrong even when the proof has been shoved under your nose. You may not be like that in day-to-day interactions with people but you've certainly got a few backs up on the forums, with some of those being some of the most patient people I've spoken with.
If you are that confrontational IRL then you need to take a step back and look at things from other peoples POV. If you don't agree with what they are saying a non-committal grunt can sometimes be enough to satisfy them. I have a couple of neighbours that try to pull you into conversations with views that couldn't be more opposite to my views, those neighbours are fully aware that I am a lot less conservative than they are and no to avoid those conversations, because I simply won't engage with them on those subjects, not because I am ignorant, but purely because I try to avoid confrontation with them. Due to this I have a civil relationship with all my neighbours even if not necessarily massively friendly.
That's fair enough. I can take on board what you've said as you've managed to get your point across in a civil/normal way without being insulting and divisive like a few others were towards me as a newbie on this forum. That being said...I don't think you or anyone else really have the right to take it upon yourselves to judge me or my personality just as I have no right to judge you or anyone else either. Not everyone in this world will always get along and be buddies whether that's on a forum or in real life so I take the respectful position that if I don't like someone I will leave them alone and not waste time trying to talk to them. I'd like people to treat me the same way but unfortunately not everyone thinks like me and some people enjoy being rude and hostile.
I am what I am and actually I don't really care what other people think about me. It's tedious trying to pander to peoples' whims and expectations in life so I gave up trying years ago. Love me or hate me...it doesn't matter either way. Sorry if anything I've typed sounds arrogant/blunt but nobody here is in any position to judge me based on a few random chat threads on a discussion forum and those that do will just be silenced using the mute-ignore feature as that's what I choose to do for my own sanity.
End of story.