What more can we do ?

D18241 · 25 Apr 2009 at 18:03

yhack said:
If you limit his xbox usage, he won't give you anything.
Just be nice to him and he will probably pay you.
Why not talk to him and work out a price which you can both agree on?

not like he is giving anything now

4T5 · 25 Apr 2009 at 18:05

Would be a better idea to buy him a PS3 & tell him if he don't pay rent you'll make him play that. :mad:

+

This joke was brought to you by a happy footy fan listening to 2 nil omg lollagecopters & the rest

helpimcrap · 25 Apr 2009 at 18:25

what you've requested in the op sounds entirely fair although the fact he finds it upsetting at 18 to pay his way leads me to question the morals he bases that on but then i'm someone who had a job since i was 12(?) and paid board since 14.

moon man · 25 Apr 2009 at 19:33

I have two daughters and im on under 20k a year
my 17 yr old gets £30pw ema and we pay her £10 a week for dinner money
my 20 yr old is at uni we send her £50 a month just to help out (she works part time) tbh the tax man pays us >£100 a week for having a family so if we can help out its no big deal ,i never paid board and i left home at 26 so its pay back time

Hedge · 25 Apr 2009 at 19:44

The trouble I see is that he knows that you will pay towards the child regardless of what he does.

Before its born I think you need to kick him out for a while and see what the hell he does.

Or simply stop buying him any food when you go shopping... or smash his xbox and see if he can afford a newun.

snap any games he has too

watch him flip out, then just see how he grovels later.

Chimerical · 25 Apr 2009 at 19:51

dmpoole said:
I must be doing something wrong.
My babies are 22 & 20 and don't pay a penny and both are good girls who haven't caused me one bit of grief.
I made the decision to have them and I will keep them if I have to even though both have had jobs from the age of 16.
If they had the attitude of the child in the OP then things would be different.

Only sensible post in this thread.

lopkinfop · 25 Apr 2009 at 19:56

Hedge said:
The trouble I see is that he knows that you will pay towards the child regardless of what he does.

Before its born I think you need to kick him out for a while and see what the hell he does.

Or simply stop buying him any food when you go shopping... or smash his xbox and see if he can afford a newun.

snap any games he has too

watch him flip out, then just see how he grovels later.

i dont think breaking his xbox and games is fair, and besides you never know what he might do to his parent stuff.

trouble is we don`t know what hes like, if hes a reasonable person that his parents can talk to as if he were an adult some of the suggestions of explaining how much it costs/asking him nicley might actually work. if he is stuck in 14 year old mode he might not listen to reason and become a kevin (so unfair, i hate you etc). does his friends have jobs/go to college or anything?

basically its a judgement call by his parents as they know him best and how he would react to certain things.

there are lots of comments by people who either don`t have children/have children but not like this, is there anyone who has experienced this?

lopkinfop · 25 Apr 2009 at 19:56

Chimerical said:
Only sensible post in this thread.

how so?

digisatman · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:03

malc30 said:
Would be a better idea to buy him a PS3 & tell him if he don't pay rent you'll make him play that. +

This joke was brought to you by a happy footy fan listening to 2 nil omg lollagecopters & the rest

not so happy anymore

yhack · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:07

D18241 said:
not like he is giving anything now

Yeah, but taking his stuff away isn't going to make him want to pay.

8balled · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:09

lopkinfop said:
how so?

I was thinking that, came across as nothing but gloating really.

yhack said:
Yeah, but taking his stuff away isn't going to make him want to pay.

It isn't about making him pay, it's about making him want to do more with his life.

Chimerical · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:14

lopkinfop said:
how so?

Because the rest seem full of ignorance (in general). I wouldn't assume that a bunch of internet nerds know anything at all about parenthood and being a good parent so the fact that the OP is asking 'us' how to successfully deal with his child is questionable.

8balled · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:19

And where exactly does "my kids are awesome" fit into this thread?

Chimerical · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:27

8balled said:
And where exactly does "my kids are awesome" fit into this thread?

Where exactly does "ask for parenting help" fit on a hardware forum?

If you start these threads you A) deserve to be judged, B) deserve to be flamed and C) deserve to be 'gloated' at.

8balled · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:27

No, you A) Deserve some advice.

Energize · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:28

Hedge said:
or smash his xbox and see if he can afford a newun.

Criminal damage possibly isn't the best idea.

Chimerical · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:28

8balled said:
No, you A) Deserve some advice.

No, you A) deserve some terrible, terrible advice which is what you'll get.

Hedge · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:30

Energize said:
Criminal damage possibly isn't the best idea.

Neither is kicking the guys ass, but it would be a tempting option.

Im a lazy guy, and I dont help my Mother out like I should, but Ive always had the sense to know that Im well off and that I need to pay my way to my mother.

8balled · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:31

Let's see shall we? where does Spec me a girlfriend, new house, loaf of bread, OMG lolcats belong. this isn't general hardware, this is general discussion. Spot the difference.

Sometimes, someone will post something that deserves at least some advice. And if the best advice you can find out of all the answers in this thread is someone randomly gloating then i hope you're never at the end of your tether and need advice and dont know where to look or who to go to.

Chimerical · 25 Apr 2009 at 20:34

8balled said:
Let's see shall we? where does Spec me a girlfriend, new house, loaf of bread, OMG lolcats belond. this isn't general hardware, this is general discussion. Spot the difference.

Sometimes, someone will post something that deserves at least some advice. And if the best advice you can find out of all the answers in this thread is someone randomly gloating then i hope you're never at the end of your tether and need advice and dont know where to look or who to go to.

Wrong again. Spec me a girlfriend/house/car/pigeon threads don't fall into the same category as raising your own child ffs.

Christ, this is someone's son we're talking about and its been trivialised to "OMG KICK HIM OUT" idiot responses. Morons on a forum are not a good place to go for advice. The fact that this is even a resort for the OP is a joke and he should be able to sort this out himself.