Fancy dress, am i being harsh!
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Wtf does a wedding band and wedding certificate got to do with anything? Ive been with my girlfriend for over nine years now, if someone is going to cheat they're going to cheat!He's been married for 12 years, he must be doing something right
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If she likes attention from other dudes, she will be dressing provocatively, if she doesn't like that kind of thing she won't be dressing up that way/ go out on binge drink parties.
You can either wait for her to mature, which is ain't going to happen for years or you can accept that she is a women in her prime and wants to have fun, that includes dressing up for the show, going out clubbing and dancing with random people as it seems.
You can not force her to be what she's not, she might stay with you but at the back of her head she will always hate you for trying to control it and one day it will all burst out.
Best thing you can do is to say "Have fun"
Why is that relevant. I'm saying they've been together for 12 years. He must be doing something right.
"someone is going to cheat they're going to cheat" Such an ambiguous statement isn't it.
If she likes attention from other dudes, she will be dressing provocatively, if she doesn't like that kind of thing she won't be dressing up that way/ go out on binge drink parties.
You can either wait for her to mature, which is ain't going to happen for years or you can accept that she is a women in her prime and wants to have fun, that includes dressing up for the show, going out clubbing and dancing with random people as it seems.
You can not force her to be what she's not, she might stay with you but at the back of her head she will always hate you for trying to control it and one day it will all burst out.
Best thing you can do is to say "Have fun"
Why is that relevant. I'm saying they've been together for 12 years. He must be doing something right.
"someone is going to cheat they're going to cheat" Such an ambiguous statement isn't it.
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It just annoys me that some people assume because they're married there is less chance of there partners straying away.
Of course it matters for goodness sake, especially if you have children. But by marriage I mostly meant the time they've been together. So including time before marriage...around 14-15 years?
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I totally agree. I just don't think money does that and I think you're a mug if you do.
I suppose one must ask why she would want to dress like that and go to a place where the main activity will be to entice other men.
That's not necessarily a lack of trust, but rather a questioning of why she would do something like that if she is happy in a relationship with you?
Of course her going doesn't instantly mean she's cheating/going to cheat as such (although cheating is kind of a subjective term anyway).
That's not necessarily a lack of trust, but rather a questioning of why she would do something like that if she is happy in a relationship with you?
Of course her going doesn't instantly mean she's cheating/going to cheat as such (although cheating is kind of a subjective term anyway).
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You could just turn that question around: why should it be a problem?
A wedding band on your finger and a wedding certificate don't mean **** in my opinion.
Good for you buddy. It does mean hell of a lot to most of people. Just like it doesn't matter you don't believe god is sanctifying your marriage but 2 billion other people do think that is the case.
Why would you want to entice other men when you're happily in a relationship with one already?
This. Marriage for me is absolutely sacrosant.
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It's nice to be noticed, it's good for self esteem if nothing else.
He's been married for 12 years, he must be doing something right
spunking money to keep a girl / wife is not 'doing something right' for me though :/
especially when you cite it as the main reason she won't cheat.
One word gullible.
True.
Unfortunately there are some people, those with trust issues (quite common) and/or those who have been hurt previously (also quite common) would find it disconcerting to know that their partner is going far away to get attention from other men/women. And anyone with a modicum of common sense is aware that even the most iron-will can be broken, temptation can be given into and mistakes can be made. I think it's that where people worry.
And then you wonder if your partner does it regardless of how you feel (as long as you actually explain yourself properly without going off on one) just how strong is your relationship? (Knowingly causing your partner to suffer to satisfy your own selfish desire to be lusted after by other people)
Edit: To make it clear, I don't really care what my partner does or does not do in her spare time as long as it doesn't infringe on the honour of our relationship. (I'm aware that the tone of my post makes it sound like I'm the OP; I'm just trying to encourage discussion on those points)
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It does not matter. As is your individual case does not matter in the bigger picture. Keep in mind that in their view you're gullible, so are you going to act liek a child and throw accusation back and forth or you deal with the fact that for a majority of people marriage is a big deal religiously, psychological, legally and lets not forget financially, divorce is pain in the a*** it is a truly horrific experience that makes you think twice before divorcing somebody even if they cheat.
