Oh pish, she looks lovely as she is. There's no need for her to 'fatten up'.
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Oh pish, she looks lovely as she is. There's no need for her to 'fatten up'.
6months, not one email.
Wow that sucks. I'm assuming good photo and reasonable profile, or not?
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She doesnt need to be fat, she just needs a few lbs extra to cover up them bones.
Do'in her would be like do'in a skeleton as she is right now!
the problem with internet dating is that it encourages the pursuit of perfection where in real life situations you generally work around any perceived shortcomings in people.
Go on PoF, do a search and you get 30 pages of matches back! you might only last 4 or 5 pages at best before getting bored and of them youll only messgae people who match your ideal, mr or miss average doesnt get a look in whereas in a real life situation you might go up and chat to them as there isnt that much choice on offer and come to realise theyre pretty nice people after all. That photo there is a prime example, she looks lovely yet people are picking holes, if they saw her in a bar one night theyd probably be in the queue to chat to her.
Go on PoF, do a search and you get 30 pages of matches back! you might only last 4 or 5 pages at best before getting bored and of them youll only messgae people who match your ideal, mr or miss average doesnt get a look in whereas in a real life situation you might go up and chat to them as there isnt that much choice on offer and come to realise theyre pretty nice people after all. That photo there is a prime example, she looks lovely yet people are picking holes, if they saw her in a bar one night theyd probably be in the queue to chat to her.
I wouldn't be in a queue to chat to anyone. I'd also be interested in her qualifications, study/work before taking an interest. Unless I was only out for one thing... but that's not what I think POF is for generally.
Right, decided to whip up a profile in order to talk to that girl, let's see how this turns out!
If I get ignored or rejected the humiliation will be severe.
I have to admit the picture caught my eye first but then I saw her profile which was actually nicely laid out and all spelt correctly, it was like a double whammy for me if I'm honest.
If I get ignored or rejected the humiliation will be severe.
I have to admit the picture caught my eye first but then I saw her profile which was actually nicely laid out and all spelt correctly, it was like a double whammy for me if I'm honest.
Yeah, I got the opposite once from another website.
When I registered for free I got several emails from girls who saw my profile and were interested in me. They all lived locally and were quite attractive, though you had to pay the registration fee to contact them.
I paid, sent several emails to them and never got a reply. I also never got any more emails from 'interested girls' after I'd paid the registration fee.
If I get ignored or rejected the humiliation will be severe.
I refer the honorable gentleman to my earlier post
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You got scammed by their automated system.
I did a the £1 trial of Shortlist dating, and after I didn't renew, I started getting loads more contact from women, all with very generic titles and generic profiles to match. All were of the fit variety. I thus called shenanigans.
photo, profile is just me... boring i guess
im no good at bull******* myself into a date. I generally only get with insane Nymph's (well, only 3), have a few shags then they leave and never speak again. Plus the fact that my parents have never ever been too good with each other means that i rarely want to put the effort into getting into a relationship because i feel that *all* relationships will be like those 2... Dam i need some counseling.
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That's because you don't really show up anywhere if you haven't logged in. In general girls don't search much and if they do results are usually displayed in order of latest online so they will never get to you if you haven't been online in ages.
If you log in regularly you have more chance of being seen and getting emails.
I'm sure everyone has a bit of a thing about how your parents relationship is :S. I think most people expect things to go as they have experianced or seen them happen. An antidote for this *may* be having mates with happily married parents and spending time at their house occasionally socialising with the parents (assuming said friend lives at home)... May allow you to see things can go well.photo, profile is just me... boring i guess
Yeah I know how it works. just funny it was so quick lol.
I kinda miss not getting 5-10 emails a day but after a Month of chatting I didn't really find anyone remotely worth meeting. Mostly they were late 20's, early 30's, with kids who wanted someone 'nice' and safe. I'm not settling for that as I want someone who really wow's me. 16 years of being Mr Nice have got me nowhere, so I'm taking a different approach and being more naughty but nice lol.
I'm actually genuinely worried now.
After browsing some profiles to pass the time (and having the odd giggle and moan about it), it seems that my days may actually be numbered for finding someone. With the high volume of girls who seem to have kids at my age, it seems incredibly unlikely that the others don't plan on following suit very soon. I'm naive to think that most women won't have a child by 30, really. Call me selfish, but I just simply do not want to be involved with a woman who already has a kid, even if I am 30 myself. She'd have to be more than special for me to change my stance on that. Especially at 23, I'd much rather they were still... within warranty. Combine that worrying hour-glass with the fact that a lot of the women closing in on 30 begin to look very haggard (probably to do with the clubbing they oh do so love), the outlook really does look bleak. Of course, these may be the exception to rule I've spent my whole life avoiding and the very reason why they've turned to online dating in the first place.
We've got to accept it lads: online dating is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
/sighs
I wouldn't bloody care if it wasn't so damn boring being single sometimes.
After browsing some profiles to pass the time (and having the odd giggle and moan about it), it seems that my days may actually be numbered for finding someone. With the high volume of girls who seem to have kids at my age, it seems incredibly unlikely that the others don't plan on following suit very soon. I'm naive to think that most women won't have a child by 30, really. Call me selfish, but I just simply do not want to be involved with a woman who already has a kid, even if I am 30 myself. She'd have to be more than special for me to change my stance on that. Especially at 23, I'd much rather they were still... within warranty. Combine that worrying hour-glass with the fact that a lot of the women closing in on 30 begin to look very haggard (probably to do with the clubbing they oh do so love), the outlook really does look bleak. Of course, these may be the exception to rule I've spent my whole life avoiding and the very reason why they've turned to online dating in the first place.
We've got to accept it lads: online dating is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
/sighs
I wouldn't bloody care if it wasn't so damn boring being single sometimes.
Hang in there Nix. I have a lot of friends with very longterm success relationships started via this method.
30 is not old at all.
You seem like a nice guy, just be patient and keep sending out the messages, you will get some dates sooner or later.
There's plenty of girls on there that have kids but also lots that do not, simply message the ones that match what you want only.
30 is not old at all.
You seem like a nice guy, just be patient and keep sending out the messages, you will get some dates sooner or later.
There's plenty of girls on there that have kids but also lots that do not, simply message the ones that match what you want only.
Welcome to my world mate. I'm sure most of the emails I get are sent because I look like I could be a good dad (to someone else's children)
Is it wrong to want someone attractive who's not got children or who have been abused on some level over the years?
Update....
I sent an email to someone who's viewed my profile several times. Just checked and it's been read and deleted. Damn and blast I actually put a lot of effort into that one
That's the thing, I've been browsing the profiles as a bit of research and it just simply hasn't twisted my arm to want to sign up. I'm probably better off without the anguish it'll obviously cause and just carry on as I am, evidently getting no-where.
Seriously, I don't want to come across as shallow because I'm really not - but I'm just not interested in 90% of the people on there as they're either ugly, fat, or have a kid. The odd person who am I attracted to will inevitably turn out to be mental or uninterested in me anyway, so why bother? I just really do not see the point of embarassing myself and getting my hopes up for something which will only fail to deliver.
I mean, I'm unemployed and living at home at present; not something I'm happy with but I'm a victim of circumstance so I'm playing the damn waiting game. Let's not beat around the bush - what women would be interested? Even if I played the numbers game, I'm still left with a very small threshold and that's even before my preferences get a say in the matter.
I think I'm probably best just living vicariously through krooton for a while.
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