Just find a nice local boozer. Go in a few times and make some friends.
Yep, works for me when I go on pub crawls in my city.
Just find a nice local boozer. Go in a few times and make some friends.
I have, by choice about 4 friends.
MrsHB is my best friend, I have a long term friend from school who now lives in Germany but we text daily, and a couple of others at work where I've been for the last 20 years.
I'm not a social person, I have mild Aspergers but I'm cool with that. I don't like social gatherings, I prefer 121's and own company. I have about 35 people on facebook, I'd call most of them acquittances.
Happy with that.
I wouldn't classify a wife as a friend tbh.
That's your call, but I absolutely would. If I may ask, are you married?
Hahaha more of a white goods?I wouldn't classify a wife as a friend tbh.
Oooof. Arranged?Yes, I am
Hahaha more of a white goods?
Wow, sorry you got saddled with that one man, sounds like a tough life.It (the biochem) comes with my particular cluster of autism traits - there are many variants. However, I know enough from existing published med research that my days are pretty much numbered as soon as my testosterone levels (which oppose oxytocin - an endorphin) drop with age. The so-called kindly/ sentimental stage of a mans life when oxytocin 'wins'. Basically, if I make it to 60 (5 years off) I've done well.
I have been advised that without an artificial testosterone (oxytocin suppressor) booster at that point I am more than likely to die in my sleep (from lack of oxygen).
e: more to the thread point - close, 'warm' relationships - which I hear some people find in friendship are simply beyond my physical grasp.
Jeezless, this was a depressing read.
Thinking about how some on here don't have friends I'm amazed you guys haven't topped yourselves. Who do you ask for advice, etc? Lean on in times of need? Comfort when they are having issues or give them advice when they need it? It's a 2 way relationship.
The reason Male suicide is high is due to the second part of your post being the incorrect solution.Yep, no wonder male suicides are high but then again there is also is a high rate of women on antidepressants.
Funny thing is, I'm terrible at listening to people's emotional problems but they seem to like telling me anyway, so I end up just sitting there trying not to zone out whilst having nothing useful to say. People also say that I should open up more but for me there's usually no benefit to that, so I don't bother and just deal with my problems myself instead.
Like I said before I'm amazed more haven't topped themselves with that attitude.
I'm not sure about the whole friends thing, what defines a friend?
Different personalities and all that,
I know people who have loads of friends, but I just don't have the time, I find life too much hassle as it is and I need my own time.
I literally do not socialise except through going out with the wife, and my wife is my best friend.
I have known loads of people over the years and found a few on social media but don't feel inclined to go any further.
I think its questionable not to have your wife as your best friend, is she just a trophy or someone to do the washing? Seems very odd to me.
Funny thing is, I'm terrible at listening to people's emotional problems but they seem to like telling me anyway, so I end up just sitting there trying not to zone out whilst having nothing useful to say. People also say that I should open up more but for me there's usually no benefit to that, so I don't bother and just deal with my problems myself instead.