Man of Honour
From that description, he sounds like the sort of trash you'd find on Jeremy Kyle. That makes the situation trickier. People of that calibre have a habit of being dangerously stupid and throwing caution to the wind.
Good luck.
Being followed/stalked
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From that description, he sounds like the sort of trash you'd find on Jeremy Kyle. That makes the situation trickier. People of that calibre have a habit of being dangerously stupid and throwing caution to the wind.
Good luck.
Caporegime
West Sussex 'eh? Let me guess... Lancing, Worthing, Southwick, Fishersgate, that sort of area..? It is so nice here...
Associate
Sussex is riddled with drug dealers. I don't what other places are like as I've only lived in Sussex since I was 10 (now 34) but out of all the 4 areas I've lived in (Horsham, Henfield, Southwater, Pulborough) - drugs and dealers are rife.
Caporegime
Its exactly the same further down where i'm from, in Lancing, Worthing, Durrington, Goring, Portslade, Alderington, Fishersgate etc etc... Drug dealers all over the place, crime rates are unusually high for towns and villages as small as these as well. I think it was only a few weeks ago, a few days before christmas, that the butchers shop not 20 minutes walk away from my house, was raided by armed robbers.
Soldato
Who's saying anything about "meeting him halfway?" I think all the way, plus an extra half on top for good measure would be the appropriate response to this! (/keyboardwarrior).
In all seriousness however, how long do you put up with abuse and harassment and the authorities doing nothing before it's too much?
I never thought I'd agree with kwerk.
OP, Westy made some good suggestions further up this page. I've tried to PM you with some more detailed suggestions but your trust is not configured. Please get in touch if you want some professional advice - I'm in a role where I see this type of issue on a daily basis, so I have a lot of experience in dealing with problems similar to yours.
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Soldato
I live here and it's very nice & quiet round me. No real crime to speak of and I've lived here for 10 years.
But to the OP - if it's a housing association flat he's in then it's them you should be complaining to along with the police. As others have said, log everything in a diary and make repeated, level-headed complains. They will be forced to act as his behaviour is antisocial and almost certainly in contravention of any 'quiet enjoyment' clause in his rental contract.
why not post some advice, maybe it would help others..
I assume the guy has mental issues and cannot be reasoned with, and the only solutions involve extreme violence, moving, or framing him for something
No I am further up, closer to Surrey.
I didn't want to mention the word Rape, but that was the original accusation however it was common knowledge that the two were having an affair months before.
I will also reiterate I did not live here when the accusations were made. I moved in about 4-5 years later.
I have the police out later this morning so it will be interesting what they have to say.
Would really appreciate that I will configure now.
That last bit.
I wouldn't give a damn how old or even what sex the person was, if someone was intimidating my partner to the point she feared going out and was putting her (and our daughter) at risk then all gloves are off i'm afraid.
Obviously investigate all legal channels first but if nothing happened then i would do anything i knew i could get away with to stop it.
Soldato
This! Then do it every time he follows you. I doubt he will continue and with him being old he may even lose his licence
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When I say he is 72, I was very surprised to find that out . If you aged him without knowing I would have put him as about 56-62. He is certainly a fit guy for his age, tall as well at least 6'1.
He is definitely weird though, he drives an old BMW 5 series 520 I believe. He has the local boy racers rice it up. It now has M badges stuck all over it, a knocked off leather interior and a Cherry Bomb silencer. At least we get a giggle when he goes out at that.
He is definitely weird though, he drives an old BMW 5 series 520 I believe. He has the local boy racers rice it up. It now has M badges stuck all over it, a knocked off leather interior and a Cherry Bomb silencer. At least we get a giggle when he goes out at that.
Caporegime
Maybe I notice it more because I have lived in Lancing my whole life. And maybe because i'm a teenager.
Soldato
I mean this in the nicest possible way, but you have no idea. This is probably because you are a decent, hard-working person who has no real contact with the underclass that surround you. You may live in one of the nicer parts of town, so it may be less obvious. Nevertheless, there are people living around you who inhabit a different world.
I'm not sure which part of Worthing you live in, but there is a marked contrast between, for example, parts of Ferring and parts of Durrington.
Explain to your parents, then allow him to follow you there so they can make a complaint to the police to add to your evidence. Perhaps even call the police when you are there so they can see that he's actually followed you there and confront him
If he continues, lodge another complaint and take a drive down to the police station with him following, perhaps have the police greet him
If he continues, lodge another complaint and take a drive down to the police station with him following, perhaps have the police greet him