Does anyone else have no friends?
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I don't think that upsets anyone - it your supporting of the notion that ringing someone is somehow rude that is making people bemused. It's not upsetting people we just think it's downright odd.
All you're saying is that texts are less intrusive? You said calling someone was rude.
Im now getting the impression that you don't really know what you're writing. Shall we call, instead?
I had a group of mates, we grew up together 'boys to men' for 20+ years.
Life took a nose dive for me in 2000, divorce, illness etc and i moved 8 miles away.
Only seen a couple of them in passing since then.
I don't think men are particularly good at keeping in touch, certainly i'm not.
We just used to meet down the pub and discuss the world and talk rubbish, nothing was done on the phone.
I'm 49, so smart phones and social networking wasn't really popular back then.
Good memories, but things wouldn't be the same if we met up again.
Life took a nose dive for me in 2000, divorce, illness etc and i moved 8 miles away.
Only seen a couple of them in passing since then.
I don't think men are particularly good at keeping in touch, certainly i'm not.
We just used to meet down the pub and discuss the world and talk rubbish, nothing was done on the phone.
I'm 49, so smart phones and social networking wasn't really popular back then.
Good memories, but things wouldn't be the same if we met up again.
Is being intrusive not rude?
Ha ha, no, please don't. It would be annoying right now. Luckily you posted instead and I was able to answer in my own time.
I grant you you could interchange the word rude with something else if you think that's OTT, but it's rude to interrupt someone when they are talking to someone else. When you call someone, you may be doing this.
I stand by the point of why I prefer texting and to be texted.
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OMG, what if they think exactly like you and even though you sent them a text they now think you might not want to a receive a call at that time.
I know, they could text you back to see if it's OK but you don't see that text for 10 minutes and wonder if you should call them but what if they don't really now want to a receive a call 10 minutes later?
You live in a weird world, if my phone rings and I don't want to answer, I don't answer.
I meant "the main thing is to be happy, it doesn't really matter if you have lots of friends or not"
Oh right...
Well we agree then.
I do sometimes find it annoying if I text someone and they call me. There was a reason I text...
And you then have no idea if it was important or what they wanted...
Ringing someone is rude? Strange.
Banging on your door is rude, phone calls aren't. Just don't answer.
I had a new housemate whose policy is to never answer the front door, unless it was arranged and he knew who was calling round. We've all adopted this policy in the house. His reasoning was if it isn't arranged and you aren't expecting them it can only be for something irrelevant, annoying or unwanted.
Banging on your door is rude, phone calls aren't. Just don't answer.
I had a new housemate whose policy is to never answer the front door, unless it was arranged and he knew who was calling round. We've all adopted this policy in the house. His reasoning was if it isn't arranged and you aren't expecting them it can only be for something irrelevant, annoying or unwanted.
How is there that big a difference?
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Then I ring them back when it's convenient.
It's not rocket science.
How would you have survived if you had to go and stand by a telephone box at a pre-arranged time to get a call from your mate/girlfriend from another telephone box?
And if it's not then convenient for them? (Especially if it's a real emergency) So they don't answer... then you're waiting again.
I'm honestly really surprised there's so much objection to texting.
I'd have coped fine. Arrange a time to call me, I'll try and be free and ready.
And yes, I was socialising before mobiles were a thing. It's just easier (IMO) now with messaging. (Perhaps a little more on topic) my mates and I use a Whatsapp group and surely that's much easier than calling round to arrange things? If there's an easier option. Use it!
Phone call gives the opwrtunity for polite decline
All my friends know that i will never answer my phone if its ringing and ao only text.
I just dont like using the phone
You seem to lack context, Andy. Whatsapp is obviously easier for groups chats, that is common sense, but it is not an all-out replacement for calling and there are many instances where a phone call is more appropriate than a message.
I feel like I am going through a strange time in my life with friends.
In the last three years all three of what I would consider my closest friends have either got married or had a kid. I've concentrated on my career and uni work instead. I also feel like I am becoming more and more cynical about kids and marriage etc.
A lot of people whom I value spending time with are a lot older than me also as I find new people I come across around my age are mostly tools. I do think some of this is due to living in a bit of a down and out area.
In the last three years all three of what I would consider my closest friends have either got married or had a kid. I've concentrated on my career and uni work instead. I also feel like I am becoming more and more cynical about kids and marriage etc.
A lot of people whom I value spending time with are a lot older than me also as I find new people I come across around my age are mostly tools. I do think some of this is due to living in a bit of a down and out area.
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I don't really - prefer text etc. However if my nana or mum rings etc (i.e. not tech savvy) I will answer above all else - they never ring unless it's an emergency if I'm at work and I will ring them as it is easier.
I don't like it if I text someone something and they don't reply within a day as that's just rude when I know they spend their life living on their phone. I reply out of courtesy even if it's i'll ring later.
It might not be rude, that's a matter of opinion. But phones can be silenced, turned off or simply not answered. I don't have one of those signs asking for no door knockers, but lots of door knockers ignore them anyway.
It pretty much is especialy as you can leave audio messages on it.
A phone call requires me to stop everything.
Whatsapp lets me carey on with other stuff
If you do not understand the difference between a live and interactive conversation, and a series of recorded messages, then we are plumbing new depths of social incabability here.