Yeah I think it's a bad idea to make stuff up, I don't think I'm that good a lier! Am looking forward to it, hopefully the conversation will flow and regardless of whether it leads to anything, will be a fun evening with a nice girl.
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Yeah I think it's a bad idea to make stuff up, I don't think I'm that good a lier! Am looking forward to it, hopefully the conversation will flow and regardless of whether it leads to anything, will be a fun evening with a nice girl.
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Well, been out with 3 different women since last Friday. The first girl was a delight and I'm seeing her again this weekend, whilst to other two .. not so much. One tried getting me to buy her clothes and a handbag, whilst to other started crying in the restaurant when I asked her about her family. Ok, perhaps there's some sort of history there she doesn't want to talk about yet, but after that the dinner was completed in record time and I never heard from her again.
Yea, no idea myself.
All and all, quite a handy way of meeting people if you have the patience to search through the dirt to find the diamonds. I do miss being in a relationship, but this dating thing sure is interesting
Just be careful mate, dont give any of them the wrong idea, theres nothing wrong with dating but be up front with them as you are just out of a long term thing, you could hurt someone badly.
That sounded very positive fella, how did it go on the thurs date?
I just got married to someone I met on Zoosk which used to be a dating app from facebook but i think it's an independant site now. In my experiece I had to go through a hell of a lot of rubbish to find someone worth sticking with. I'm not talking about looks but just there are a massive amount of crazy girls out there that think it's their right to date a david beckham lookalike with pockets to match, even if they are nothing special.
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Yeah same here. Mainly because my friends will probably see and start chatting to me pretending to be a girl or something. (very paranoid lol)
Any tips for first dates? Not so much what to do, but more about conversation, how to act, etc. Not that I'm unsure, just that a bit of vicarious experience never hurt anyone.
I can perhaps advise as I have done this a massive 3 times now!
Apart from just being yourself, it would be handy coming prepared. For example, mentally compile a list of topics you could discuss whenever you feel a lull in conversation coming up. You've obviously read their profiles and have an idea about their hobbies, focus on that. Also, VERY important. LISTEN to what they say. A lot of guys are so nervous (as was I) and anxious to keep a conversation flowing that they keep rattling off questions, not taking on board what she said, and building a good conversation around that. I had a few ideas of topic conversations we could have if the conversation weren't going too well, but never really had to draw upon those reserves as I listened carefully to what she said, and went from there.
Nail. Head.
I've had some girls, solid 0/10's with bad spelling and laughable attitudes message me. The type that is 42 years old, 42 stone heavy and 'deserves to be treated and spoiled like a princess on a first date'.
That's what worries me!
I'm thinking of giving this e-dating lark a go, just come out of a 3yr relationship and I'm pretty sure my ex found her new bloke on a dating site (2 weeks after dumping me
) so I figured I'd give it a go myself.There are 190 pages in this thread and I'm not sure I can bring myself to read every one of them, so which dating websites would you guys recommend?
I've seen ad's for E-Harmony a lot on TV, that a good place to start?
Man up, set posts per page to maximum (as any man should) and read, you are doing the thread a disrespect otherwise.
I have skipped through it, but figured there might have been a general censensus formed around page 79 or 114 whereby a particular site was deemed to have nothing but swamp-donkeys and psychos as members, and should therefore be avoided at all costsMan up, set posts per page to maximum (as any man should) and read, you are doing the thread a disrespect otherwise.
Generally, the free sites tend to be better than the paid ones. Plenty of fish is very popular, so well worth signing up for.
If you've not done it before don't be shy about asking for help with writing your profile, this is absolutely vital that you get it right! Whenever you message a girl before she replies she'll check your profile out as well as your pics. You need it to stand out, be interesting and not just the same old stuff she's seen 100 times before.
There is a section on the plenty of fish forum about writing your profile, with the advice from there i changed mine completely!
6 months now i've been with the girl i met from pof
If you've not done it before don't be shy about asking for help with writing your profile, this is absolutely vital that you get it right! Whenever you message a girl before she replies she'll check your profile out as well as your pics. You need it to stand out, be interesting and not just the same old stuff she's seen 100 times before.
There is a section on the plenty of fish forum about writing your profile, with the advice from there i changed mine completely!
6 months now i've been with the girl i met from pof
I was going to have a go at speed dating, my money was ready to book in!
I cancelled out a week before, thought i'd see what the response was like and thank f i did!. Norovirus knocked me out and now with a wacking great big swelling under my nose, which would look really sexy on a night out with the ladies
I cancelled out a week before, thought i'd see what the response was like and thank f i did!. Norovirus knocked me out and now with a wacking great big swelling under my nose, which would look really sexy on a night out with the ladies
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my mum did ok on it as she found a nice man etc who treats her well and stuff. thought i'd try as everyone seemed to rave about it. call me weird but i found them all to be ignorant or so far up their own arse they have a really high opinion of themselves etc. maybe that's why they are single still?
i can't meet anyone i like when out as town is dead and i put myself off the market for a couple of years (getting sorted after an accident etc) but i have more success with girls i meet in person and so i've had a date the other week (didn't work out as she was i feel a bit 'above' herself, nice girl but just a bit 'off') and i've got a number of a girl i met the other day....
i can't meet anyone i like when out as town is dead and i put myself off the market for a couple of years (getting sorted after an accident etc) but i have more success with girls i meet in person and so i've had a date the other week (didn't work out as she was i feel a bit 'above' herself, nice girl but just a bit 'off') and i've got a number of a girl i met the other day....
I notice a trend here... online you get the feeling that people are "up their own arse and have a high opinion of themselves", and then you met a girl in real life who seemed "a bit above herself".
The problem is clearly yours, not theirs. Your own insecurities and self-worth need to be addressed before you can start dating people that are obviously far more comfortable with themselves and who they are that you are with yourself. You may rubbish what im saying, and possibly have no idea what im talking about, but your post and wording is a classic sign of this, and ive seen it many times before.
Your insight into other members is rather surreal. How you can gauge somebodys personal traits and provide solutions just like that must. mean. you are. a god?
Or the girl the guy was talking to online was actually you
Man up, set posts per page to maximum (as any man should) and read, you are doing the thread a disrespect otherwise.
No matter how many posts you set per page, there's still a hell of a lot of posts. Having issues with repeated page loading is hardly the inhibiting factor, unless you're on 28.8k dial-up.
Out of interest, is there a general consensus on what sites are better than others? Much as I'm loathe to go hunting for what everyone's always told me comes naturally, it'd be nice to date girls with a little prior knowledge rather than the minefield that your mates think are 'good for you'.
You know, by taking some time out and reading a lot of this thread you will discover a whole lot of what goes on.
There are some truly funny stories also.
Richdog does talk some sense by suggesting you have a read.
Also, most here use Plenty of Fish, but don't expect to find someone straight away, and it can take a while.. just like in the "real" world.
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