well, it seems its the motherboard
I tried a my seasonic psu on it while also removing all but 1 stick of ram, nothing. just a green bliking LED on the motherboard. ill try it with only 1 cpu in slot 0 to see if itll boot that way.
so I did just try swapping both cpus around, I also tried 2 other cpus aswell, nothing
looks like its a dead board which is strange as I only shut it down for a reboot
after even more testing , its pretty much 99% a dead board. the psu has been tested in another pc and works, and the working psu from the pc tested on the server board, nothing
I wonder if the high temps have had anything to do with it, and its over heated and burnt somthing