Being followed/stalked

A lot of people claiming senility here but imo 72 isn't too old and he might know precisely what he's doing. He might just be a nasty old *******.

Honestly, I'm utterly a pacifist, but 72 or not, this chap has gone way past the point just being an irritation and standing your ground and defending your way of life some time ago. Keep doing the noting and reporting to the police but equally man up and stand up for yourself.
No way would I have my partner scared to drive or have someone tailgating me all the time.
 
Third Opinion said:
He is about 72 and his wife is younger than me (I am 40). From what I gather and it is all very complicated, his wife and another man (not my neighbour but friend of his) had something going and it ended up becoming common knowledge. A majority of people say it was a 50/50 thing between the two but this old guy believed it to be all one sided.

I don't want to go into details but I can say it was fully investigated by the Police and found to be no crime committed.
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I'm confused. By 'something going' I assumed you meant they were having an affair.

If so, why would the police investigate and what crime does this old codger think has taken place :confused:
 
Judgeneo said:
I was expecting another bunny boiler thread, this is quite different :confused:


Have you talked to his wife?
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Yes I have. I am not sure how to put it politely but she does not seem to have been very well educated. They have two fairly young children together,about 6-9 in age.

After the incident 5 years ago who threw her out of their Housing association flat. This flat was given to them as a family, but he is allowed to keep a 3 bed flat on his own. She still visits and the children and her stay all weekend but he refuses to let her live their.

He wants the council to re-house her and the kids in a separate house to him. He admitted to me when we first met that he believes he is owed that flat and would like to sub let it even though he knows it is illegal.

I will also admit I am a social housing tenant after a period of ill health and homelessness.
 
Oh the joys. With all the things going on it the world, financial meltdown, civil wars, uprisings, serious civil rights abuses, famines, etc etc, seems harsh you have to put up with some petty bickering that doesn't even involve you. I would try holding your head high and maybe it will blow over.
 
Third Opinion said:
After the incident 5 years ago who threw her out of their Housing association flat. This flat was given to them as a family, but he is allowed to keep a 3 bed flat on his own. She still visits and the children and her stay all weekend but he refuses to let her live their.
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You should perhaps inform the housing association of this!
 
Are there any other neighbours who have been contacted by him in the same way?

Maybe you could all form an allegiance and go to the Police together.

Keeping a diary of events is also a good suggestion made by someone up there ^^^

Authorities love times, dates and events recorded.

BB x
 
Why not seriously mess with his head? What's a 72 year old gonna do.

Start following him for a day.

Have a camera with you with a blinding flash. Start taking photos of him when you seem him.

Would be quite funny.

Make a complete joke out of him. Why would you be intimidated by a rubbish bully?
 
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Third Opinion said:
resident.

He ranted and raved about our neighbours referring to an incident that had happened about 5 years previous. He is about 72 and his wife is younger than me (I am 40). From what I gather and it is all very complicated, his wife and another man (not my neighbour but friend of his) had something going and it ended up becoming common knowledge. A majority of people say it was a 50/50 thing between the two but this old guy believed it to be all one sided.
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Finding it a wee bit difficult to grasp this bit. Who is 72, your neighbour or the stalker?

Your stalkers wife had something going with a friend of your neighbour?

Something going like what? Sexually or criminally?

Does he have the rage because his wife had an affair?

Confused! :confused:
 
BrightonBelle said:
Are there any other neighbours who have been contacted by him in the same way?

Maybe you could all form an allegiance and go to the Police together.

Keeping a diary of events is also a good suggestion made by someone up there ^^^

Authorities love times, dates and events recorded.

BB x
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Yes there are but unfortunately the ones he befriends have there own social problems. Two are drug dealers which is amazing in a village with a population of under 1000. I know he does their drug runs and have managed to get a drug marker put on his car.

He does smoke dope, but his allegiance with the dealers is more about using their muscle. I was beaten up by a drug dealer (not from round here) before xmas that the police need a statement from me about.

I don't do any drugs but I enjoy the odd glass of wine.

I should also add he claims to be an ex-member of the Kray gang which of course I think is BS. He is a chauffeur or ex and a well known taxi driver.
 
DailyGeek said:
A lot of people claiming senility here but imo 72 isn't too old and he might know precisely what he's doing. He might just be a nasty old *******.
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What is too old? Going by averages he's got 6 years left in him at best.

To the OP... You can try and fight it in many ways, ways which have proven to rarely work. Your best option is to move. You may feel like you're giving in, "I'm not going to let him win" but it is your best option.

There are probably a million reasons you can give that you would not move or want to but it is your best option.
 
Skyfall said:
What is too old? Going by averages he's got 6 years left in him at best.

To the OP... You can try and fight it in many ways, ways which have proven to rarely work. Your best option is to move. You may feel like you're giving in, "I'm not going to let him win" but it is your best option.

There are probably a million reasons you can give that you would not move or want to but it is your best option.
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I reckon completely belittling him would work. Just need you and someone else to reinforce each other and just laugh at him at everything. Be extremely patronising, ask him how many days he has left on earth, etc. etc.

As long as there is no threat of physical violence, he's 72, what's he going to do? His self esteem would be crushed. That's what teenage kids would be best at.

If you let it get to you, then he thinks what he is doing will work.
 
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Lots of post here and many great suggestions but as its a council property could you not contact them about him being anti social? A friend of mine had a similar problem (albeit not as bad as yours) and he reported her to the council and she ended up being evicted.
 
Third Opinion said:
Yes there are but unfortunately the ones he befriends have there own social problems. Two are drug dealers which is amazing in a village with a population of under 1000. I know he does their drug runs and have managed to get a drug marker put on his car.

He does smoke dope, but his allegiance with the dealers is more about using their muscle. I was beaten up by a drug dealer (not from round here) before xmas that the police need a statement from me about.

I don't do any drugs but I enjoy the odd glass of wine.

I should also add he claims to be an ex-member of the Kray gang which of course I think is BS. He is a chauffeur or ex and a well known taxi driver.
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Just noticed you are from West Sussex - where? I can't think of any place like this?!

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I can see that this problem is the result of a faulty light bulb in your home, this is causing you to hallucinate these problems you describe.

I can identify the faulty light bulb and replace it for £5000, after i have done this your hallucinations will stop within a day to a couple of weeks.

And that's with a money back guarantee!
 
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Buy a very large bladed hunting knife, everytime you see the man in question, proceed to get the knife out and lick the blade like a deranged lunatic. If you can cut your tongue each time all the better. Then do the "I'm watching you" move where you point at your eyes and then at them, give the blade another lick and put it away safely.
 
Unfortunately it seems as though he won't stop. Even so, "meeting him halfway" with threats of violence only shows you in a bad light. Personally, I'd do the following:

  • Film EVERYTHING. If he follows you, stop the car at a safe location, get out the car with video camera/camera phone in hand, ask him why he's following you. Get a rear mounted camera, for further evidence that he's following you.
  • Log EVERYTHING. Keep a notebook at home, in the car, whereever. Get your partner to do the same. There needs to be tangible evidence that this man is being a nuisance. Written logs and video will back your previous complaints up.
  • Collaborate with your neighbours - this is important - otherwise it's just a neighbour's dispute. It's important that you speak to people that you trust within the building/complex, get them all to take notes of any intimidating behaviour. Even if they think you've noted it down, ask them to write down everything. Notes from several sources that all match up with regards to date and time will be invaluable.
  • Seek advice. This may be from the Police, a Solicitor or a Social Worker. Either way, everything you do must be above board and to the letter if you want to stand a reasonable chance of getting rid of him. As tempting as it is (I'd certainly be tempted to "have a quiet word" ;)), everything must strictly legal.

It certainly sounds like a nasty situation, best of luck :)
 
I was just watching a documentary on a guy who tried to kill a whole family because their daughter broke up with him. Weird coincidence.

He sounds like a right ****, the law won't help you unfortunately until it's blatantly obvious you're in danger.
 
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