No but I wouldn't be keen on her being 100 miles away dressed as a hooker! She's not even with friends, she's with colleagues that probably won't even look after her.
Fancy dress, am i being harsh!
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No but I wouldn't be keen on her being 100 miles away dressed as a hooker! She's not even with friends, she's with colleagues that probably won't even look after her.
Do explain?
How is my rection "Yikes?"
I dont understand the problem with his girlfriend going out to a fancy dress party in costume. Hang on to I get my shocker face..??
(My current relationship just turned 2 years this month and both are very happy. Guess what the secret is? Trust......)
Do explain?
How is my rection "Yikes?"
I dont understand the problem with his girlfriend going out to a fancy dress party in costume. Hang on to I get my shocker face..??
(My current relationship just turned 2 years this month and both are very happy. Guess what the secret is? Trust......)
I see you are refusing to read both the OPs posts and mine. I will ignore you from now on. Continue.
"Trust" is a misguided reality based on "Faith". Faith and trust rely on a fine strand of desperation as you need to cling onto something to keep you assured because without it you will be lost.
To rely on Trust and Faith in relationships is where they go wrong! Have "Openess" as when Trust is broken you never get it back and you will be hurt. Where as with an open relationship nothing can hurt you because everything is part of your relationship and if you both accept it then the only thing that can go wrong is you both fall out of Love. Love is just an emmossion and can be replaced. Hence no more jealousy
"Trust" is a misguided reality based on "Faith". Faith and trust rely on a fine strand of desperation as you need to cling onto something to keep you assured because without it you will be lost.
To rely on Trust and Faith in relationships is where they go wrong! Have "Openess" as when Trust is broken you never get it back and you will be hurt. Where as with an open relationship nothing can hurt you because everything is part of your relationship and if you both accept it then the only thing that can go wrong is you both fall out of Love. Love is just an emmossion and can be replaced. Hence no more jealousy
Hmm. If the trust is broken then there would have to be a pretty serious breakdown, cheating (as is the highlight of the thread) being a fine example.
If she cheats on me then yes, the trust is broken which is just right. Doesnt mean ill break down and turn into a reclusive sob story for weeks however. It means the relationship will end.
I think what youre doing is holding back to prevent any hurt. This openness is a defence to prevent pain but means youre open to abuse - espeically if you were to get back together that easily after a big issue like the aforementioned cheating.
Everyone has their own thing but youre right in saying that you need to keep the jealousy completely out of it. It has no place.
Ill continue to trust my gf until I have reason not to, theres no point overdoing it..
"Trust" is a misguided reality based on "Faith". Faith and trust rely on a fine strand of desperation as you need to cling onto something to keep you assured because without it you will be lost.
To rely on Trust and Faith in relationships is where they go wrong! Have "Openess" as when Trust is broken you never get it back and you will be hurt. Where as with an open relationship nothing can hurt you because everything is part of your relationship and if you both accept it then the only thing that can go wrong is you both fall out of Love. Love is just an emmossion and can be replaced. Hence no more jealousy
Are you a Vulcan?
Guys, guys, guys!
Firstly, we are assuming she will be dressing in super-skank mode, and that isn't a prerequisite for burlesque themed partise.
Secondly, we are assuming the OP's gf is hot and will get loads of attention, and we all know the saying about assuming...
Firstly, we are assuming she will be dressing in super-skank mode, and that isn't a prerequisite for burlesque themed partise.
Secondly, we are assuming the OP's gf is hot and will get loads of attention, and we all know the saying about assuming...
"Trust" is a misguided reality based on "Faith". Faith and trust rely on a fine strand of desperation as you need to cling onto something to keep you assured because without it you will be lost.
To rely on Trust and Faith in relationships is where they go wrong! Have "Openess" as when Trust is broken you never get it back and you will be hurt. Where as with an open relationship nothing can hurt you because everything is part of your relationship and if you both accept it then the only thing that can go wrong is you both fall out of Love. Love is just an emmossion and can be replaced. Hence no more jealousy
Open relationships only work if both parties fully embrace it, and the majority of people cannot do this. Guys especially would be hypocritical about loving the thought of multiple lovers, but hating the idea of those lovers sleeping with other men.
"Trust" is a misguided reality based on "Faith". Faith and trust rely on a fine strand of desperation as you need to cling onto something to keep you assured because without it you will be lost.
To rely on Trust and Faith in relationships is where they go wrong! Have "Openess" as when Trust is broken you never get it back and you will be hurt. Where as with an open relationship nothing can hurt you because everything is part of your relationship and if you both accept it then the only thing that can go wrong is you both fall out of Love. Love is just an emmossion and can be replaced. Hence no more jealousy
You do realise that "open" relationships are based on trust too, right? You trust that your partner still loves you, and not the other guy..
That and the human race isn't polygamous by nature should probably indicate that you're doing it wrong.
I've gone out in fancy dress as a soldier, it doesn't *actually* make me a member of the military. I've gone out with my friends whilst in a relationship, other people didn't make me cheat on my partner.
What you have described above is a controlling manipulative stance which is borderline abusive, and you most certainly don't understand the concept of trust, or indeed respect.
Why should it matter whether he knows the people she's on the lash with, all he needs to know is that his girl is in a loving relationship with him, and therefore will not be reacting to or instigating any cheating. If he cannot think this way, the let her go and find someone who can trust her. Because telling your girl where she can go, who with and how she can dress is control, and that usually doesn't stop there. If you were serious about this post, you need help, you have a very warped idea of what a relationship should be.
Sorry, I thought the purpose of the discussion was Brightside229 insecurity. You've assumed his GF will cheat. My view on it is that she will cheat if not now but eventually and to get in there first as a defense mechanism.
And that is the whole point of the discussion. It doesn't matter how much you frett about it and turn your mind into a green eyed monster that will torment your sole and drive you crazy until she gets home, the same thing will happen again.
AND yes I am a Vulcan from a former life. However, I had a Jonny Mnuemonic SSD upgrade and implanted with a "So What!" chipset.
Or you stop being insecure, jealous and feeling inferior to other men and show the woman you care about that you're worth being faithful for? You can stop trying to be your partners 'master' and cut her some slack?
At the end of the day if your O/H wants to go out and enjoy herself with her friends, let her. Or she's only going to be more inclined to cheat as you begin form a Fritzl style prison around her.
If you went out with the lads dressed as cave men, half naked covered in body paint then I'm sure that she might feel the same way but wouldn't stop you going out.
When it's all said and done if she is unfaithful then she's done you a favour and you've dodged a bullet anyway.
What she does is outside of your control so there's absolutley nothing you can do about it so isn't worth stressing over. You'll be pulling your hair out over the littlest things. She's popped to the shops to get some milk but taken twice as long as normal?! what if somebody else has chatted her up?! what if she's not really gone to get milk?! what else am I going to eat with my fish fingers?!
So no problem I bang the hell out of your missus then and send her right back to you.......cus its OK, she love you not me!
The discussion of his insecurity that she will do what? Make pancakes? Or cheat?
Exactly my point? Let her go. If nots not meant to be, its not meant to be.
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I don't see the problem. If my missus wants to go out in a short skirt and corset on to have some fun with friends then that fine. If she wants to go out in something that she feels sexy in then I'm not worried because I know she's mine and won't appreciate anyone's advances. I also know that she won't put herself in dangerous situations either.
hooker? Do you want to step out of that 70's cop show you're living in?
Its OP that has the insecurity, what his missus will do is not the point. She has a right as a women to dress and go where she wants and act how she wants. Brightside needs to deal with that because in his mind its his insecurity that deems she will be going off with others because as he states in his post the others will and she is dressed like a "Hooker" not a burlesque dancer.
Quite frankly, I think she should dump you brightside229 as you sound like a bunny boiler! (no harm intended, just an observation based on you diflamitory comments of your women)