Your Neighbours

[gingergundog]

Pretty lucky with my neighbours. One side is elderly...she's lovely and takes my parcels in. When her husband was alive I had to go round a couple of times to pick him up when he fell over, never minded doing it though. When I think about moving there is always that worry about moving to a worse situation.

 

[CaNsA]

Neighbours on one side are pretty chill.
We get really well with them
Couple with 2 kids and a cat.
Kids make kids noises but not obnoxiously loud, just kids innit.
The cat comes in here, so I guess we share a cat.
I go for a bevvies with him, the dad not the cat.

New neighbour on the other side is a total w*****.
A complete and utter melt.
He is the embodiment of everything that is wrong with the fakeness around the current societal norms.
Considers himself an influencer on tiktok, all he does is beg for complements and money.

He used to be noisy, then I stopped being polite and implied that I can easily lose my cool and go ballistic.

Not heard a squeak out of him since.

 

[HC1]

When I think about moving there is always that worry about moving to a worse situation.

Running away to where you think the grass is going to be greener very rarely goes according to plan IME. It's much better to stick with what you know and work with it instead of against it. I wish I could go back to my detached/exclusive lifestyle and not have to deal with neighbours/people but unless I win the lottery I think it's safe to say the rest of my life will be spent fighting in the trenches with the troops and living with rats.

 

[Bint Box]

Running away to where you think the grass is going to be greener very rarely goes according to plan IME. It's much better to stick with what you know and work with it instead of against it. I wish I could go back to my detached/exclusive lifestyle and not have to deal with neighbours/people but unless I win the lottery I think it's safe to say the rest of my life will be spent fighting in the trenches with the troops and living with rats.

I have no sympathy for your situation after the quoted post above.
To describe neighbours as troops and rats illustrates your "poor me" attitude to it all.

FFS, man up and get on with it instead of bleating like a lamb on an internet chat forum.

 

[Resident]

We get on well with most of our surrounding neighbours. Both my direct opposite and my unattached (house) next door neighbour often work late shifts so when I'm on earlies and it's bin day I'll pull their bins out and when I get home mine's been put back for me. We all accept parcels etc for each other. The usual, neighbourly things.

However my attached next door neighbour is a proper nightmare. An elderly couple with the attitude that because they've lived on the street the longest everyone should do as they say. They report everyone for the tiniest of things. They reported me because whilst I was getting my old car scrapped, the recovery truck put a wheel on the grass verge.

They act like they're the heads of a US style HOA type authority. No-one likes them and secretly we all can't wait till the pine boxes arrive.

 

[sigma]

If you cant beat em join em

If you can't join 'em, beat it

 

[sigma]

I have no sympathy for your situation after the quoted post above.
To describe neighbours as troops and rats illustrates your "poor me" attitude to it all.

FFS, man up and get on with it instead of bleating like a lamb on an internet chat forum.

Rats would be a good description of some of my neighbours.

Dirty **** rats

 

[HC1]

I have no sympathy for your situation after the quoted post above.
To describe neighbours as troops and rats illustrates your "poor me" attitude to it all.

FFS, man up and get on with it instead of bleating like a lamb on an internet chat forum.

Sweet Jesus dude It was meant to be a funny metaphorical description for living an average life amongst average people and not a comment that you needed to take seriously and get offended by. Lighten up a bit and don't be so quick to start swinging your handbag

 

[HC1]

Rats would be a good description of some of my neighbours.

Dirty **** rats

Be careful what you say or you'll be the next poor bloke that Bint Box launches a scathing attack on just for having a laugh and being sarcastic

 

[Worthy]

All of my neighbours are properly hateful. But not for the reason you think. They're too bloody friendly to the point it angers me.

It's one of those new build estates. We moved in and immediately there was a whatsapp group where every one is all friendly friendly with each other. That's fine in and of itself but when people are messaging the group to ask for a lemon... and someone replied "I have a lemon you can have but I need one back for tomorrow" I decided to leave the group.

But that wasn't enough. Everyone wants to talk to each other. I don't get it. We're just neighbours, we are not obligated to be friends. I'm civil and smile and say hello when passing but that is about all I can muster. When everyone on my street moved in some plank had the idea that we should all go and look around each others houses.

One of the ladies on our estate is our cleaner and she told my partner "it's really hard to get a smile out of him, isn't it". I took that as a badge of honour (we get long now I actually have a reason to know her)

I'd much rather live next to people who didn't want to know me rather than the overtly fake friendliness people show.

What is it about new build estates attracting these type of people? Mine is exactly the same.

 

[HC1]

If you can't join 'em, beat it

Top quality retort
"Beat it" is exactly what I've done but only in a social distancing/avoidance type of way. I'm not being forced to move just because of an inconsiderate loud mouth and her drunken pals. When I bump into them outside on the lawns I give them all a quick "Hi, you alright?" and crack a subtle joke about their excessive drinking/noise if I'm in a good mood but I never stop for a chat and just keep looking at my phone as if I'm really busy. Hopefully when summer's over they will stay upstairs and I won't see them outside as much !

 

[Junglist]

What is it about new build estates attracting these type of people? Mine is exactly the same.

My only guess is that it could be people who have moved from further afield and don't have friends in the local area. That's my only guess, really. I see the point in being friendly-ish to your direct neighbours because you never know when a parcel may get dropped to them and vice versa. I just don't understand why I need to know someone who lives on a different road on the estate. Just because we live in the same vicinity doesn't mean I want to get to know you or we have things in common.

I just let my partner deal with them all.

Edit: My pet peeve at the moment. There is someone, again overly friendly probably not a bad human, who has recently had a new baby. He's out walking it each morning, no biggie, but some mornings he'll literally be outside of my door as I walk out to go to the car and then he just wants to chat. GO AWAY! I've not even had a sip of coffee yet. He also always sits on his front garden and socially ambushes people as they walk by for some inane small chat.

I swear to all of you, I am not an *******. Honest. I'm just someone who likes to keep himself to himself and not cause any bother. it's just I absolutely loathe pointless social interaction. I find it mentally draining especially when I can tell you don't really care.

A long time ago I was talking to an immigrant from Sweeden or somewhere like that. She found it really hard to get used to the British way of asking "hey, how's it going?" really just meaning "hello" and not really asking how your day was. It seems everyone on my estate has lost the ability to ask "how's it going" whilst keeping it moving.

 

[HC1]

What is it about new build estates attracting these type of people? Mine is exactly the same.

Isn't it because they're trying to recreate the community spirit feeling that used to exist on middle class suburban housing estates pre 1990?
It's not a bad thing to be honest although I do agree with Junglist as I wouldn't want to get involved in all that and would prefer to be left alone and not disturbed by neighbours. It's usually the homeowners not renters that get chatty on those estates (so I'm told by friends).

 

[sigma]

Top quality retort
"Beat it" is exactly what I've done but only in a social distancing/avoidance type of way. I'm not being forced to move just because of an inconsiderate loud mouth and her drunken pals. When I bump into them outside on the lawns I give them all a quick "Hi, you alright?" and crack a subtle joke about their excessive drinking/noise if I'm in a good mood but I never stop for a chat and just keep looking at my phone as if I'm really busy. Hopefully when summer's over they will stay upstairs and I won't see them outside as much !

I meant beat it as in beat one off.

Bash the bish.

 

[HC1]

I meant beat it as in beat one off.

Bash the bish.

Oh right lol

I thought you meant beat it like "get gone"

 

[Richie]

What is it about new build estates attracting these type of people? Mine is exactly the same.

It's possibly down to everyone moving to a new estate and all that "new start" thinking. New house with the 2 new cars on the drive. Social aspirations TBH.

It doesn't take long for the human nature tribalism to set back in though, just give it time.

Someone's dog will crap on someone else's path or someone's kid will kick a ball off a window and all the pleasantries will disappear

 

[HC1]

However my attached next door neighbour is a proper nightmare. An elderly couple.

Proper nightmare? Elderly folk can be a bit set in their old-fashioned ways and curtain twitch a bit much too much sometimes but I bet you don't have many actual problems with your neighbours other than them snooping on you from their window? I'd rather have elderly neighbours than younger ones that's for sure.

 

[Richie]

Proper nightmare? Elderly folk can be a bit set in their old-fashioned ways and curtain twitch a bit much too much sometimes but I bet you don't have many actual problems with your neighbours other than them snooping on you from their window? I'd rather have elderly neighbours than younger ones that's for sure.

Move to a retirement complex then

 

[taB]

Just hit them all with your baseball bat.

Our noisiest neighbours are both police (more their approx 18yo kids having a rave when they're out). It's fine, I like the music .

 

[Molep]

Best thread for a while. Enjoying reading it.
fwiw I don't like my neighbours, but that's mainly because I just don't like them. Or care.

we did have some junkie neighbours 13 years ago, proper scum methheads were left some money so could buy a house, who use to glue our front door yale lock when we were out.