I did the right thing, didn't I?

megzy · 18 Sep 2006 at 14:57

Yes its another one of my threads, but this time I think that anyone thats going to be nasty shouldn't bother cause I feel like **** already.

Well I found out that my (now ex) boyfriend was only using me for one thing, and when he couldn't get it he wouldn't bother seeing me. He also kept eyeing up one of his mates girlfriends, right in front of me.

So basically I told him to go **** himself and that I want all my stuff back, he still hasn't bothered giving it back.
What should I do?
Also did I do the right thing breaking up with him?

Thanks
Megz

krooton · 18 Sep 2006 at 14:58

What stuff of yours does he have?

How long have you been together?

Did you guys not connect much outside of the physcial aspect of your relationship?

Zip · 18 Sep 2006 at 14:59

Yeah you did the right thing

Guys that are only after one thing dont deserve relationships especially if they eye of other girls

Kell_ee001 · 18 Sep 2006 at 14:59

megzy said:
...only using me for one thing... He also kept eyeing up one of his mates girlfriends, right in front of me... did I do the right thing breaking up with him?

Yes - obviously.

Has he got much of your stuff? Have you got any of his?

PsiFox · 18 Sep 2006 at 14:59

You did the right thing.

Plenty more fish in the sea.

InsomniaCalls · 18 Sep 2006 at 14:59

Well if he was after one thing and you weren't going to give it to him, its fair to say you had a different approach to the relationship.
Yep - right move.

Zip · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:00

PsiFox said:
You did the right thing.

Plenty more fish in the sea.

You telling her to go after Asylum Seekers? :confused:

megzy · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:01

krooton said:
What stuff of yours does he have?

How long have you been together?

Did you guys not connect much outside of the physcial aspect of your relationship?

He has a pair of my shoes, a pair of jeans and a load of hair stuff.

We were only together for 2 months.

We did kind of connect but not very well, he kind of looked down his nose at me.

krooton · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:03

megzy said:
He has a pair of my shoes, a pair of jeans and a load of hair stuff.

We were only together for 2 months.

We did kind of connect but not very well, he kind of looked down his nose at me.

Better off without him, life's too short to be wasting time with people like him.

Do you have any mutual friends you can use to get your stuff back?

rare · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:04

2 months? :/ How old is he. Just ask him for you stuff back and move on.

megzy · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:06

rare said:
2 months? :/ How old is he. Just ask him for you stuff back and move on.

He is 19, I've asked him for my stuff back but he just won't give it back. We only ever hung round with his mates, so no we don't have any mutual mates.

singist · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:09

Write off the "stuff" and get on with YOUR life.

If you worry about the "stuff" it will give you all sorts of excuses to get in touch/have a go etc .............. let it go and move on.

Surely you have learnt by now that ALL men are after one thing? ..... it's just that some have "it" as the highest priority and for others "it" is farther down the list of things.

You are a good looking girl; you'll have lots of chances to find someone who's more suited to what you want/need; in the meantime, go out and enjoy your life WITHOUT men.

Yeah, you seem to have done the right thing.

megzy · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:11

singist said:
Write off the "stuff" and get on with YOUR life.

If you worry about the "stuff" it will give you all sorts of excuses to get in touch/have a go etc .............. let it go and move on.

Surely you have learnt by now that ALL men are after one thing? ..... it's just that some have "it" as the highest priority and for others "it" is farther down the list of things.

You are a good looking girl; you'll have lots of chances to find someone who's more suited to what you want/need; in the meantime, go out and enjoy your life WITHOUT men.

Yeah, you seem to have done the right thing.

I want my shoes back! They are my favourite pair!
No I'm not going lesbian

Thanks this has really settled my mind and cheered me up

B@Th*nG · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:11

get yer dad/mum to turn up at his house, i assume he still lives at home? he'll give it back pretty sharpish then i'd imagine. If he still doesn't then call the police.

B@Th*nG

megzy · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:13

The police?
My parents don't want to get involved. I'll just get my mate James to turn up at his door

6ft, and the same wide, farmer guy should be able to get my stuff back

M0T · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:13

You have done the right thing if he was just using you as a piece of meat.

Anyway, if you want your stuff back go round when you know he won't be there. If he lives with his parents then explain why you are there and ask them if they will fetch you your things. If he lives with mates take a few beers round and swap for stuff. Jobs a goodun.

megzy · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:16

M0T said:
You have done the right thing if he was just using you as a piece of meat.

Anyway, if you want your stuff back go round when you know he won't be there. If he lives with his parents then explain why you are there and ask them if they will fetch you your things. If he lives with mates take a few beers round and swap for stuff. Jobs a goodun.

Its not actually in his house, all my stuff is in his car. I was gonna take it all home one weekend but forgot to and left it in his car :mad:

panthro · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:17

Why dont you get El Razur on the case? He isnt doing a v good job of protecting you!

CChrisca · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:17

You really need someone to tell you that you did the right thing when you dropped him because he was just using you for sex????? :rolleyes:

Admiral Huddy · 18 Sep 2006 at 15:19

Tell his mates that his been wearing your best shoes and clothes. Since he won't give them back this must be true.

or tell him if he doesn't give them back, you'll tell them he wears your shoes and undies ..

Failing that, I'll go round there !!