Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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peterattheboro said:
Having an actual phone call is a next step. It's so much easier for most to text or chat online. I'd probably only speak to a chick once or twice before an actual date occured I reckon.
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Just skip it, not needed. Just puts more pressure on.

I also got a message today from the Guardian Soulmates dating website. Seems a really nice girl and into very similar stuff but it cost me £32 to reply!! 1 month membership. Cheeky buggers.
 
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bAz^uk said:
Why do you need to talk to them on the phone? Most people find that akward, the two that I met I never bothered ringing them. Not only did I not see a need but I didn't want them to feel even more nervous.
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Oh? because when i was online dating some time back every site said not to leave the woman hanging and actually talk to her on the phone. Remember the old saying don't just text TALK. But seems over the years something has changed and if you are online dating never talk on the phone, just email/text and go out for a date.

You have their emails and you can read their profile, but there’s nothing like hearing someone’s voice for the first time, or hearing the humor come through in the stories they tell. So keep your initial phone conversation short and to the point. After you meet, of course, you can chat away!
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Why give me her number and say " i wondered when we would talk " if she doesn't talk? :confused:

Besides we've been talking for a few weeks now via emails and facebook, lots of laughs and late nite chats!. If she doesn't want to talk on the phone, can't she just say i'm abit nervous about the phone or i don't like the phone?
 
There's plenty of women on dating sites that have no intention to meet or pursue an actual relationship, they are just on there because they are attention whores and like having their egos stroked.
 
Well atleast i'm learning

My profile is ok, my conversations are ok!, but avoid calling or talking on the phone if you want to talk do it at the date.
 
Neil I think your looking into all this too much, there never a wrong or right way to do it and its everyones opionions on here. Just do it per case, whatever feels right.
 
bAz^uk said:
Neil I think your looking into all this too much, there never a wrong or right way to do it and its everyones opionions on here. Just do it per case, whatever feels right.
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Thing is whenever i ask a question on how to deal with certain situations as this is the dating thread, it's still new ground to me. I get that i'm thinking too much or looking into it too much, but there is no harm in asking right? :). But anyway, i got a text sorry i missed your call i was busy with blah blah, how are you :p

I messaged her via FB if she was still ok for the date next week, midweek she said yep it's cool. Check the weather :D
 
Neil79 said:
Think i'll give up for awhile :(

End up with women who can't carry a conversation on a dating site ie one liners yet i've put plenty across to get a conversation flowing. But i also get women who will never talk on the phone and a simple hey this me blah blah give us a call back on answer machine and they never do!. I've spoken to this girl over facebook for atleast week now, she was brilliant on dating conversations back and forther we even set up for a date next week. She won't answer the phone and no I don't call every day as that's bad!, I left a message this morning to call me back as she did text me how i was and was i having a good day. Yet i came online and she was on FB :(

Don't get me wrong I hate the phone but i would like to atleast hear her voice, am i doing something wrong?. Have any of you spoke on the phone after you've got their number?
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Neil dont put all your eggs in the one basket. Seriously. Otherwise you are going to get hung up on one....

She will be talking and flirting with at least 5 guys probably.

If she doesnt answer the phone after she gave you her number and doesnt call you back then drop it completely and move on. Otherwise she is just messing you around.
 
Had date number two with the Polish girl from match. Had an awesome time and she spent the night! We're meeting up again tomorrow, really like this girl! :D
 
Ahh no she wouldnt - think she texted you back though so no worries :D Just think you are wanting more contact or investment from them than they want to give.

My advice is talk and msg a lot of women. Dont spend ages typing up a deep and meaningful message though. (because its wasted when you will invariably get a "lol really" reply that took them 2 seconds. However if they do a long reply then you do one as well)

Dont expect anything to go anywhere with any of them. Just go with the flow.
 
Surfer said:
Ahh no she wouldnt - think she texted you back though so no worries :D Just think you are wanting more contact or investment from them than they want to give.
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Yeh she did send a message with an apology and also spoke on FB.. So mobile text = OK , FB Chat = OK but not phone :eek::p
 
Neil79 said:
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If that sadness is because of me then I apologise, remember it's a numbers game, the more messages you send the more likely you'll find one decent girl. Send lots of messages and skip the phone call thing. If after a couple of back and forth you think you could get on with her, ask her out on a date. The quicker you get face to face contact the better - online and over the phone doesn't really help you figure out if you have chemistry. Plus the more dates you go on the better you get at it. :)
 
Chatting to one today who appeared nice, she asked me where I was going to take and said she only drinks champagne. Not messaging her back...
 
This is getting really annoying now, Most of the women I do actually like live in places where it seems hard work to get to without a car.. damn I want a car so badly now..
 
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