If it happens, I will start with compromise and being submissive/reasonable but I know where that approach has always got me in the past. People see "nice" as a weakness but I'm actually not a nice person at all.
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If it happens, I will start with compromise and being submissive/reasonable but I know where that approach has always got me in the past. People see "nice" as a weakness but I'm actually not a nice person at all.
Our neighbours keep their garden nice and tidy.
They seem a nice lovely middle class family. Seem mostly considerate to their screaming kids in the garden. Mostly.
Through our hundred year thick stone walls their shouting and swearing can be heard over the TV between each other and at the kids most days. The eldest girl (about 10?) shouts and swears back.
They're vile people who pretend to be nice.
Neighbours. Can't wait to move away.
They seem a nice lovely middle class family. Seem mostly considerate to their screaming kids in the garden. Mostly.
Through our hundred year thick stone walls their shouting and swearing can be heard over the TV between each other and at the kids most days. The eldest girl (about 10?) shouts and swears back.
They're vile people who pretend to be nice.
Neighbours. Can't wait to move away.
What are you going to do, break their legs for walking around their flat?
Even the most light footed of people can sound loud in flats if they've just not been sound insulated very well. Don't want to risk it then don't pick a flat to live in or at least one that's not on the top floor.
I my neighbour really ****** me of yesterday.
There is a little dirt track at the end of the road I'm talking about 30 yards from our house, the neighbour lives around the corner but shares a fence with us, this dirt track is in line with his house.
I've been taking the kids out to play with our remote control cars on this track, for several years, they are battery cars I hasten to add, so not noisy, no one has ever minded before and spoke to other neighbors if anything they said it's nice to see the kids having fun.
The track was really dry and they were kicking up some dust and the wind was blowing it towards his house. He came and had a moan.
To be fair I could have handled it a bit better because I probably came across as pretty aggressive although I didn't shout or swear, I said if it was the farmers driving up and down (which the often do) would he moan at them?
He said that his car was covered in dust.
The conversation didn't last long mainly me giving him the death stare I think it caught him out as I'm normally quite passive.
I did after a few minutes get the kids back in.
He came over today, to sort of clear things up, I guess, although didn't apologise, hope he wasn't expecting me to.
There is a thing at our village hall on Saturday and we are sat on the same table so guess he was trying to avoid that being awkward.
There is a little dirt track at the end of the road I'm talking about 30 yards from our house, the neighbour lives around the corner but shares a fence with us, this dirt track is in line with his house.
I've been taking the kids out to play with our remote control cars on this track, for several years, they are battery cars I hasten to add, so not noisy, no one has ever minded before and spoke to other neighbors if anything they said it's nice to see the kids having fun.
The track was really dry and they were kicking up some dust and the wind was blowing it towards his house. He came and had a moan.
To be fair I could have handled it a bit better because I probably came across as pretty aggressive although I didn't shout or swear, I said if it was the farmers driving up and down (which the often do) would he moan at them?
He said that his car was covered in dust.
The conversation didn't last long mainly me giving him the death stare I think it caught him out as I'm normally quite passive.
I did after a few minutes get the kids back in.
He came over today, to sort of clear things up, I guess, although didn't apologise, hope he wasn't expecting me to.
There is a thing at our village hall on Saturday and we are sat on the same table so guess he was trying to avoid that being awkward.
All of my neighbours are properly hateful. But not for the reason you think. They're too bloody friendly to the point it angers me.
It's one of those new build estates. We moved in and immediately there was a whatsapp group where every one is all friendly friendly with each other. That's fine in and of itself but when people are messaging the group to ask for a lemon... and someone replied "I have a lemon you can have but I need one back for tomorrow" I decided to leave the group.
But that wasn't enough. Everyone wants to talk to each other. I don't get it. We're just neighbours, we are not obligated to be friends. I'm civil and smile and say hello when passing but that is about all I can muster. When everyone on my street moved in some plank had the idea that we should all go and look around each others houses.
One of the ladies on our estate is our cleaner and she told my partner "it's really hard to get a smile out of him, isn't it". I took that as a badge of honour (we get long now I actually have a reason to know her)
I'd much rather live next to people who didn't want to know me rather than the overtly fake friendliness people show.
It's one of those new build estates. We moved in and immediately there was a whatsapp group where every one is all friendly friendly with each other. That's fine in and of itself but when people are messaging the group to ask for a lemon... and someone replied "I have a lemon you can have but I need one back for tomorrow" I decided to leave the group.
But that wasn't enough. Everyone wants to talk to each other. I don't get it. We're just neighbours, we are not obligated to be friends. I'm civil and smile and say hello when passing but that is about all I can muster. When everyone on my street moved in some plank had the idea that we should all go and look around each others houses.
One of the ladies on our estate is our cleaner and she told my partner "it's really hard to get a smile out of him, isn't it". I took that as a badge of honour (we get long now I actually have a reason to know her)
I'd much rather live next to people who didn't want to know me rather than the overtly fake friendliness people show.
That's the ultimate solution to all neighbour wars. If you get the death stare and the evils from a neighbour and you don't back down you may as well put a flack jacket on, bunker down, and get ready for WW3
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That's the ultimate solution to all neighbour wars. If you get the death stare and the evils from a neighbour and you don't back down you may as well put a flack jacket on, bunker down, and get ready for WW3
I could have handed it a bit better to be fair.
Im very passive agressive, most things are like water off a ducks back and genuinely dont bother me.
However, and this is very occasionally I hasted to add, if someone does **** me if I have this urge to tear them apart with my bare hands.
Fortunately I don't, but honestly it takes some effort to control it.
The reason we live in a detached house right now is because of a very bad experience at our last place. Thankfully we're in a position to afford a detached house, I know it's not an option for some and I do feel for them if they have a bad situation.
Did this bad experience include late night panting?
A former work colleague moved from a semi detached to a detached house because he couldn't hack being able to hear the nocturnal activities of his gay neighbours through the wall. This apparently included loud panting and suspicious baths being taken in the middle of the night. He became quite unhinged about the whole thing, to the secret amusement of everyone else.
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I like all my neighbours, and I’ve quickly became best friends with the one attached to us.
They were at our wedding and in close photos despite only having lived there a year or so at the time.
Some people are good people and get on well with other good people. (I’m talking about my wife and friends, not me.)
They were at our wedding and in close photos despite only having lived there a year or so at the time.
Some people are good people and get on well with other good people. (I’m talking about my wife and friends, not me.)
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Yeah they want something
Nope. Coked up big butch builder and wife beater. Played music incredibly loud frequently, sometimes at gone midnight on a Sunday (i.e. a Monday morning).
I was polite in asking him to turn it down etc quite a few times of which he apologised and obliged only to do it again a week later.
He eventually snapped and went off on one at me and threatened to put me in hospital etc and then just made my life hell.
Turned out he was renowned in the neighbourhood as being a **** from a family full of *****.
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My neighbours are fine. Moved in back in Feb. Every now and then i see my nighbours. Hi and bye. Maybe a quick chat, and thats about it.
And that's how i like it. None of this sitting down having a cup of tea, getting in the way, or even worse neighbours that are always in the way and want to know everything about you.
And that's how i like it. None of this sitting down having a cup of tea, getting in the way, or even worse neighbours that are always in the way and want to know everything about you.
Keep trying
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My neighbours are great. The nearest pair live 60 metres away and I’m in their good books for saving them at least €5K when we discovered that the bloke who renovated his property had his septic tank draining out into my land.
There’s the family at the end of the road who we only see at they drive past going to/from work.
Got around 30 more folks within 300 metres of us, but 26 of them are in the graveyard of the nearby chapel and the 4 that are still above ground are really nice.
There’s the family at the end of the road who we only see at they drive past going to/from work.
Got around 30 more folks within 300 metres of us, but 26 of them are in the graveyard of the nearby chapel and the 4 that are still above ground are really nice.
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Probably liked dags, and caravans.