I have many friends but at the same time I'm slowly drifting away from a lot of them because I'm just too content with my own company. I'm surprised many of them still ask me to do things. Perhaps I need to fix that, otherwise I'll end up with no one...
Does anyone else have no friends?
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Soldato
I thought I had some really life long friends that I had grown up with. However I realised as I became older they only really appeared when they needed something or had a break up with the missus. So for most of my life I had really only been buying friendship in a way. So I would say I only have maybe 1 or 2 I could count on.
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Soldato
You sound like someone I know who had friends and now has none as he went all odd and pushed everyone away when he got his possessive girlfriend.
Yep. I'm just about as anti-social as you can get. Basically don't interact with anyone besides family members and customers/suppliers at work. Don't talk to people through games/over the internet with the exception of this forum. No social media. Don't even own a mobile phone.
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I don't have any and to be honest I don't really want any . I have my family and that's all I need .
Soldato
I do have some friends, it's just I only see them a few times a year.
You win the thread.
All that can top that now is a single who guy who works from home and orders all his shopping online and never leaves the house.
I think it's easier to stay friends when you have shared experiences and have good memories which help with forming the bond, especially post school days.
Also, as per previous comments, making the effort is something we all need to do, even if it's just a pint or two at the pub!
Family don't really compare in my eyes, the dynamic is totally different (not necessarily better) as you can choose your friends but you're stuck with your family.
I think it's great to have friends, especially those from very different walks of life as you get a real appreciation of how different people's lives are. I've seen groups of friends who are basically carbon copies of each other and I find it a bit sad but that's their choice, so...
Also, as per previous comments, making the effort is something we all need to do, even if it's just a pint or two at the pub!
Family don't really compare in my eyes, the dynamic is totally different (not necessarily better) as you can choose your friends but you're stuck with your family.
I think it's great to have friends, especially those from very different walks of life as you get a real appreciation of how different people's lives are. I've seen groups of friends who are basically carbon copies of each other and I find it a bit sad but that's their choice, so...
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I used to have a fairly sizeable group of close friends growing up but we've all moved on one way or another - actually pretty grim thinking about it aside from myself and a couple of other people who moved away for uni or to start a family most of the others ended up badly with a few dying or totally messed up by drugs, one dying in a motorcycle accident, another took his own life and two others are in prison indefinitely.
These days I have some acquaintances that I socialise with irregularly 1-2 being closer/more intimate but I don't really have like day to day relationships the way some have friends and no desire for it either.
These days I have some acquaintances that I socialise with irregularly 1-2 being closer/more intimate but I don't really have like day to day relationships the way some have friends and no desire for it either.
I can actually identify with the OP. I have friends from school in Ireland that I'd still consider friends, even though that's just a Facebook message once every six months, but in terms of people I want to hang out with locally? I have work mates, but certainly no friends. Oddly enough, my friends are people I've never met and just game with.
So why is that? Perhaps it's because most people are not my type of weird, or maybe because online friendships are easier and don't require the effort of real life friendships where you get bored or have to drive somewhere and can't just sign out. I also don't drink which makes most people's idea of a fun night pretty boring for me.
So, a symptom of technology? Or a benefit of technology where we can find friends even when we don't like the people we live near?
Good knows who I'll be inviting to my wedding lol
So why is that? Perhaps it's because most people are not my type of weird, or maybe because online friendships are easier and don't require the effort of real life friendships where you get bored or have to drive somewhere and can't just sign out. I also don't drink which makes most people's idea of a fun night pretty boring for me.
So, a symptom of technology? Or a benefit of technology where we can find friends even when we don't like the people we live near?
Good knows who I'll be inviting to my wedding lol
I doubt many blokes have day to day relationships/contact with their male friends. I guess this isn't really the thread to ask what the case is for people
That is more what I count as a proper friendship really - which I had growing up and from time to time with other people but we've drifted apart for various reasons (I'm not someone who particularly chases friendships). I've had other male friends over the year where we've communicated multiple times a week (mostly to moan about work or relationships, etc.), gone out drinking atleast once a week, attended music, airsoft, etc. events and so on but I've not really had friends like that in awhile.
Me and my friends kind of drifted away from each other as we got older and are life styles changed mainly due to getting with long relationship girlfriends and of most my friends are now married with kids
So Now I very rarely see the friends who used to be my best mates...
So Now I very rarely see the friends who used to be my best mates...
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Since high school I've had no friends, but that's the way I like it, even more so now I'm grown and got my own house "MANCAVE"
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Soldato
I can relate to this. I don't really have friends as I don't have the patience for it to be honest but when people do ask me to come out "to get wasted" I cringe and can't think of anything I'd rather do less than that. Just no enjoyment in it for me.
Precisely why my fiance is out with her visiting mum and brother while I watch Rick and morty with our daughter
